Height is important and im tired of people pretending its not

[hurb]

To begin , i need to point out that I have been always insecure about my height im around 160 cm.

Being around taller people makes me feel extremely uncomfortable. It feels like im vulnerable around them. And the only reason "i get to feel safe" is because of their kindness. I dont like the way they look at me either. Its not their fault that im short, but man it feels like they look down on me.
I genuinely dont understand how a 160 cm man and 190 cm man are from the same race. It just baffles me how natural selection thought it was ok.
Honestly its late at night and im just putting my thoughts out there, but holy shit do I hate the height difference dynamic.
5 cm is cool but more than 10 holy shit.

I feel if I was taller i wouldnt feel this as intensely. But i think i would still feel bad around shorter people. Because it would make me look bigger than or more improtant while i wouldnt think its the case.
I just hate this so much man

 

[DistraughtWolf]

Wasn't there like a study that said that taller people are more likely to earn more, get better positions in work, etc..? Plus, there's always a discussion going on regarding dating and height.

Either way, it does seem that people do get treated differently based on their height, which is insane.

I'm 5'7 myself and i've been punched and even strangled once when I've had to deal with junkies and alcoholics. Both of them were taller men and low IQ idiots. Anyway, I'm 100% sure that if I were taller, both of these situtations would have gone differently.

It's tough to say if height has been a major factor how I've been treated over the years, I'm an autistic weirdo, so it could be just that... but I do have a gut feeling that my height has also played a part in it.

 

[Shinobu]

I don't think height matters at all tbh im 6'3 and I still want to CTB, I don't think id want to do it any more so if i was 5'3. I actually hate being so big i constantly feel like im always being stared at wherever I go. I have extreme paranoia and being able to be seen half way across a store by someone doesn't help at all. Everywhere I go I want to take up as least space as possible and being this tall makes it impossible i see my height more so as a curse if anything. But I guess the grass is always greener on the other side

 

[hurb]

Wasn't there like a study that said that taller people are more likely to earn more, get better positions in work, etc..? Plus, there's always a discussion going on regarding dating and height.

Either way, it does seem that people do get treated differently based on their height, which is insane.

I'm 5'7 myself and i've been punched and even strangled once when I've had to deal with junkies and alcoholics. Both of them were taller men and low IQ idiots. Anyway, I'm 100% sure that if I were taller, both of these situtations would have gone differently.

It's tough to say if height has been a major factor how I've been treated over the years, I'm an autistic weirdo, so it could be just that... but I do have a gut feeling that my height has also played a part in it.

Yep once u start thinking if i was taller I wouldnt be treated this way. It gets much worse. You have to do so much just to be in equal footing with a taller man.

I don't think height matters at all tbh im 6'3 and I still want to CTB, I don't think id want to do it any more so if i was 5'3. I actually hate being so big i constantly feel like im always being stared at wherever I go. I have extreme paranoia and being able to be seen half way across a store by someone doesn't help at all. Everywhere I go I want to take up as least space as possible and being this tall makes it impossible i see my height more so as a curse if anything. But I guess the grass is always greener on the other side

Yeah , like I said the issue here is the height difference between humans is so large that being in either extremes would feel awful.
I also didnt say if i was taller i wouldnt be suicidal. There is so much wrong in this world. But being taller would have definetly made me avoid so much trauma.

 

[Gustav Hartmann]

You have better, more upright posture when you're short because life happens a floor higher. For me, at 196 cm, life happens a floor lower, which leads to a hunched posture. You also have more space on airplanes; you wouldn't believe how uncomfortable a long-haul flight in economy class is for me.
When a group is looking for someone to blame, it's better to be short than tall.
Besides, shorter people are said to be more assertive, like Napoleon.

 

[Shadows From Hell]

Here, maybe this will make you smile and forget about your height...

Dwarf comedian Brad Williams complaining about his wife wanting to take him apple picking. Funny as hell.

 

[ilied]

To begin , i need to point out that I have been always insecure about my height im around 160 cm.

