How do you guys get out of bed?

[salamid]

I want to feel better. I know I aways feel much better once I get out of bed. I always feel so terrible after rotting in bed all day, my muscles trembling probably because they want to be used. I used to go to the gym 5-6 times a week long ago and now I'm pathetic and weak. Any day where I don't absolutely have to be somewhere, so on weekends and on holidays, I always stay in bed 2-6 hours after waking up, rotting away on my phone. Sometimes my battery runs out. I've lied in bed before for hours without being on my phone, so it's not a phone addiction. It's just something to do while I'm lying here anyway. Even as I'm typing this I'm in bed. I brushed my teeth right after I woke up but then went back into my bed. I don't even know why I can't do it.

Once I get out of bed I always try to stay up late to avoid having to wake up again and rotting in bed. I think a big part of it is that I'm lazy to go take a shower. But I would feel way too disgusting to get out of bed without doing so, I could never do that. I can't even go a single day without showering, I feel disgusting even after sleeping just one night, probably because I barely ever change my bed sheets out of laziness.

Maybe that's not even the reason though. I really don't even know. If anyone else reading this ever struggled with getting out of bed, did you ever find anything that helped you?

 

[Anonymousa]

I have a self care app called Finch where I set some tasks on it. One of them is to get out of bed and I found it easier to get out by having me say I complete the task before getting out of bed making have more motivation to get out else I would be lying to the app. This is what has helped me

 

[salamid]

I have a self care app called Finch where I set some tasks on it. One of them is to get out of bed and I found it easier to get out by having me say I complete the task before getting out of bed making have more motivation to get out else I would be lying to the app. This is what has helped me

thanks for the answer, I might try that.

 

[Sheepskin]

I want to feel better. I know I aways feel much better once I get out of bed. I always feel so terrible after rotting in bed all day, my muscles trembling probably because they want to be used. I used to go to the gym 5-6 times a week long ago and now I'm pathetic and weak. Any day where I don't absolutely have to be somewhere, so on weekends and on holidays, I always stay in bed 2-6 hours after waking up, rotting away on my phone. Sometimes my battery runs out. I've lied in bed before for hours without being on my phone, so it's not a phone addiction. It's just something to do while I'm lying here anyway. Even as I'm typing this I'm in bed. I brushed my teeth right after I woke up but then went back into my bed. I don't even know why I can't do it.

Once I get out of bed I always try to stay up late to avoid having to wake up again and rotting in bed. I think a big part of it is that I'm lazy to go take a shower. But I would feel way too disgusting to get out of bed without doing so, I could never do that. I can't even go a single day without showering, I feel disgusting even after sleeping just one night, probably because I barely ever change my bed sheets out of laziness.

Maybe that's not even the reason though. I really don't even know. If anyone else reading this ever struggled with getting out of bed, did you ever find anything that helped you?

For me just the realization that I'll feel even worse if I don't get out of bed and do anything the given day is enough to give me enough energy to get up. I don't even do anything ambitious and mostly spend time on the internet, but I still fell less garbage than after spending an entire day bedridden. This probably isn't a great tip and might stop working for me soon, but I do hope you find a reason to start getting out of bed consistently

 

[itsgone2]

I want to feel better. I know I aways feel much better once I get out of bed. I always feel so terrible after rotting in bed all day, my muscles trembling probably because they want to be used. I used to go to the gym 5-6 times a week long ago and now I'm pathetic and weak. Any day where I don't absolutely have to be somewhere, so on weekends and on holidays, I always stay in bed 2-6 hours after waking up, rotting away on my phone. Sometimes my battery runs out. I've lied in bed before for hours without being on my phone, so it's not a phone addiction. It's just something to do while I'm lying here anyway. Even as I'm typing this I'm in bed. I brushed my teeth right after I woke up but then went back into my bed. I don't even know why I can't do it.

Once I get out of bed I always try to stay up late to avoid having to wake up again and rotting in bed. I think a big part of it is that I'm lazy to go take a shower. But I would feel way too disgusting to get out of bed without doing so, I could never do that. I can't even go a single day without showering, I feel disgusting even after sleeping just one night, probably because I barely ever change my bed sheets out of laziness.

Maybe that's not even the reason though. I really don't even know. If anyone else reading this ever struggled with getting out of bed, did you ever find anything that helped you?

I'm doing the same. It's awful. Today has been the worst. 2 pm and I'm finally up. Body feels almost in shock or something. Yesterday was bad too.

