Discussion How many of you feel lonely?

[beseechgod]

Yeah, going from from living with my wife and kids to being alone has been devastating. My friendships fell apart too. It's not a life worth living anymore.

Reminds me of my dad... same thing happened with our family. Just know your children still love you dearly no matter what happened. You'll always be their parent.

 

[failureofahuman]

I feel very disconnected from the people around me and I always feel like no one cares about me. Especially around people my age, I always feel alone.

 

[foreverlanguish]

Despite having family I always feel alone.

 

[pulse1]

Loneliness is the thing I keep coming back to every time. No matter how hard I work, no matter how much I try to do this and that, therapy, trying to make friends, trying to have a relationship, trying to fix my family, it always leads back to the same place.

From when I was young I was destined to it, and I just keep living through it.

 

[red24]

Everybody's a nun.

 

[LivingDeadTGirl]

And if you go... I want to go with you.
And if you die... I want to die with you.
Take your hand and walk away.

I constantly feel the crushing pain of loneliness.

 

[Adûnâi]

Everything is indeed a cope, so everything feels pointless. The entire thing about social / romantic connections is that they might force you to forget about the pointlessness of life. That's my virgin fantasy anyway, never tried to make sure it works like that.

 

[ecstasy]

i have my bf but i can never seem to keep friends. i feel lonely quite a lot, i care for people without receiving the same

 

[itbelikethat]

That's an intresting way to look at loneliness as a whole.

I've been on both sides of the fence, alone but comfy, and surrounded by folks but lonely. I can't do neither of them anymore, ive got so much negative stuff inside of me that I can't be my genuine self without causing issues. Yet I yearn for a genuine connection with someone. Someone I can share both parts good and bad with, without fear of being seen as pathetic or hateful.

And I know that won't happen, for im either fake and pleasant, or genuine and poisonous.
That's an intresting way to look at loneliness as a whole.

I've been on both sides of the fence, alone but comfy, and surrounded by folks but lonely. I can't do neither of them anymore, ive got so much negative stuff inside of me that I can't be my genuine self without causing issues. Yet I yearn for a genuine connection with someone. Someone I can share both parts good and bad with, without fear od being seen as pathetic or hateful.

And I know that won't happen, for im either fake and pleasant, or genuine and poisonous.

 

[GlassMoon]

I feel somewhat lonely since the Corona peak, because I lost contact with most friends. Whenever I call them, they sound happy to hear from me or claim to have been wanting to call me for some time. But they don't call or text me on their own. Except those with whom I exchange jokes or articles on certain topics.

I think since about a year I've been trying to find someone to make a genuine, deep connection with. Whenever a new person came into a therapy group, I hoped it would be possible for me to achieve that. I have not meet new people outside of therapy for some time. No luck so far. I always feel like I'm pushing myself onto them and that makes me feel hesitant to push for a deeper connection.

 

[Raichu]

I read so many of your replies. And it is indeed so appalling that so many of us feel lonely despite there being 8 billion people on this godforsaken planet. Sometimes I think that clinging on to some belief, faith or an ideal, would add purpose to my/our otherwise meaningless existence. But in the end I realise (idk about y'all) that God is nowhere to be found, ideals betray you and with each passing day, we become more isolated. But then again, I am blessed to be born into a middle class family. I don't have to battle poverty on a daily basis, and so dying feels like a wastage. Idk what I'm talking anymore....

 

[BeyondOver]

Everyday

 

[rs929]

Yes, completely. BUT I don't care as much when my depression responds to treatment (not right now, clearly)

 

[Danny94]

I dont feel lonely, I am lonely