Have you had actually bad experiences here? Have you been outright encouraged to kill yourself?

[NotStrongEnough]

What is the worst thing you've been told here? I'm curious because of recent events.

The worst that has happened to me was, someone saw I said I was gay, and since I was suicidal, they wanted to know if I wanted to talk to them about it. He was gay as well and he had a fetish for his own suicide. he wanted to know if I wanted to make a pact with him.

I did not (nor do I). I think he might have asked others the same. About a month later, he messaged me again and said that he had decided he wasn't suicidal anymore. I told him good luck. He then deleted his account.

I won't get into details, but that was the "closest" I've ever been to someone actually pushing me to do it.

Have you had someone pushing you to do it? If so, how did you handle it?

 

[WhiteRabbit]

I had someone PM'd me "Nobody will care if you kill yourself, lol. You're unwanted. You're too pussy to commit suicide." Because I had a slight criticism of one of their posts. They still post here.

I like this site for the most part, but everyone should be cautious because there are definitely some bad eggs around.

 

[Wannagonow]

No. I haven't had anyone tell me or even hint to me that I should ctb. I think overall this is a supportive site, with a few bad apples. Sorry you had the experience you did.

 

[littlelady774]

One time on a goodbye thread, there was an insensitive post that said "Is he dead yet?"

Also someone called me a cunt here one time, but they were banned afterwards.

 

[NotStrongEnough]

I had someone PM'd me "Nobody will care if you kill yourself, lol. You're unwanted. You're too pussy to commit suicide." Because I had a slight criticism of one of their posts. They still post here.

I like this site for the most part, but everyone should be cautious because there are definitely some bad eggs around.

That is not ok. Have you talked to a mod? I'm sure you have "thick skin", but you shouldn't have to.

I agree with you completely. I know there's one or two I side eye lol

No. I haven't had anyone tell me or even hint to me that I should ctb. I think overall this is a supportive site, with a few bad apples. Sorry you had the experience you did.

It didn't bother me, but I don't mind much anyway. It takes a lot to get under my skin (which, admittedly, recent events have, Drastically).

I don't know if he did it to others, but I was more surprised with the sexual aspect. That was a first for me lol

Sorry for the double post.

 

[epic]

99% of my interaction here are respectful and pleasant. There were people who disagreed with what I had to say and were rude but those are rare cases.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

That is not ok. Have you talked to a mod? I'm sure you have "thick skin", but you shouldn't have to.

I agree with you completely. I know there's one or two I side eye lol

Yeah, the user got a warning.

 

[LastFlowers]

I've had problems everywhere because my particular brand of suffering (and my honesty about it) seems to attract some pretty nasty or hypocritically dismissive commentary, unfortunately this place is rarely an exception where that's concerned and I'm not at all happy about it.

However, despite that, this is still a safe haven for me and it's basically the last place I'm able to voice certain aspects of my struggles and my desire to end things.
I would never want to lose access to it or see it perish along with all the tireless stories and points of view that have been shared here.
That would be devastation upon devastation.

The rest of the world (and the rest of the social internet) has proven to be a far greater threat to my well-being (aka my last semblance of sanity) than any tiny corner of the internet that finally let me be a person and speak my mind relatively freely.
I've also had a few cathartic experiences when speaking to others who are in similar situations (mostly in private), and those "encounters" are something I can say that I am glad to have had before I die.
To be validated and understood by someone, somewhere, even if our situations aren't identical…I desperately needed that- to read the words of someone who just fucking knows.
I've had conversations outside of this site too, but it's a bit different when you add the permission to be openly suicidal..finally that last suffocating layer and restriction is removed and you don't have to compartmentalize your detriments as much, you can just open the floodgates and put it all out on the table.


I treat this place like a shelter, I do not get the same anxiety or stomach turning sensation that I get when I go pretty much anywhere else, both online and IRL.
Logging onto this site has been a mostly pleasant affair.
(Maybe it wouldn't be quite as pleasant if I was someone who revisited my own comments more often and actually paid attention to any inflammatory responses. 8/10 times I say my piece and I don't look back.)

*And no, I don't recall anyone outright encouraging me or telling me to kill myself, not here at least. (Or I'm unaware if it did happen.)

 

[FrozenMango]

I blocked some people but the reason is not related to suicide encouragement. No one encouraged me to kill myself.

 

[Shu]

Yeah by @javan12 and he was banned instantly.

 

[jamie_]

i've only ever had one PM from someone on this account and it was to ask me if i could reduce the size of the photo in my signature. that's about as exciting as it has ever got. apart from that the only bad things is seeing the awful takes you lot come up with on here or the copypasta nihilism that scores 1/10 for creativity.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

What is the worst thing you've been told here? I'm curious because of recent events.

