How lonely are you?

[DesolateSouls]

Personally I am extremely lonely. 27 and no partner or close friends. I want to recover so bad but being alone just makes everything feel so pointless. And its a self feeding cycle since being a lonely depressed loser is not attractive to a potential partner and/or friends. What's really sad is that I am in college and around so many people everyday; taunted by the reality that all of these people have intimacy in their lives while I am completely and utterly alone. It really, really hurts

 

[lemonbunny]

college can be very isolating. i am dreading going back this year, and i feel your pain . sending love and wishing you all the best.

 

[anhedonicNfoggy]

I don't know how much but yea sometimes I wanna talk to someone. But I know I don't trust anyone enough to be comfortable and no one really cares what I have to say

 

[DeathSleep]

I feel very alone. I've pushed others away. I can't talk about my suicidal thoughts to anyone. It makes me sad. I don't think I'll ever not be alone. It hurts.

 

[EternalShore]

yeahhh, I hate that so much! :((( When you're all alone, your hope of reintegration into society is near non-existent! >_< And it only gets slimmer as time goes on, and your ability to socialize and interests diverge from the rest of society too! :(
and ofc, being in college, all the people there just make you want to- >:(

 

[dumblosergirl]

I'm so super lonely. I have a hard time keeping friends and keep a lot in. If anyone wants to talk my PM's are open. Maybe we can feel a little less lonely.

 

[Touhou]

Not lonely at all, if you include my Touhou fumos. Excluding them, very.

 

[sserafim]

I guess I would be considered "lonely" but honestly I prefer being this way. I like being by myself and I'm aroace so I've never wanted to have a partner or have romance be a part of my life. I've never had a boyfriend, and I never felt like I was missing anything just because I didn't have one.

On the topic of friends, I've pushed my friends away but I still don't feel "lonely". In fact, I like being alone and being by myself in this world. I don't want or need friends or other people. As long as I have my dog, who cares? I'm always online though, I think I use the internet to satisfy my need for human connection and social interaction….I wish I didn't have this need though, and I wish people were solitary instead of social beings

 

[iwanttoleave2000]

words cant describe it so I won't bother trying

 

[dead-yaga]

so lonely. i feel like i lost half my body and its all just a phantom limb. im not good on my own and they said theyd always be there for me. but theyre dead now. and i have no one. i passed out for 5 hours while walking to the bathroom and hit my head and no one found me or noticed at all. i dont have any friends. if i died the only people who would notice would be my parents, but they have cancer and stuff so they wont be around long either anyway, plus theyre abusive assholes who only wanted kids so they could get the "parent" achievement badge and have something with skills they could show off, like my sister the popular musician athlete star, vs me, the mentally ill disabled zoo animal.

 

[turntechGodhead]

despite me hving ppl i could talk to like my friends or my gf they rarely wish to speak to me at all so most of the time i spend time alone in my own room n not rlly do anything so i'd consider myself lonely

 

[TheRedHare]

I'm feeling very lonely. I started a full time job (which is a milestone for me) but, the way it works out I'm basically contracted to be there so I'm clearly an outsider. This would usually be fine because I used to spend most of my free time with friends playing games on discord, but now people aren't around as much and sometimes I don't talk to any friends for weeks at a time. I don't know how to make new friends, and I've always wanted to be in a romantic relationship but it never worked out for me and I don't even know where to start. It's getting to the point where I'm starting to become detached in work because I feel so lonely. I know you don't like it but I miss the atmosphere in college, you can just walk up to anyone and try to be friendly and it's fairly normal, it was the place where I could talk to the largest diversity of people.

I was going to rant more but I suppose there's no point. Basically I feel lonely even though I did all the things I was supposed to. I still hope for a better day, you all should too. And remember that fortune favors the bold (go up and talk to that person you think seems cool).

 

[Alisalyx]

Personally I am extremely lonely. 27 and no partner or close friends. I want to recover so bad but being alone just makes everything feel so pointless. And its a self feeding cycle since being a lonely depressed loser is not attractive to a potential partner and/or friends. What's really sad is that I am in college and around so many people everyday; taunted by the reality that all of these people have intimacy in their lives while I am completely and utterly alone. It really, really hurts

I've lost the person I care most about, they see me as nothing but an inconvenience... every day I wish they will come back and that's what's holding me, but I know they will not and I just want to be able to ctb

 

[pole]

alone to the point where the person who i have hated the most is now my only "friend" that i speak to.

never thought I'd be that person whos comfortable with conversating with themselves. but, i am all that i have.

helps sometimes to be your own friend, even if it's an extremely toxic and hateful relationship.