Being around taller people makes me feel extremely uncomfortable. It feels like im vulnerable around them. And the only reason "i get to feel safe" is because of their kindness. I dont like the way they look at me either. Its not their fault that im short, but man it feels like they look down on me.
I genuinely dont understand how a 160 cm man and 190 cm man are from the same race. It just baffles me how natural selection thought it was ok.
Honestly its late at night and im just putting my thoughts out there, but holy shit do I hate the height difference dynamic.
5 cm is cool but more than 10 holy shit.

I feel if I was taller i wouldnt feel this as intensely. But i think i would still feel bad around shorter people. Because it would make me look bigger than or more improtant while i wouldnt think its the case.
I just hate this so much man

Im sorry you feel this way but is there really a reason to feel "vulnerable" is there really a factor that height play in that decreases your safety around taller people? im 184 cm, i don't feel particularly tall and i know lots of people taller and more muscular than me but by no means do i feel scared of them. realistically the threat a taller and more muscular person poses isnt that far of a 13 yo skinny boy with a gun. im nut saying run around with a gun to feel safe but maybe you not feeling safe came from some other place and your insecurity took hold of that fear and re-affirmed it. id never underestimate someone just because they are "short", you should respect yourself more i think you deserve it.

 

[hurb]

Im sorry you feel this way but is there really a reason to feel "vulnerable" is there really a factor that height play in that decreases your safety around taller people? im 184 cm, i don't feel particularly tall and i know lots of people taller and more muscular than me but by no means do i feel scared of them. realistically the threat a taller and more muscular person poses isnt that far of a 13 yo skinny boy with a gun. im nut saying run around with a gun to feel safe but maybe you not feeling safe came from some other place and your insecurity took hold of that fear and re-affirmed it. id never underestimate someone just because they are "short", you should respect yourself more i think you deserve it.

again there is no correlation between u being pretty much the perfect height around taller people , and a short person where everyone is taller than them. also nah dw i have so much ego this is actually a consequence of having ego rather than the lack of it.
anyways thank you guys for trying to make me feel better but it doesnt help coming from tall people

 

[purpp37]

I'm the exact average height and I still feel short because of heightflation and women being fucking dumb with height and barely being able to tell the difference and frothing over their arbitrary 6'0+ft ideal

 

[hurb]

I'm the exact average height and I still feel short because of heightflation and women being fucking dumb with height and barely being able to tell the difference and frothing over their arbitrary 6'0+ft ideal

this has nothing to do with women cause if i was born a woman , i would feel just as annoyed that people are much taller than me.
I just hate how dramatic height difference is between individuals; fuck that

 

[aufrechtm7]

again there is no correlation between u being pretty much the perfect height around taller people , and a short person where everyone is taller than them. also nah dw i have so much ego this is actually a consequence of having ego rather than the lack of it.
anyways thank you guys for trying to make me feel better but it doesnt help coming from tall people

You didn't really respond to the point of their response, insecurities can often be rationalized but that doesn't mean it's necessarily correct.

 

[hurb]

You didn't really respond to the point of their response, insecurities can often be rationalized but that doesn't mean it's necessarily correct.

their point breaks apart the moment they mentioned their height

 

[aufrechtm7]

their point breaks apart the moment they mentioned their height

Their height is irrelevant to the actual reasoning they're asking you to apply, it wouldnt matter if they were 150 or 200cm.

realistically the threat a taller and more muscular person poses isnt that far of a 13 yo skinny boy with a gun. im nut saying run around with a gun to feel safe but maybe you not feeling safe came from some other place and your insecurity took hold of that fear and re-affirmed it.

This is what you need to address before moving forward, otherwise it comes off more as venting (which you are allowed) as opposed to a proper discussion.

 

[hurb]

Their height is irrelevant to the actual reasoning they're asking you to apply, it wouldnt matter if they were 150 or 200cm.

This is what you need to address before moving forward, otherwise it comes off more as venting (which you are allowed) as opposed to a proper discussion.

again , their point breaks apart the moment they mentioned their height. if u cant understand that the way u view the world depends entirely on ur genetic predisposition and ur environment then it's a you problem.
the whole there are more muscular guys bit doesnt even make sense , cause they are comfortable in their own skin and their own height. i dont understand how u struggle to comprehend that

 

[aufrechtm7]

But the point they're making isn't reliant on their specific height. You haven't acknowledged their thought experiment or actually elaborated on how the logic fails other than saying it just does.

the way u view the world depends entirely on ur genetic predisposition and ur environment then it's a you problem.

