How do you get out of bed?

[Cute_&_Loving]

i dont think that most people experience the most out of life , but I do think that most people experience something good in their life. life is an experience like no other, so getting rid of it would essentially mean getting rid of the possibility to experience anything. no, i am not trying to get better. i dont have anyone to get better for. my family cut off contact with me when they realised how hard it was to give me support

Oh I'm so sorry. I mean you did mention not having anyone but don't you think it's possible to get better for yourself and then the right people may come along?… especially when your outlook on life is so possible. But I guess you had already considered that and you just can't do it all on your own….. sorry if my question was too stupid. I personally had experienced everything that was possible for me to experience in this life…. There's only more pain, more disappointment, more misery, old age and more self hatred ahead of me. It's one chance in a billion there's something new and good for me in the future. And I ain't that lucky

 

[Cress]

Hi everyone. It's been a while since I was on here. I came close to ending it this summer (would've been next month most likely) but I decided to reach out for help one last time before giving in the towel and I guess it worked? Not sure actually. Im on new meds so I don't feel like jumping off a cliff right now but it feels like they're wearing off already cause I once again have no energy to do anything.

I want to have hobbies. I want to write. I want to bake. I want to dance, draw, hike, exercise, skate. But I still don't have the energy to brush my teeth on the off days. My attention span is abysmal and it's hard to consume media that isn't the length of a Tik tok. And I feel like physical garbage. I feel like my physical health is going to kill me early at the rate I'm not taking care of myself. But I have chronic conditions that leave me so tired and I still don't love life. Im not happy. Im just not currently in the mood to die.

How do those of you in recovery do it? Especially if you're like me and your brain fog and body betrays you? I feel like most advice out there is for neurotypical and or non disabled individuals. It just makes me feel lazy. But I don't want to be this way. If I stay like this I might as well go with the damn plan. Im still here cause I want to know what enjoying life and having hobbies feels like

I find the best thing to do to try to get yourself out of bed is to try to get yourself obsessed with something. Doesn't really matter what it is just something that you're excited to pop out of bed and get to experience a little bit more the next day.

This strategy worked for a while for me but as I started to get older the list of things that I've excited me started to dwindle. You start to feel like you've already experienced everything in this life has to offer. Which of course is ridiculous and not true logically but that's the way I start to feel And it's difficult for me to logic my way out of.

 

[nolifer23]

Lately I have been contemplating : people who suffer from serious issues, are not happy with their life, are depersonalised, depressed, traumatized, hate their life - have one advantage : they can more easily get immerseed into RPG computer games. Like when I play Fallout or Elden Ring or Cyberpunk2077 (this one is relly immersive), I feel like I'am actually in the game, like I'am the main character, or at least in the virtual world. I completely forget about my shattered real (no)life for like 8 hours daily while I play RPG games, I'am completely identified with the main character. Best gaming time is during night, completely dark room, and at least 40" monitor. And there are a lot of RPG games out there to enjoy and forget about miserable IRL existence, and escape into virtual existence.

I don't try anymore to get better, or deal with my issues. I just hope it will not get much worse, and enjoy the time I have remaining, and RPG games help me in this. Also I visit wellness like sauna and jacuzzi, especially finnish dry sauna (90'C degrees hot) helps me.

I cannot commit suicide right now, because that would wreak havoc on my relatives who supported me all my life. I cannot do that to them - if I get really miserable I just increase my antidepressant dosage, to make my existence bearable.

 

[sirciroc]

So very true, I feel this to my core.

I'm not entirely sure if I'm truly in recovery but I can't deny there's a tiny spark within me that longs for things to get better...so, I'll add my two cents.

Mostly for me, I start to feel panicked and almost nauseous when I stay in bed too long. This inspires me to get up and mosey around. Right now, I'm not at home, so I really only have the couch and the outside patio available to me... therefore, I'm spending a ton of time "in bed" (read: on the couch).

When I think back to last year, somewhat coming into a sense of recovery (albeit things were a less abysmal for me then) I remember trying to be patient with myself. Understanding that my fatigue causes me a lot more resistance than those that don't experience it themselves; trying to congratulate myself for doing anything that wasn't whilst being horizontal.

Maybe I don't really have much advice to share... I do relate to having a short attention span, though. For the last month, since returning home from an inpatient stay, I've basically rotted in front of the TV. Then again, as I mentioned earlier, there hasn't been much opportunity for me to do anything else.

I think it's really admirable that you have so many interests. Chronic conditions can make it so invariably difficult to do anything, but maybe doing some activities even while still in bed could bring you some joy. Obviously you can't bake from bed, but you could perhaps jot down some recipes? Spend some time watching dance videos and then do your best to get up, even if just for a few minutes, and move your body?

It's a lot more complex and nuanced when attempting recovery while chronically ill. I hope you can begin to understand that you have an inherent worth independent of any level of productivity you output. As with anything when you're trying to recover, start small and set goals for yourself.

I hope I'm not talking out of my ass here. I really hope you're able to do the things you want to do.

Thank you. :)

Dancing is the easiest thing for me ironically enough. It's the only thing I've gained more interest in as opposed to less. So I'll start there.

 

[Freedomatlast24]

I'll tell you what used to work for me, accountability, belonging somewhere, having a cheerleader/external motivation (boyfriend)/sense of community.

I'm really not self-motivated due to my neurodiversity. Therefore I can't rely on that, I had to out source.

It had to be simulating enough & spontaneous enough too. My life was sooooo different last year bc of this.

Body doubling is also amazing.

I'll tell you what used to work for me, accountability, belonging somewhere, having a cheerleader/external motivation (boyfriend)/sense of community.

I'm really not self-motivated due to my neurodiversity. Therefore I can't rely on that, I had to out source.

It had to be simulating enough & spontaneous enough too. My life was sooooo different last year bc of this.

Body doubling is also amazing.

Also realizing stuff stops providing me with dopamine very quickly... it needs to chop and change A LOT.

 

[i dont feel real.]

Hi everyone. It's been a while since I was on here. I came close to ending it this summer (would've been next month most likely) but I decided to reach out for help one last time before giving in the towel and I guess it worked? Not sure actually. Im on new meds so I don't feel like jumping off a cliff right now but it feels like they're wearing off already cause I once again have no energy to do anything.

I want to have hobbies. I want to write. I want to bake. I want to dance, draw, hike, exercise, skate. But I still don't have the energy to brush my teeth on the off days. My attention span is abysmal and it's hard to consume media that isn't the length of a Tik tok. And I feel like physical garbage. I feel like my physical health is going to kill me early at the rate I'm not taking care of myself. But I have chronic conditions that leave me so tired and I still don't love life. Im not happy. Im just not currently in the mood to die.

How do those of you in recovery do it? Especially if you're like me and your brain fog and body betrays you? I feel like most advice out there is for neurotypical and or non disabled individuals. It just makes me feel lazy. But I don't want to be this way. If I stay like this I might as well go with the damn plan. Im still here cause I want to know what enjoying life and having hobbies feels like

I'm so fucking tired of everything, I'm lazy to even write a decent post. I'm tired of being reflexive: I already know whatever I do worths nothing because I am going to die. And I don't know whatever the fuck happens after this we call life, but sure it isn't good. Believe what you want, this is my opinion.