Discussion How do you comfort yourself/distract yourself in your worst moments?

[qw3rty259]

Masturbation

 

[donwhitman]

I go to sleep and pray I don't wake up.

 

[Coconut blue]

Sh and think about how much I want to ctb

 

[Metalhead]

Alcohol, YouTube, twitch , discord , kick & of course here.

 

[Ironborn]

Videogames were always a good distraction for me, lately been bingeing ww2 vehicle documentaries on YT.

 

[Wolf Girl]

I drive on back roads or pace or get high. That's all I ever do anymore.

 

[Daryl72]

Read and try and watch something on YT. Sometimes it's so overwhelming, I just breakdown and lose it. Not having any real anxiety meds or help from any family, it's beyond tough at times.

 

[thealteredmind]

Why Nov?

7 months

june = 7
july = 6
aug = 5
sept = 4
oct = 3
nov = 2
dic = 1

so... january!

 

[DefinitelyReady]

7 months

june = 7
july = 6
aug = 5
sept = 4
oct = 3
nov = 2
dic = 1

so... january!

Ah. I went by your April starting date. Why is Jan special if you don't mind?

 

[BlendedHeart]

Waste my time watching the same tv shows and listening to the same music over and over.

 

[ADBoy777]

Close my eyes and listen to music, that is my temporary medicine until death will knock the door and finally save me

 

[Dark Moon]

I go on the internet, listen to music or play a game to distract myself from this harsh reality.

 

[hajnalka]

i try to sleep to make it all go away and sometimes i am so exhausted it works.

"sleep is just death being shy"

 

[thealteredmind]

Ah. I went by your April starting date. Why is Jan special if you don't mind?

because this is my last year. doing my final experiments to see if I recover from my issues.
no hope in sight yet, nothing is working. story of my life.

in 2025 there's nothing left to do if I'm still sick. in that case... no point in waiting! kill myself asap, so january it is.

 

[nofunclub]

There's a computer game that I've been playing lately.

Tv shows historically have really helped, but lately they don't hold my attention, or they trigger flashbacks or make me sad. Music + cigarettes, but I quit and don't really listen to music itself, without an activity.

Sometimes I think about my to do list before I kill myself, and it's so overwhelming it drives me into avoidance/procrastination. Bit of a life hack there /hj

 

[WardenOfTorYvresse]

Playing my favorite video games, visiting my hyperfixated fandom on tumblr, listening to the same playlist, binge eating, and continuing reading my tbr novels. Unfortunately these are all just temporary stuff and I'll just go back to my old self lol. Well the end times are approaching for me anyway so there's that, but i had to postponed it until I could finish the new Dragon Age game when it comes out.

 

[Ultra'sPurgat0rio]

Também escuto música. Além disso, eu falo com o meu melhor amigo e uso a internet em geral. Infelizmente, não melhora muito porque eu sei que deveria estar fazendo algo mais importante, então eu meio que só me sinto um merda mesmo. Só piora quando tô tendo algum ataque de pânico. Nessas horas eu não consigo pensar em nem uma linha de raciocínio, então eu só fico indo de distração pra distração, nada tendo um grande efeito.

 

[Abyssal]

There is no comforting me at my worst. The agony brings me to my knees and I scream and shake and cry

 

[L0neW0lf]

I don't or maybe I should say, I can't. I have terrible anxiety, and when it truly grips me, all I can do is crawl under my blankets and close my eyes. I don't sleep, I don't "meditate", I don't have any coping strategy. I just know it feels less terrible in the dark. When my mind just inevitably gets exhausted from the stress, I fall asleep. My stress levels go down... I wake up. Rinse and repeat. I've been on antidepressants which took much of my anxiety away, along with many sensations. Now, nothing is so interesting to me; video games, movies, books etc, they just have no joy to them. They used to be momentary distractions but the medications took even that away; not that they helped. Those few minutes of focus and separation from reality, inevitably fade into a droning sense of impending doom as it comes back to me; that I am alive, and how meaningless all my effort will be when I eventually ctb. How strange to live.

Your words hits hard. Darkness and sleep are my things.

 

[youwantitdarker]

listen to music and daydream. basically try to remove myself from reality as much as i can

 

[L0neW0lf]

I fly out to somewhere near the orbit of Neptune in my imagination, and look back at earth. NASA once took a photo from there, and it showed earth as just a single pixel. Anything that is confined to just a single pixel - i.e. all human life and all human problems - can't be very important in the grand scheme of things.

this is what he said

sometimes i just have to convince myself not to take life seriously.

 

[rozeske]

I spend money and eat until I don't feel good. Both never end well.

 

[DefinitelyReady]

Try to go to sleep with something on the tv (having it on zero light) that doesn't requires neurons to comprehend (probably because it's a show I've watched multiple time).

 

[L0neW0lf]

How do you manage to comfort yourself or distract yourself when you are at your worst? Or just distract yourself to avoid thoughts, things like that.

I listen to music when this happens and it doesn't always help, now tell me your methods!

Thanks for starting this topic. I needed these info.

 

[Tired_birth_1967]

At 58 years old, I wonder how long I can handle this. I no longer have any strategy. There's nothing left to do but torture myself every day. And I still always need to keep up appearances for my wife and at my job. I thought my desire to die would go away with time, but it only got worse. Nothing I tried worked. I have never been a functional person without exaggerated effort. My fatigue is great now.

 

[Daryl72]

There is no comforting me at my worst. The agony brings me to my knees and I scream and shake and cry

I can so relate.

 

[lost_ange1]

I try to keep my mind busy, YT, movies, shows, for me personally horror/thriller/ violence stuff works best. If that's not enough I will read stuff meanwhile. Basically the more senses that are distracted with something the better. That's all for distraction though my mind doesn't know comfort anymore.

 

[derpyderpins]

Refresh this page and hope to hear from people. . . play really mindless games, like dumb flash games, just to force stimulation... put on something like a show or podcast and just listen to it in the background... If I'm at home, ya know, I do that and stuff related to it.

 

[Tired_birth_1967]

My greatest source of comfort is that at 50, I am over the hill of it. I did one of those 'expected date of death' things, think it's called death clock, where you input your details and it gives you a date you can expect to die. So I have it as a count down on my phone. Seeing the days and hours count down regardless of what I do, is therapeutic. Makes me feel that with each breath I'm closer to end game.

My date : Day 18 Month 05 Year 2028

 

[_AllCatsAreGrey_]

I find aggressive stimming helpful (maybe just an autistic thing). I used to hit my head against the wall when really overwhelmed. I try to avoid this now, as it typically makes embarrassing marks on my forehead. I've been having heavy urges for this today, but successfully avoiding it so far.

I recently got a spikey ring, which is kind of helpful - sharp stimulation, but not painful. It doesn't always do the trick. Lately I've started to flap my hands so flat part of my fingernails hit a hard surface, which produces as short, sharp pain. I do that at work sometimes. I work in a loud factory environment, so people don't seem to notice.

Otherwise I try to allow space for deep dives into my special interests. That's the topmost pleasure and distraction for me.