 

[nanaka]

31, almost 32 and really lonely.

I have exactly 3 friends, but since we graduated from college and they moved away, we only catch each other on discord every once in a while. And when we do, we only talk about tv shows or games.
I have not had any internet friends for a while now.
I have 0 friend I can confide to about anything remotely related to my feelings.

I feel pretty much like OP, except that it's not college but work instead, so it's even harder (if not impossible) for me to try to build new relationships in that environment.
Entering the 30s makes it even worse too, because people now consider you too old to try to know you; they feel a gap between their age and yours (even though in my mind I still feel like I'm 25).

 

[rabbitmalice56]

ive only recently turned 22 and i do have friends and close friend that i can hang out and play games with but mentally i am alone with my thoughts that is always overwhelming me every day. thought that maybe i would have hope for the future if theres a significant other in my life but i fucked up every single damn time even before making it into a relationship. the last one i fucked up so bad i should be punished for it, tried attempting but my SI kicked in. i probably would never find someone.
ive never really been active socially even on the internet but at this point im trying to just put myself out there anywhere, but i suck at that too.

I'm always online though, I think I use the internet to satisfy my need for human connection and social interaction….I wish I didn't have this need though, and I wish people were solitary instead of social beings

i think i also use the internet to satisfy that need too, but what i thought is an interaction is probably more like a parasocial interaction lol.

 

[Cloud Busting]

As lonely as mitski in nobody.

I am 29 and single. I'm worried it's too late to find someone. It hurts.

 

[OhWellDerp321]

Personally I am extremely lonely. 27 and no partner or close friends. I want to recover so bad but being alone just makes everything feel so pointless. And its a self feeding cycle since being a lonely depressed loser is not attractive to a potential partner and/or friends. What's really sad is that I am in college and around so many people everyday; taunted by the reality that all of these people have intimacy in their lives while I am completely and utterly alone. It really, really hurts

27 Is really tough. Its that age where you know you are about to get old. What friends tell you doesn't really help either. All those "it's never too late to start" bs doesn't really help. Most people younger than 27 already have intimacy and sometimes a stable income. I have neither. And forget about friends man. What topics will you have in common to talk about?
Relationships? Nope, they are already in one, probably a serious one, and you can't relate.
Career? They have a stable income and can buy things, own an apartment unit. Won't have anything there to relate if you aren't living on your own.

Wish I had something more positive to say. But realistically, there comes a certain age where things are too late.

 

[Serial Experi Pain]

I'm a shut-in. An agoraphobe. A very extreme case of it. I have online friends, but I rarely feel understood. I'm 36, though most people would never guess in a million years and it's about the only compliment that I do get. I could likely have a relationship, but I don't feel like I would be a good enough partner for anyone. I'm physically ill, mentally ill... I feel like I would just be a burden on anyone. I often push everyone away even if I regret it. I think I'm pretty doomed in this aspect.

 

[DesolateSouls]

college can be very isolating. i am dreading going back this year, and i feel your pain . sending love and wishing you all the best.

It's kind of strange isn't it, being around all of these people but not being able to connect with any of them. Being (likely) autistic doesn't help on top of being non traditional :(

 

[DesolateSouls]

I'm feeling very lonely. I started a full time job (which is a milestone for me) but, the way it works out I'm basically contracted to be there so I'm clearly an outsider. This would usually be fine because I used to spend most of my free time with friends playing games on discord, but now people aren't around as much and sometimes I don't talk to any friends for weeks at a time. I don't know how to make new friends, and I've always wanted to be in a romantic relationship but it never worked out for me and I don't even know where to start. It's getting to the point where I'm starting to become detached in work because I feel so lonely. I know you don't like it but I miss the atmosphere in college, you can just walk up to anyone and try to be friendly and it's fairly normal, it was the place where I could talk to the largest diversity of people.

I was going to rant more but I suppose there's no point. Basically I feel lonely even though I did all the things I was supposed to. I still hope for a better day, you all should too. And remember that fortune favors the bold (go up and talk to that person you think seems cool).

I like being in college. I just have a really hard time connecting with people. It always feels like there is an invisible wall between me and others. I try to be friendly and make friends but there's too much of a disconnect to build deep relationships. I feel like an alien, I really do.

27 Is really tough. Its that age where you know you are about to get old. What friends tell you doesn't really help either. All those "it's never too late to start" bs doesn't really help. Most people younger than 27 already have intimacy and sometimes a stable income. I have neither. And forget about friends man. What topics will you have in common to talk about?
Relationships? Nope, they are already in one, probably a serious one, and you can't relate.
Career? They have a stable income and can buy things, own an apartment unit. Won't have anything there to relate if you aren't living on your own.

