Discussion How is your relationship with your parents? Especially your mom

[valar_morghulis21]

Mine with mom is complicated. She's the biggest source of my trauma and cptsd growing up. But for the last 2 years she has changed alot and she started to seeing me for who I am. I'm very glad we get to reconcile while both of us are still alive and healthy, but gosh we wasted so many days, and I'm talking about 20 something years of me being abused by her and my dad. I forgive both of them, but the damages can't be undo.

I know it's better late than never, but I kept wondering if I'd be capable of happy had she realized sooner and not abused me? I know she's gonna blame herself if I ctb so I'm waiting for her to pass first. She does worried about my mental state and tries her best to keep me alive, such as financially support me and not put any pressure on my life. My dad is insignificant, he's just physically there and nothing more.

I'm curious how is your relationship with your parents?

 

[hazelmoon]

Dad is dead, mom is pretty much nonexistent in my life. She knows nothing at all about me or my life

 

[x9x99988]

Mine with mom is complicated. She's the biggest source of my trauma and cptsd growing up. But for the last 2 years she has changed alot and she started to seeing me for who I am. I'm very glad we get to reconcile while both of us are still alive and healthy, but gosh we wasted so many days, and I'm talking about 20 something years of me being abused by her and my dad. I forgive both of them, but the damages can't be undo.

I know it's better late than never, but I kept wondering if I'd be capable of happy had she realized sooner and not abused me? I know she's gonna blame herself if I ctb so I'm waiting for her to pass first. She does worried about my mental state and tries her best to keep me alive, such as financially support me and not put any pressure on my life. My dad is insignificant, he's just physically there and nothing more.

I'm curious how is your relationship with your parents?

Ngl I distanced myself from my mom purely because social communication is difficult and tiresome for me in general. I love her so much but like I really can't help but want to be on my own

 

[TwistedNightmares]

The relationship with my mom is still very complicated. We have some good days together, but a lot of bad ones. The bad ones definitely outweigh the good days. Pretty sure she just sees me as her property most of the time.
The relationship with my dad may as well be nonexistent since the only communication we have is through email. We never actually physically see each other or anything like that.

 

[Pvnie]

Said she didn't like me but she loved me. I have lots of ambivalence towards her though. She's usually an object who gets in the way of silly material things we all need and has hindered my life!

 

[sadbh—itstimetogo🤎]

she infuriates me and there's nothing I can do about it besides have lower expectations and create distance.

 

[unluckysadness]

Very complicated. She overprotected me when I was a child and still acts like if I was a child (I'm in my mid 40s and it's humiliating). But she's the only person who asks me how I'm going. And probably because I live alone, isolated with no friends, and if I die in my apartment, my corpse could stay for days. So I guess she's watching if I'm still alive.

 

[bloodonmyhands4ever]

Dead, Ever since ive had (imo) complications with step-mothers of any kind
Dad is ok though