This is a half truth and universal truth claims require substantiation, which you haven't given yet.

 

[Bootleg Astolfo]

I'm about 6ft tall and i get treated like fucking garbage aniways lol.

 

[hurb]

But the point they're making isn't reliant on their specific height. You haven't acknowledged their thought experiment or actually elaborated on how the logic fails other than saying it just does.

This is a half truth and universal truth claims require substantiation, which you haven't given yet.

Ok i see where u are coming from. U are trying to find logic in emotions.
Sigh

 

[aufrechtm7]

Ok i see where u are coming from. U are trying to find logic in emotions.
Sigh

That isn't invalid. There could simply be another reason you have these feelings that aren't related to height and that's what they were trying to say. Taller people are not inherently superior to shorter people.

I'm just using this as an example so don't take it the wrong way, but a racist person could provide reasoning as to why they feel the way they do. Would you believe that reasoning is correct just because they explained it? No.

 

[MyPropellerWontSpin]

as someone who's shorter than u (cus of shit genetics and cus I didn't eat well as a kid) I relate to this a lot, I've always been insecure abt my height and felt uncomfortable around taller ppl, it sucks, but a few years ago I started shoving height insoles in my shoes (lol) and it lowkey felt amazing cus platform shoes + height insoles made me look a solid 5 inches taller, funny how even with all that I was below the average height lmaoo but I'd suggest looking into elevator shoes (less uncomfortable than insoles im assuming) but most of them are kind of ugly so.... sometimes I wish I had the skills to design shoes cus i have so many good ideas, anyways you can also just get some of those reallyyy chunky boots, love them, but that might not be ur style, I wish more short ppl who are insecure abt their height bought stuff like this so companies would expand their collections and shit, im waffling now but I genuinely will die on this hill, man heels are fucking underrated !!!

 

[aufrechtm7]

as someone who's shorter than u (cus of shit genetics and cus I didn't eat well as a kid) I relate to this a lot, I've always been insecure abt my height and felt uncomfortable around taller ppl, it sucks, but a few years ago I started shoving height insoles in my shoes (lol) and it lowkey felt amazing cus platform shoes + height insoles made me look a solid 5 inches taller, funny how even with all that I was below the average height lmaoo but I'd suggest looking into elevator shoes (less uncomfortable than insoles im assuming) but most of them are kind of ugly so.... sometimes I wish I had the skills to design shoes cus i have so many good ideas, anyways you can also just get some of those reallyyy chunky boots, love them, but that might not be ur style, I wish more short ppl who are insecure abt their height bought stuff like this so companies would expand their collections and shit, im waffling now but I genuinely will die on this hill, man heels are fucking underrated !!!

I've seen some more "normal-looking" platform shoes before and I like the concept, but I dislike the fact that there are some companies preying on the insecurities of others even more. Height insoles aren't a bad idea and even though I don't really care about shoes I like how they give people the ability to maintain the style they prefer.

For clarity, I'm also pretty short—dad is also fairly short, didn't get proper sleep as a kid and had the average American child diet so no favors done at all so I totally understand the frustrations.

 

[violetforever]

I'm the exact average height and I still feel short because of heightflation and women being fucking dumb with height and barely being able to tell the difference and frothing over their arbitrary 6'0+ft ideal

how tall are u then? even 5'6 is noticeably taller to me at 5'0. i know ur not gonna listen to me because i'm "dumb" but this isn't worth getting worked up over.

 

[Jello Biafra]

how tall are u then? even 5'6 is noticeably taller to me at 5'0. i know ur not gonna listen to me because i'm "dumb" but this isn't worth getting worked up over.

You're not "dumb" - I don't know who you are as I haven't been around much lately but my wife, who was Taiwanese, was 4'11" and she was a hell of a lot smarter than I am (about 5'11"). Height has nothing to do with intelligence. Don't ever let anyone associate your physical attributes with intelligence - it's meaningless.

