Discussion How do you cope with life?

[BetweenRadioStations]

I'm looking to hear the good, the bad, and the ugly.
How do you cope with life, emotions, everything. What are your strategies?

I cut my upper thigh and hip. Sometimes I hit my legs with this little wooden baseball bat and/or whip my back and legs with my belt. I've choked myself before with my hands and also a baseball belt. Talked shit of course. Melted candle wax on my thighs. Reached out to friends and sometimes family. Had sex, masturbated, and watched porn. Used the internet including this site. Bought things. Wrote poetry (This is a huge one), procrastinate, pace, lie, travel, sleep, and pick my lip and the skin around my nails.

These are off the top of my head.
What about you? What gets you through the day?

 

[WrongPlaceWrongTime]

Stuff like games, anime, streaming shows, hololive, occasionally worldbuilding. They're temporary escapes but they help

 

[BetweenRadioStations]

Stuff like games, anime, streaming shows, hololive, occasionally worldbuilding. They're temporary escapes but they help

What kind of games do you like?

 

[beefbaby]

Mostly by binge watching my favorite television programs, the occasional video game, good food and booze, or any food and booze if money is tight.

 

[ClairyFairy]

I burn away the badness

 

[Bot]

anime, internet, ss, soft drugs, music(doesnt work if im too low), sleeping

 

[FailureGirl]

I cut, scratch, choke myself, dig my nails into my hands.
I talk to my friend and spend time with family when possible but that ones getting harder to do these days.
I also window shop, play
games, watch anime and sometimes movies, listen to alot of music, read comics/manga, bake.
And if all else fails I self medicate.

 

[MiseryWithoutCompany]

Top methods are: Locking myself in my room and just mourning, watching dog videos, taking a shower, playing with my dog, drawing vent art or horroble fashion.

Worse case scenario methods are: Verbally take it out on anyone who perpetuates rhe stress, having an intense screaming episode and panicked violent rage, skipping medication to reset the side effects, ODing on the tranquilizer and sleeping it off.

 

[NasiGoreng]

I used to travel and do online shopping to distract myself, now I just sleep and procastinate which is probably making it worse. My coping mechanisms are currently not working that much.

 

[GenesAndEnvironment]

Lifting, mindfulness, thinking, distractions.

 

[Celerity]

I'm going firmly with the distractions route at the moment. I even made a thread about it a few minutes ago. I have given up on happiness and thinking much of anything about my dreams regarding love, career, or self-improvement. This means creature comforts. No, I don't know why I'm alive except that it seems better than dying right now.

 

[BetweenRadioStations]

I burn away the badness

Can you elaborate please?

Lifting, mindfulness, thinking, distractions.

That's neat.
How do you practice mindfulness? What kind of things do you think and distract yourself with?

I'm going firmly with the distractions route at the moment. I even made a thread about it a few minutes ago. I have given up on happiness and thinking much of anything about my dreams regarding love, career, or self-improvement. This means creature comforts. No, I don't know why I'm alive except that it seems better than dying right now.

I think happiness is a trap. Happiness is a luxury. What do you think?

What are your favorite distractions besides SS lol? What do you mean by creature comforts?

I used to travel and do online shopping to distract myself, now I just sleep and procastinate which is probably making it worse. My coping mechanisms are currently not working that much.

I totally relate to traveling and shopping as a coping mechanism although my bank account has other thoughts.

Top methods are: Locking myself in my room and just mourning, watching dog videos, taking a shower, playing with my dog, drawing vent art or horroble fashion.

Worse case scenario methods are: Verbally take it out on anyone who perpetuates rhe stress, having an intense screaming episode and panicked violent rage, skipping medication to reset the side effects, ODing on the tranquilizer and sleeping it off.

Are you open to sharing what you draw or describing it? What medium do you use?

 

[WrongPlaceWrongTime]

What kind of games do you like?

Sometimes CSGO, but mostly RPG games. It eases my mind to explore video game worlds

 

[Celerity]

Can you elaborate please?

That's neat.
How do you practice mindfulness? What kind of things do you think and distract yourself with?

I think happiness is a trap. Happiness is a luxury. What do you think?

What are your favorite distractions besides SS lol? What do you mean by creature comforts?

I totally relate to traveling and shopping as a coping mechanism although my bank account has other thoughts.

Are you open to sharing what you draw or describing it? What medium do you use?

