how do i tell my bf im ready to ctb and not have him freak out?

[elliestxttoo]

last time i was completely ready to ctb was last dec (dec 2023) and this time i think im ready to go through with it finally. the only thing is, my boyfriend, im afraid to leave him. i love him more than anything in this world but i know my time is coming fast. is there anyway to easily help him through what im going to do?

 

[divinemistress87]

Dont tell him he wont understand

 

[indefinitesleep]

yh thats a bad idea

 

[unfixablegirl]

Don't tell him. He will probably try to stop you.

 

[_AllCatsAreGrey_]

You know your partner better than we do. There's a high chance he'll try to stop you. If you still feel you want to discuss it with him, this may be a helpful resource:

Supporting the Suicidal No Matter What

Holding body autonomy, dignity, and grief all at once.

drdevonprice.substack.com

 

[locked*n*loaded]

If you're ok with him possibly stopping you, tell him. If not, don't.

 

[iji]

You should leave a suicide note to him. That should be enough.

If you tell him, he may call the cops on you or put you on some mental hospital which are very unethical in general.

Peace.

 

[CoRaven]

Don't. He'll only get in your way. Leave a note or letter behind if you want him to know anything.

 

[thetruetato]

last time i was completely ready to ctb was last dec (dec 2023) and this time i think im ready to go through with it finally. the only thing is, my boyfriend, im afraid to leave him. i love him more than anything in this world but i know my time is coming fast. is there anyway to easily help him through what im going to do?

It really depends on whether you think they will try to stop you or not. If they're likely to stop you/call police, then you might have to keep it a secret until you do it. I would recommend trying to get their opinion on the ethics of suicide before telling them.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

Pretty sure no matter how you tell him he is going to freak out.

 

[who doesn't matter]

Just like others here, I too would advise against it. I want to CTB as well and I have people who are pro-choice. But even they wouldn't let me go if I tell them

 

[-nobodyknows-]

I think you have two options - break up with him and cut off all contact or tell him how you feel.

Just don't stay with him and do it; that's a really shitty thing to do to someone.

 

[soleil]

Don't bother telling him unless you really just want his attention. Everyone needs to be real here. CBT is hard af and not likely to happen.

 

[rozeske]

The sentence I am going to kill myself would make even an acquaintance freak out let alone a partner. No way to sugar-coat it really. There is slim to none chance they would sit back and support your choice. But if there is a part of you that wants help you should tell him. If not, I don't believe there is a benefit in telling.

 

[danisnotok]

the 98% of the people u tell would try to make u stop, so if youre okay with that then tell him but if u dont want interventions then dont

 

[norkz]

Don't bother telling him unless you really just want his attention. Everyone needs to be real here. CBT is hard af and not likely to happen.

Wdym by this???

 

[soleil]

Wdym by this???

The chances of cbt are so low, no need to stress about telling the bf and making him worry. Even if she was serious why do that, it's just gonna prevent you from doing so if you really want it.

 

[agony1996]

last time i was completely ready to ctb was last dec (dec 2023) and this time i think im ready to go through with it finally. the only thing is, my boyfriend, im afraid to leave him. i love him more than anything in this world but i know my time is coming fast. is there anyway to easily help him through what im going to do?

It's a complicated situation and this is a scary decision and you probably feel like you need to tell someone close to you but in my opinion, if you tell him, you won't get the reaction you want.
He might want to do everything to stop you.
I know this cause I'm in a similar situation but with a sibling.

 

[norkz]

The chances of cbt are so low, no need to stress about telling the bf and making him worry. Even if she was serious why do that, it's just gonna prevent you from doing so if you really want it.

Don't say chances of ctb successfully are low please don't break my hopes.
I feel like she would like to say goodbye you know it's sad to leave people behind and or being able to say goodbye when you love them it really sucks. Terminal Ill patients get the chance. They should be legal euthanasia for people like us we deserve rights periot. What's this shit to try keep everyone alive?!?!

 

[Roadrunner]

If you truly are ready and want to CTB, tell nobody!