Venting How do people manage to be alone?

[rs929]

There are people out there that seem just fine being alone. I am alone and just dread it. It's like I'm missing something all the time. I also have an auditory processing disorder so it's very hard for me to listen in group settings or noise places, so making new friends is extra hard. I want to come to terms with the fact that I'll be alone for 40 more years and I can't stand it. How do you cope? I've been told you have to like yourself but I think it's bullshit, some of us are not made for lacking contact with people and loved ones

 

[honorando]

I dont have much friends irl excpept 2 guys but i dont like tehm much. So my days are always alone. I mostly play videogames and watch stuff, sometimes trying to focus on studies.

 

[Zerengin96]

being alone is better then being in bad company

 

[unluckysadness]

I live like an hermit because I'm forced too. I suffer from isolation but when I'm with people I have symptoms so I'm fucked.

 

[waqs]

i read yuri to fill in the lonelyness, living vicariously through gl is enough to get me through the day

 

[divinemistress87]

I socialize online to try to fill the void

 

[softtodie]

It's not a choice on my end, I don't know how people do it voluntarily

 

[ifihadnever]

I'm totally alone and have been for years. The world and humans broke me. Its sad but actually I'm so disconnected and its 'the norm' for me now I don't even realise how sad it is.
It sounds like you are struggling with the isolation tho. I'm sorry to hear that, it is tough.....

 

[swankysoup]

It's not a choice on my end, I don't know how people do it voluntarily

Same, i don't manage it, i just don't have much of a choice

 

[Gangrel]

I socialize online to try to fill the void

same, it don't work well

 

[cait_sith]

I am completely alone, like no parents no anything for 10 years now, I don't feel human anymore, most people can't fathom how someone like me can even exsist, the worst thing is that I have been alone so much I am not able to see myself just exsisting in relation to someone else, like my body and nature is screaming for some sort of touch or interaction but I am not able to even imagine being in some sort of relationship with another human

 

[Forever Sleep]

I think some of it is just practice, although maybe I'm just a natural loner. I think being an only child kind of prepares you maybe. But, I've lived alone for over 20 years. I've worked from home and alone the past 7. It's more the other way around for me. I dread having to be around people.

I suppose weirdly- consistency helps. I can feel weird if I've been in a social situation that went ok (which is rare now,) but then go back to being alone.

I pretty much constantly have distractions on in the background during my waking hours. I also just learnt to embrace the freedom of it. You can eat when you want. Leave chores till the next day. Watch what you want, buy what you want. I enjoy those freedoms.

I used to be more dependent on others. I valued my friends and family greatly and, needed them greatly. I suppose enough of being let down or left, one way or another- be it through unavoidable things like death and moving away or, just priorities and lives changing made me start to realise I could only really depend on myself. The risk of being hurt made the prospect of trying to find new friends seem not worth it.

I do still have people I would miss texting/ keeping in loose contact with. Here fills a lot of my social needs too. I indulge in maladaptive daydreaming for romantic needs. I'm lucky really that I don't tend to get that lonely. I worry that might change one day but maybe I'm just different. I don't think it's normal to want to shun people this much!

 

[Dejected 55]

I don't... manage... for my earlier years it was a little easier because I kept telling myself there was still time, I could still meet someone, that I just needed to keep trying.

Now, I know I was fooling myself. I did finally meet someone, and I blew it... and there's nothing else. I should have died a long time ago.

 

[kitkat9234]

It's horrible. I feel like I'm in solitary confinement. Trapped in the prison of my mind. Groundhog Day.

 

[Morte]

I cling to fiction; I'm very imaginative.
Being alone is always a torment and sometimes my escapism isn't enough, and loneliness hits me like a typhoon. Still, I think it's better to be alone than in bad company. I imagine that if I were with someone who hurt me, I would have completely lost my sanity.

 

[akafuka1999]

I have no other choice :D. Ctb on spring lol.

 

[Marbas]

Yeah I envy those who are able to be fully alone and not be bothered by it.

 

[Forveleth]

I grew up very alone so I am quite used to it. I think I "handle" it by enjoying the freedom it gives me. If I want to have a specific meal for dinner, I do not have to worry about someone else not liking it. If I want to drop my plans for the day and do something else, there is no one I need to check with first. I can do whatever I want, whenever I want and that is so much more important to me than having someone else around.

 

[katara]

I am completely alone, like no parents no anything for 10 years now, I don't feel human anymore, most people can't fathom how someone like me can even exsist, the worst thing is that I have been alone so much I am not able to see myself just exsisting in relation to someone else, like my body and nature is screaming for some sort of touch or interaction but I am not able to even imagine being in some sort of relationship with another human

Same that's why I want to leave where I live even tho realistically I know I won't survive, i have absolutely nobody to reach out to for help. Literally nobody cares and ppl treat me like they don't want me around, even online.

 

[like_a_bird]

being alone is better then being in bad company

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