I agree that happiness is a trap. It's part of the endless treadmill of life. I am waging an internal battle against the parts of myself that insist I must have XYZ for life to be worth living, especially regarding those goals that were taught to me by my parents and the rest of society. Self-help authors and other would-be do-gooders/scammers would say I'm giving up, but I think I'm just getting real and accepting the perspective required for the long haul through this slog I call a life. I'm reading Schopenhauer now and will hopefully post about him. He would no doubt disapprove of my "creature comforts", but I don't care. By them, I mean basic treats like good food, beautiful art or music, and the tranquility of nature - shit you don't have to think very hard about to enjoy.

 

[ClairyFairy]

@BetweenRadioStations I heat metal so it's white hot and then the intense pain removes the intensity of the sensations I get in my body. I hate it. I'm going through a bad ocd episode atm

 

[BetweenRadioStations]

@BetweenRadioStations I heat metal so it's white hot and then the intense pain removes the intensity of the sensations I get in my body. I hate it. I'm going through a bad ocd episode atm

That sounds amazing in the worst sense of the word. What kind of metal? How do you do it? Where? (If your are comfortable answering of course)
@ClairyFairy I was going to give myself a chemical burn out of obsession like in fight club, I too have OCD, but a part of me stopped me because it's too risky. I don't want to get hospitalized. I want to remain discreet.

 

[FuneralCry]

I just spend most of my time looking forward to sleep. I do not really enjoy anything, I just try to pass the time, with things like TV shows, anime etc. Existence really is pointless and I'm not sure that I will be able to put up with it for many more decades. I just try to distract myself from my thoughts.

 

[BetweenRadioStations]

I just spend most of my time looking forward to sleep. I do not really enjoy anything, I just try to pass the time, with things like TV shows, anime etc. Existence really is pointless and I'm not sure that I will be able to put up with it for many more decades. I just try to distract myself from my thoughts.

Your profile photo fits very well with this.

 

[MiseryWithoutCompany]

Are you open to sharing what you draw or describing it? What medium do you use?

Yeah... Since I had ECT, it's not nearly as liberating to do, since I get frustrated halfway through these days but... I made up a character that I draw suffering in various ways. It's like... hanging, choking via disembodied hands, ripped off body parts, etc.

edit: It's all digital art.

I've posted the art piblically, so I'm not going to do so again in fear of reverse imahe searching leading someone to this site, but if I make new pieces, I could post on SS exclusively.

 

[Freedom Believer]

Taking one day at a time and trying not to think about my future.

 

[Sebuet]

Video games, internet, good food, self harm.

 

[Kattt]

D.R.U.G.S.

 

[Sra_TZ]

@BetweenRadioStations Fellow lip-picker here xD
Focusing heavily on work keeps my mind occupied, for the most part. It's not that I like what I do, it's just that focusing on it is a temporary escape from other thoughts and urges. Self harm is an obvious one. Music and writing are definitely two big coping mechanisms as well. I do a bit of art too (Though usually too lazy to work on artworks). You mentioned writing a lot of poetry! Would love to read them one day (if you're comfortable of course)
~S

 

[BetweenRadioStations]

@BetweenRadioStations Fellow lip-picker here xD
Focusing heavily on work keeps my mind occupied, for the most part. It's not that I like what I do, it's just that focusing on it is a temporary escape from other thoughts and urges. Self harm is an obvious one. Music and writing are definitely two big coping mechanisms as well. I do a bit of art too (Though usually too lazy to work on artworks). You mentioned writing a lot of poetry! Would love to read them one day (if you're comfortable of course)
~S

Fellow Lip Pickers Unite!!! Lol
I'd love to share. Send me a PM and we can go from there.
I'd love to chat and I appreciate your interest in my poetry.

 

[beefbaby]

D.R.U.G.S.

What do we want? DRUGS! When do we want it? NOW!

 

[Makko]

No coping mechanisms work for me so after 28 years I'm like a very well-shaken Champagne bottle.

 

[BetweenRadioStations]

Would the acceptance of having no coping mechanisms that work for you be a coping mechanism in itself?

No coping mechanisms work for me so after 28 years I'm like a very well-shaken Champagne bottle.

 

[ven]

Meditating, reading, and knowing this existence is temporary.

In the past, I utilized sex, drugs, alcohol, video games, adrenaline junkie activities, fighting, beating myself, movies/shows, work, family, friends, hoping, etc..

 

[Panna]

Replaying and watching things that brought me joy in the past, it's very rare to have new things bring me any happiness, and even rarer for those newer things to stick in my head. It helps me cope by getting me excited for "something". A personal favorite aside from old snes or n64 stuff is old filthy frank and mumkey videos.

 

[Makko]

Would the acceptance of having no coping mechanisms that work for you be a coping mechanism in itself?

Acceptance isn't a coping mechanism. Acceptance is a possible positive product of having working coping mechanisms. I have nothing that could motivate acceptance.