OP - same goes for you. I've been around some really tall people who were stupid asf. Has nothing to do with who you are as a person. My wife was tiny, and although she's gone now I admired what an incredible human being she was. Life is about how you conduct yourself, not your physical attributes.

 

[MyPropellerWontSpin]

but I dislike the fact that there are some companies preying on the insecurities of others even more

I was thinking exactly that when I was writing that reply but honestly whatever works atp but ur right, the healthy way to go about is to work on accepting our differences but it's easier said than done

how tall are u then? even 5'6 is noticeably taller to me at 5'0. i know ur not gonna listen to me because i'm "dumb" but this isn't worth getting worked up over.

fuck that guy, like u said its not worth it, I too recoiled after reading that reply earlier, imo its best to ignore and scroll past
on a positive note im around 5' too, height twins !! :D

 

[violetforever]

You're not "dumb" - I don't know who you are as I haven't been around much lately but my wife, who was Taiwanese, was 4'11" and she was a hell of a lot smarter than I am (about 5'11"). Height has nothing to do with intelligence. Don't ever let anyone associate your physical attributes with intelligence - it's meaningless.

oh i wasn't actually calling myself dumb and not for my height either. it was because the person i quoted referred to women as "fucking dumb" lol. i've never had a problem with my height :p i'm sorry about ur wife btw. ur an angel for speaking so highly of her still

 

[davidtorez]

I'm 6'2 (188cm) and still depressed as hell.
I also read a study that taller men have joint problems more than shorter men. I can attest to this as I'm riddled with joint problems .

 

[hurb]

I'm 6'2 (188cm) and still depressed as hell.
I also read a study that taller men have joint problems more than shorter men. I can attest to this as I'm riddled with joint problems .

you are depressed despite being tall*
also i never said the only reason im depressed is because of being short , it is just an extra problem to other problems i have to deal with

 

[WhatCouldHaveBeen32]

We are the same height, what makes you sad about the fact that you are short?

 

[hurb]

as someone who's shorter than u (cus of shit genetics and cus I didn't eat well as a kid) I relate to this a lot, I've always been insecure abt my height and felt uncomfortable around taller ppl, it sucks, but a few years ago I started shoving height insoles in my shoes (lol) and it lowkey felt amazing cus platform shoes + height insoles made me look a solid 5 inches taller, funny how even with all that I was below the average height lmaoo but I'd suggest looking into elevator shoes (less uncomfortable than insoles im assuming) but most of them are kind of ugly so.... sometimes I wish I had the skills to design shoes cus i have so many good ideas, anyways you can also just get some of those reallyyy chunky boots, love them, but that might not be ur style, I wish more short ppl who are insecure abt their height bought stuff like this so companies would expand their collections and shit, im waffling now but I genuinely will die on this hill, man heels are fucking underrated !!!

it wouldnt fix the problem for me cause it is smthg deep inside of me, I have deep anger towards anything that was never fair.
Im glad it works for you tho

 

[WhatCouldHaveBeen32]

I'm 6'2 (188cm) and still depressed as hell.
I also read a study that taller men have joint problems more than shorter men. I can attest to this as I'm riddled with joint problems .

Tall people risk to get cut down by me axe; what if I mistake you for spruce?

 

[Jello Biafra]

oh i wasn't actually calling myself dumb and not for my height either. it was because the person i quoted referred to women as "fucking dumb" lol. i've never had a problem with my height :p i'm sorry about ur wife btw. ur an angel for speaking so highly of her still

Hi Violet,

Thank you for the kind words. Although she's now gone, I still learn and respect everything that my wife taught me.

We are all on our own journey in life, and I admire and appreciate what some people may teach us. A lot of people thought my wife was "stupid" because she didn't have command of the English language, and it really pissed me off to think these people had no clue how difficult it was for her to learn a language that was entirely backwards from their way of thinking. I should say that these were people who had no clue that Japanese or Chinese languages were entirely different from their way of thinking.

Regardless, I hope that you can find some peace in your life- obviously you are here for your own reasons, but nobody should be forced to suffer - we all have our own unique reasons for being here.

While I have my own completely peaceful method to exit this world, I have been only holding off for my mother as I know this will devastate her. That said, my longing to join my wife overwhelms me. All the best to you