 

[orpheus_]

I used to have the same problem and still do some days. This shit sucks. You have some motivation to get anything done, return to normal life but it's just like some fucking magnet holding you in. I mean at least that's how I experienced that. Waking up, not being able to get up until like, 8 pm. Entire day feels off. Also I had something similar like you with showering, but for me it was brushing my teeth, I would feel disgusting if I didn't do that but I had no energy to do so, so I just never 'began' my day.

I'm gonna be honest, what helped me the most with that were antidepressants, plain chance that I got ones that work for me.

BUT still some tips I have figured out in the meantime (and still need to use sometimes):

- I kept a water bottle by my bed and drank A LOT of water so eventually I would have to go to the bathroom and I would HAVE to get up. May sound stupid but works for forcing my self to get up if I'm in a completely "frozen in place" state

- the day before I write note with "things I have to do/can do tomorrow". Usually the easier chores or just random activities like "cook a normal meal". So that I have "something" to get up for.

- you can also find some things that you can do while staying in bed, which will make your brain work even a bit and kinda help you go back to reality. You know, to kind of break this "rotting" state into something a *bit* more motivating. I used to draw in my sketchbook, no need to get up for that if I kept the supplies nearly. Sometimes that would help and eventually I would "hold onto something" enough to be able to motivate myself and get up.
This one might be tricky though because it might work the other way

- generally speaking I know it will sound cliche but be nice to yourself, like don't expect to function super well right away, just start with something maybe absurdly small but manageable. Like, sit instead of laying. Stand up just for a few seconds. For me it SOMETIMES makes the next steps easier, so the transition is not so 'steep'.

It's not that you're pathetic and weak, you're just experiencing a shit time in your life and it's not your fault. I hope you can find something that works for you. Good luck

 

[BPDtgirl]

Gym, exercise of any kind, I cannot stress the value of exercise for regulating emotions and keeping your mood high.

You've been before, I hope you can find the energy to get yourself there again and find the joy of it

 

[salamid]

Gym, exercise of any kind, I cannot stress the value of exercise for regulating emotions and keeping your mood high.

You've been before, I hope you can find the energy to get yourself there again and find the joy of it

eh honestly back when I did consistently go it did motivate me to get out of bed to not miss it yeah but not necessarily very early which is the whole point.

My gym stays open late enough, I had a certain phase where I was still consistently going but it was pretty much all I did in the day, as well as making dinner and eating it I guess.
I could get up at 6PM and still manage to make it in time.

I guess you're probably still right though, even if it isn't about getting me out of bed directly by motivating me to go, I know a bunch of studies show exercising regularly makes you happier overall.

 

[Lions303]

Just one more day? Can you do today? Just one more day? You can always do something about it tomorrow but just give yourself one more day...

 

[SchizoPolyGymnast]

Fear of homelessness. I work nonstop night shifts to avoid it.

 

[ccs]

I struggle with this too. I try to shower as early as possible and then change into nicer clothes so I feel like it's a waste to dirty them just to lay in bed all day. On days I do lay in bed all day, I motivate myself to take a walk before it gets dark and it helps me feel a little less bad about it.

 

[gorewhoree]

For me to get out of bed I make a bunch of posts on the internet so that when I wake up I'll be excited to get from my bed to my computer to check my notifications. Or I set a trap for critters outside so that I have to get up and check my trap.
Of course, the former only really works for me since my phone is usually dead and I don't have a functional tv, when I did I didn't get up at all. And after I'm done I often go back to sleep like 2 or 3 hours after waking up because that's enough daylight for me.

 

[salamid]

I struggle with this too. I try to shower as early as possible and then change into nicer clothes so I feel like it's a waste to dirty them just to lay in bed all day. On days I do lay in bed all day, I motivate myself to take a walk before it gets dark and it helps me feel a little less bad about it.

those are good ideas, thanks

 

[CutToRelease]

By going to sleep and waking up over and over till I cant go back to sleep

 

[MyShadow]

I want to feel better. I know I aways feel much better once I get out of bed. I always feel so terrible after rotting in bed all day, my muscles trembling probably because they want to be used. I used to go to the gym 5-6 times a week long ago and now I'm pathetic and weak. Any day where I don't absolutely have to be somewhere, so on weekends and on holidays, I always stay in bed 2-6 hours after waking up, rotting away on my phone. Sometimes my battery runs out. I've lied in bed before for hours without being on my phone, so it's not a phone addiction. It's just something to do while I'm lying here anyway. Even as I'm typing this I'm in bed. I brushed my teeth right after I woke up but then went back into my bed. I don't even know why I can't do it.

