In order to minimize our deaths impact and be less unburdened to make the decision I think we should strive to cut our ties to other people as much as possible in advance. How is the best way to go about it? I have ghosted friends in the past, hoping they will just be pissed at me and decide to banish me from their thoughts (ideally, they shouldn't find out about my suicide). But is this really the best way?
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hallowed_
local stupid
- Jun 7, 2023
- 17
Honestly I would cut ties with those you don't want to hurt/ know are sensitive to this stuff. I have a friend who is really dear to me but she's going through her own stuff and I feel like subjecting her to something like finding out their friend CTB would completely break her alr weak mental state, so to prevent this I completely cut ties with her. You don't have to cut ties with everyone tho, you just think abt what you want for them after you die and what's best for them and for you. It's really up to you since suicide requires a lot of responsibility including what you want the aftermath of it to be.
dimstar
Poor little woodpecker
- Mar 17, 2023
- 320
This is a struggle for me too, I want to take my pain with me not splash it on other people. I've disconnect with alot of people but theres still some I enjoy and want to spend time with as well as family that makes it hard. I guess it's either try and make good memories or burn bridges. It's a personal and individual choice but theres no way to make it completely painless for others unfortunately. To be at your edge takes alot of pain and suffering, you still caring about what others will feel shows how kind you are. Wish the world was filled with more compassionate people like you.
I am not compassionate. None of my feelings have ever felt real, except suffering. I was never allowed to feel any warmth of my own. I'm just a ghost and when I sink into the ocean it will be like a dream.
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dimstar
Poor little woodpecker
- Mar 17, 2023
- 320
Well you were asking about minimizing the impact of our death. You wouldn't ask that if you didn't feel for others, wouldnt even be a concern. Or at least like you dont want your feeling of suffering to spread. Dont be to hard on yourself the worlds already done that enough I'm sure.
clavicals
тоска
- Jun 4, 2023
- 37
I've been considering this and this was my conclusion:
If I ghost them or distance myself they will forever blame themselves because they "should have seen it coming" they "should have done something" "while they still could" and bro they will carry that forever.
While if you keep going as you are and it comes out of nowhere, yeah it will be a fucking shock to them but at least everyone will be in the same boat like "fuck we just didn't see it coming" "yeah there were no warning signs I should have seen but they just seemed so happy/fine/ok" etc
Idk what your situation is but I hope it helps a little. There's no easy way to leave people ever.
If I ghost them or distance myself they will forever blame themselves because they "should have seen it coming" they "should have done something" "while they still could" and bro they will carry that forever.
While if you keep going as you are and it comes out of nowhere, yeah it will be a fucking shock to them but at least everyone will be in the same boat like "fuck we just didn't see it coming" "yeah there were no warning signs I should have seen but they just seemed so happy/fine/ok" etc
Idk what your situation is but I hope it helps a little. There's no easy way to leave people ever.