Wish I had something more positive to say. But realistically, there comes a certain age where things are too late.

Yeah, it's a really depressing age. My plan was to CTB at this age if my life was still f'ed up. It is still fucced up and even if I finally get a BS degree, all the money in the world means nothing if I'm alone. And most people have degrees at 21-23 and are truly living at my age. I really want to just be dead but I'm clinging on to the small amount of hope that I still have.

 

[ifeelsobad]

This is the only thing in the whole world that makes Me want to die. At all. Everything else I feel I can work on or get better even ptsd I feel can get better even really bad things. But if I am all alone I just want to die because I hate it

 

[snowcloud9]

I'm not sure. I'm surrounded by friends, some are long time friends or friends I see every day. People like me. But I only want to communicate with one person, and that's my ex. I'm introverted by nature. I don't know if I'm capable of feeling loneliness, sometimes I will ghost people for weeks to be alone.

 

[リンさん]

I push people away because of my insecurities. Worst part is me understanding it, yet being unable to do anything about it, despite thorough introspection and self awareness. Even people I loved most were subjected to hatred in my head. I don't want it. I'm tired of these negative emotions. I'm tired of intrusive thoughts. I'm tired of not being able to hold relationships.

I wish I could be normal.

Yeah, I'm pretty lonely, but it's better this way. Nothing hurts me, and I can't hurt anyone.

 

[Boudika]

Do you know what's ironic? I have friends, a family that cares about me and a person who loves me romantically. And yet I feel lonely, and my mind can't let go of the idea that anyone is capable of loving me. I can't trust anyone and I close myself up inside myself, believing that everyone secretly hates me.

 

[lemonbunny]

It's kind of strange isn't it, being around all of these people but not being able to connect with any of them. Being (likely) autistic doesn't help on top of being non traditional :(

yeah. they tell us we'll "find our people" in college but that hasn't happened to me. feels like i'm missing a social organ or something

 

[Andro_USYD]

I honestly never feel lonely for some reason. It strains from the fact I'm a severe introvert and am also asexual as in no interest in the opposite (or same) sex and socialising isn't as much of a priority to me. I've gone the past 5-6 years after highschool keeping only an online appearance and never really engaging with people socially but for me I just don't need other people and can go days/weeks without any social activities.

However uni keeps me active which I must recommend to everyone. Lifelong friendships

 

[Celerity]

If I weren't forced to live with family due to financial constraints, I would have blown my brains out long ago.

After a falling out with my last friend, only acquaintances remain. My time with them is intermittent and fleeting. I ask myself why many of them are so flaky and inconsiderate, and then I remember all the times I behaved similarly.

We are never as good to each other as we imagine we are, and we can never know or accept someone as well as we would like to be known and accepted.

31, almost 32 and really lonely.

I have exactly 3 friends, but since we graduated from college and they moved away, we only catch each other on discord every once in a while. And when we do, we only talk about tv shows or games.
I have not had any internet friends for a while now.
I have 0 friend I can confide to about anything remotely related to my feelings.

I feel pretty much like OP, except that it's not college but work instead, so it's even harder (if not impossible) for me to try to build new relationships in that environment.
Entering the 30s makes it even worse too, because people now consider you too old to try to know you; they feel a gap between their age and yours (even though in my mind I still feel like I'm 25).

I am 30 and know just what you're talking about. No one wants to do anything. They're perfectly content with just going to work, eating dinner at home, watching a dumbass TV show they have already seen, sleeping, going to work, rinse, repeat. Seeing what bland lives satisfy others makes me wonder if I am actually depressed or just more aware of the ways life really drags.

 

[OhWellDerp321]

I like being in college. I just have a really hard time connecting with people. It always feels like there is an invisible wall between me and others. I try to be friendly and make friends but there's too much of a disconnect to build deep relationships. I feel like an alien, I really do.

Yeah, it's a really depressing age. My plan was to CTB at this age if my life was still f'ed up. It is still fucced up and even if I finally get a BS degree, all the money in the world means nothing if I'm alone. And most people have degrees at 21-23 and are truly living at my age. I really want to just be dead but I'm clinging on to the small amount of hope that I still have.

Hey. At least you are facing reality and thats a good thing. Rather than denying and saying "age doesn't matter", at least you are facing it head on. And thats a good thing,

 

[aiki__0]

I've pushed everyone close to me away to avoid people getting attached to me as I will CBT eventually
I don't see the point in making long term friends or loved ones as I'll just hurt them