Once I get out of bed I always try to stay up late to avoid having to wake up again and rotting in bed. I think a big part of it is that I'm lazy to go take a shower. But I would feel way too disgusting to get out of bed without doing so, I could never do that. I can't even go a single day without showering, I feel disgusting even after sleeping just one night, probably because I barely ever change my bed sheets out of laziness.

Maybe that's not even the reason though. I really don't even know. If anyone else reading this ever struggled with getting out of bed, did you ever find anything that helped you?

A year ago, I had a completely different life. Waking up at 4am, make coffee, walk the dogs, and get my work day started. It was my favorite time of day because everything was so quiet and I got a lot done.

Then, a lot of terrible things happened over the course of the past year and it triggered my depression. Soon after, I developed a significant case of anxiety which triggered by PTSD. As those dominos fell, my motivation fell with them. Now I find myself struggling to get out of bed and my work and life have suffered immensely.
Now I have to force myself out of bed. [Right now, it's Thursday at 8:30amEST and I am still laying in bed].

My morning coffee routine helps immensely, but there are some days where I do exactly the same as you, and it triggers my anxiety and so I retreat further. It's a vicious cycle, so I try to get up and make coffee and start the day. Once I'm up, I can start motivating myself. I just have to get started and making coffee is a good tool.

 

[nyotei_]

A year ago, I had a completely different life. Waking up at 4am, make coffee, walk the dogs, and get my work day started. It was my favorite time of day because everything was so quiet and I got a lot done.

Then, a lot of terrible things happened over the course of the past year and it triggered my depression. Soon after, I developed a significant case of anxiety which triggered by PTSD. As those dominos fell, my motivation fell with them. Now I find myself struggling to get out of bed and my work and life have suffered immensely.
Now I have to force myself out of bed. [Right now, it's Thursday at 8:30amEST and I am still laying in bed].

My morning coffee routine helps immensely, but there are some days where I do exactly the same as you, and it triggers my anxiety and so I retreat further. It's a vicious cycle, so I try to get up and make coffee and start the day. Once I'm up, I can start motivating myself. I just have to get started and making coffee is a good tool.

I have tried to make persistent rituals my anchor, enough to where it is very uncomfortable if I don't get up.

the bed has to be made, otherwise it gets all crinkly when I go to bed the next night. I should brush my teeth because food and water taste worse if I don't, and the fact I have to interact with other people. I need to shower (every other day) so I can keep my hair looking nice and curly, put on my makeup; if I am depressed I might as well look good doing it. lay out the clothes in a convenient way before the shower, so you can just walk to your room and put them on easily.

as a reward for all of this work, I will have my iced coffee and have a calm 90 minutes of reflection as my hair dries. all of the actions I did previously also have their own rewards, some are passive or delayed while others are preventative.

the hard part is, obviously, giving enough of a fuck to do all this work to begin with. having a nice bed to lay in when I get home is nicer than the 60 seconds I spent to do it. but I understand that's simply not enough. so, I sort of imprinted and self-caused extreme anxiety and unease if I am not doing at least one of these things yet. it took a while, but I am no longer rotting. I can't stand the sight of a messy bed or room in general anymore.

maybe take my advice with a grain of salt though, since I am in this place to begin with. clearly doing this hasn't solved my problem with suicidal ideation, I am just more methodical about it now.

 

[MyShadow]

I have tried to make persistent rituals my anchor, enough to where it is very uncomfortable if I don't get up.

the bed has to be made, otherwise it gets all crinkly when I go to bed the next night. I should brush my teeth because food and water taste worse if I don't, and the fact I have to interact with other people. I need to shower (every other day) so I can keep my hair looking nice and curly, put on my makeup; if I am depressed I might as well look good doing it. lay out the clothes in a convenient way before the shower, so you can just walk to your room and put them on easily.

as a reward for all of this work, I will have my iced coffee and have a calm 90 minutes of reflection as my hair dries. all of the actions I did previously also have their own rewards, some are passive or delayed while others are preventative.

the hard part is, obviously, giving enough of a fuck to do all this work to begin with. having a nice bed to lay in when I get home is nicer than the 60 seconds I spent to do it. but I understand that's simply not enough. so, I sort of imprinted and self-caused extreme anxiety and unease if I am not doing at least one of these things yet. it took a while, but I am no longer rotting. I can't stand the sight of a messy bed or room in general anymore.

maybe take my advice with a grain of salt though, since I am in this place to begin with. clearly doing this hasn't solved my problem with suicidal ideation, I am just more methodical about it now.

Thank you for the reinforcement.