How many relationships have you had?

[PugnaEnjoyer2137]

Spending time on SaSu itself, and checking out what people have to say about the forum around the Web, I was shocked to hear that people describe here as part of incel Internet, and while, people who are lonely and have not had any intimate contacts are for sure here, looking at usual posters here I don't think it's the case.
Therefor I'd like to ask, how many relationships have you had? Does/did your relationship influence you to come here?

 

[FoxSauce]

None atm

 

[Mgelanie]

Spending time on SaSu itself, and checking out what people have to say about the forum around the Web, I was shocked to hear that people describe here as part of incel Internet, and while, people who are lonely and have not had any intimate contacts are for sure here, looking at usual posters here I don't think it's the case.
Therefor I'd like to ask, how many relationships have you had? Does/did your relationship influence you to come here?

Never had one hopefully it stays that way

 

[darksouls]

my ex-boyfriends treated me like garbage,
yes, that influenced me to be here,
they are partly responsible for why I am too broken for relationships

 

[Busridin'26]

Too many & most not great either...& unfortunately def an influence but I try not to think about it too much. Have many other reasons to focus on so

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

I had to count but it's nine proper ones, spanning 25 to 30 years. I would like one more, just to make it to ten. DMs open.

 

[PugnaEnjoyer2137]

I had to count but it's nine proper ones, spanning 25 to 30 years. I would like one more, just to make it to ten. DMs open.

This is the pro-active approach people need to get better

 

[Set Real Goul]

Random rant
There wasn't one, but anyway, I really don't like how the term incel has been expanding on the internet. You get takes like, "Well, if someone wants sex and a relationship but doesn't have either, then they're technically an incel." We don't call people punks just because they like punk music. That's simply wrong.

That subculture is far too toxic to casually lump random people into it by using that label.

 

[PugnaEnjoyer2137]

Random rant
There wasn't one, but anyway, I really don't like how the term incel has been expanding on the internet. You get takes like, "Well, if someone wants sex and a relationship but doesn't have either, then they're technically an incel." We don't call people punks just because they like punk music. That's simply wrong.

That subculture is far too toxic to casually lump random people into it by using that label.

I absolutely agree.
I think in general, the orgin of "incel" had nothing to do with misogyny. I think it's one of the most overblown terms on nowadays internet.
I guess it's also expanding due to how social media changed how relationships work in modern times in general. I think there's much more lonely people now, than in the past, and with how present sex is in modern popculture, and how easy it is to access pornography much more people are being affected by loneliness.

 

[miles-away]

Spending time on SaSu itself, and checking out what people have to say about the forum around the Web, I was shocked to hear that people describe here as part of incel Internet, and while, people who are lonely and have not had any intimate contacts are for sure here, looking at usual posters here I don't think it's the case.
Therefor I'd like to ask, how many relationships have you had? Does/did your relationship influence you to come here?

The fact that SaSu has an "incel" stereotype is kind of rich because this place feels like the one depression/suicide board with so many diverse factors and lives. Maybe it's my own bubble but I don't even really see people talk about relationships all that much. Reddit feels more incel-esque. It's one of the many reasons I prefer Sasu over reddit; I don't have to read the billionth post about how all their issues would be solved if they just had a girlfriend.

 

[softfur]

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[passthisnote]

ima die alone

 

[_Gollum_]

I put zero but at 25 I am in my first "situationship," make of that what you will

 

[Insufficent]

Two if not counting the 2 moths long "text messaging-ship" in the 6th grade. First was one summer, another was 7 years with 4 years in marriage.
Deleted dating apps last week. Swiped three of those for 3 years and got one date. There must be something wrong with me.

 

[PugnaEnjoyer2137]

Two if not counting the 2 moths long "text messaging-ship" in the 6th grade. First was one summer, another was 7 years with 4 years in marriage.
Deleted dating apps last week. Swiped three of those for 3 years and got one date. There must be something wrong with me.

Dating apps do not reflect you or your worth. They were made purely for profit, not to actually connect people or get them together

 

[Spite]

I've had 3 relationships. Currently in my 3rd one and married, so I have two evil exes (that's a Scott Pilgrim joke, if you know what I'm talking about lol).

My two past relationships haven't really affected my decision to be on this site. Both were short lived (only lasted a few months) and were very surface level. Never had sex in either of my past relationships, and didn't do much besides go on a couple of dates to watch a movie or eat at a restaurant or something like that. I ended up dumping both of them because I quickly realised we were incompatible with each other and the relationship was never going to work long-term.

Honestly they weren't very nice in general. In both relationships I felt unloved and excluded, and oftentimes they were rude to me.

 

[PeaceSeeker83]

Zero. 43 male here. Never seen the point. Can end up becoming a trap/scam very easily; ie marriage. Then kids can be brought into this horrid world if not careful. I don't feel grateful for being in this world but at least I don't do what most "normal" people do.

 

[Tobacco]

I've been in two bad gay relationships, even if I lean more towards gynephilia within bisexuality.

In the first one, there was a cult leader who pulled the right strings and convinced me to be in a supposed romantic relationship with him. It was all because I didn't know how to say no, and once I was trapped, he told me he would stop teaching me religious this if we had broken up.

Then, two years later after that, I met this guy on discord and I was very interested in him this time. After we formalized our relationship, we only lasted 10 days, after he forgot to text me for three days. What an idiot.

 

[seeyoulater26]

Two long-term relationships and one short-term. And yeah, ig they're also why I'm here, esp the last one. I feel like those relationships heavily affected my outlook on love and for the worse. I'm also very voluntarily celibate because of those experiences haha I just can't feel safe with anyone anymore.

But the good parts I carry in my heart forever. It was good while it lasted. ᵇᵘᵗ ˢᵗᶦˡˡ, ᶠᵘᶜᵏ ᵗʰᵒˢᵉ ᵐᵒᵗʰᵉʳᶠᵘᶜᵏᵉʳˢ ˡᵒˡ

 

[Lamentice]

I had a girlfriend for a year online as a 14-year-old, not sure if that's legit given I was pretending to be a boy lol.

In adulthood I've had 2 girlfriends, one off-and-on dating for 6 months where she ended up blocking me without saying anything. Another I broke up with after 6 months cause she was an alcoholic with profound disinterest in me as a human being, just wanted sexual possession or a rebound from her recently ended 3-year-relationship that seemed pretty sour and hostile.

I don't date anymore.

 

[dragonofenvy]

None. The loneliness is crippling. Never having been chosen has left a huge void in my heart. I'm not someone who you'd want to be in a relationship with though. I've tried in the past and it's always been the same result and if that many people say no then it must be you. I just don't know what to do to improve.

 

[Minfilia]

two and both ended up badly on the basis of me being transgender
i like your hdb pfp :)

 

[Canto XIII]

Zero, I'm here to reinforce the stereotype.

 

[vitbar]

The fact that SaSu has an "incel" stereotype is kind of rich because this place feels like the one depression/suicide board with so many diverse factors and lives. Maybe it's my own bubble but I don't even really see people talk about relationships all that much. Reddit feels more incel-esque. It's one of the many reasons I prefer Sasu over reddit; I don't have to read the billionth post about how all their issues would be solved if they just had a girlfriend.

It's because the creators are incels, and also created incel boards.

 

[Canto XIII]

It's because the creators are incels, and also created incel boards.

I've read about this. Do you think the site has shifted its population basin over time?

 

[JustADeerGirl]

2, but forming relationships and bonds is difficult for me so those were the only ones i ever pursued