The worst that has happened to me was, someone saw I said I was gay, and since I was suicidal, they wanted to know if I wanted to talk to them about it. He was gay as well and he had a fetish for his own suicide. he wanted to know if I wanted to make a pact with him.

I did not (nor do I). I think he might have asked others the same. About a month later, he messaged me again and said that he had decided he wasn't suicidal anymore. I told him good luck. He then deleted his account.

I won't get into details, but that was the "closest" I've ever been to someone actually pushing me to do it.

Have you had someone pushing you to do it? If so, how did you handle it?

No, I was actually afraid to post for a while because I thought I would be encouraged to commit but most people here aren't pro-suicide, they're really just pro-choice. I've never been encouraged, I actually got support from many people that has helped me cope through a really hard breakup, in particular a man named Walter, I don't remember his @ sadly, and I don't want to go through my notifications but his comment warmed my heart. There are a few bad people here I imagine, but you'll mostly receive support.

 

[LastFlowers]

No, I was actually afraid to post for a while because I thought I would be encouraged to commit but most people here aren't pro-suicide, they're really just pro-choice. I've never been encouraged, I actually got support from many people that has helped me cope through a really hard breakup, in particular a man named Walter, I don't remember his @ sadly, and I don't want to go through my notifications but his comment warmed my heart. There are a few bad people here I imagine, but you'll mostly receive support.

@whywere …that's who you're referring to, I believe?

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

@whywere …that's who you're referring to, I believe?

That is correct, thank you

 

[wait.what]

I've never had anyone give me orders or unsolicited advice of any kind. Not "kill yourself," and not, "call this three-digit number! Which I will helpfully provide, in case you forgot what the three digits are!" This is the only place I know of, either on or off the internet, where people experiencing terrible mental and emotional anguish have their intelligence and basic agency treated with respect. If your life has been a long, exhausting struggle where the pain never lessens, no one is going to debate you about it or call the cops on you. If you're determined to get back up on your feet despite the difficulty, no one is going to "pwn" you with "kill yourself, lol." On much of the internet they will, but not here.

You know, there are things I want to hear even less than "kill yourself." Here's a few:

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Have you tried yoga?

I'm a bot! Someone may have said they're sad, so here's a three digit number!

When the going gets tough, the tough get going!

That's nothing. I've got REAL problems, such as . . .

You should eat more fruit.

I'm a bot! Someone may have said they're sad, so here's a three digit number!

Here's a piece of paper with three paragraphs explaining "mindfulness."

You should eat less fruit.

I'm a bot! Someone may have said they're sad, so here's a three digit number!

Not only do I not want to deal with you, I don't even want to think about the problem you say you're having, because I'd like to pretend that all problems have simple answers, and pain is mostly avoidable. How can I make you go away with the least amount of effort on my part?

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Okay, that last one might be refreshing . . .

 

[born2win]

None everyone has been helpful in reducing my anxiety

 

[Fulminare]

Yeah. There was that one guy who was trying to scam others for N and he went berserk on me when I called him out on it. Told me to off myself. Honestly, it was pretty entertaining to me, so it didn't bother me at all. Then there are the experiences I've had with people from the partner thread. Those aren't offensive but overall just... bizarre.

 

[AnnonyBox]

I've never had anyone encourage me to kill myself. I have seen people on goodbye threads whom have been on the fence and vaguely encouraging, but not outright, and I've always made a counterpoint to them. Ultimately, the worst I've experienced is arguing with right-wingers and conspiracy theorists. I think overall this site is pro-choice, and pro-reduction of suffering, not pro-death.

 

[UKscotty]

Always good experience here for me.

I am good at filtering out the wasters though so maybe I just don't notice the losers.

 

[Forever Sleep]

No, literally over 99% has been positive. I don't think I've ever seen someone enciting someone else to kill themselves. We all emphasize it HAS to be the OP's choice. Plus- if the OP is asking other people- perhaps they're not quite ready.

Someone alluded that I might be a Narcissist once. That was kind of upsetting because it was growing up with a (likely) Narcissist that initiated all this ideation. To be fair though- my comment could have come across as narcissistic- maybe I have some traits even. (I really hope not.)

I think I've seen one or two comments that were unpleasant certainly but it's a vast minority and they are usually called out quickly and sometimes banned. It's the internet- you're going to get arseholes. Still- I've seen FAR FAR worse on regular social media platforms. For the main part, this is a very welcoming, inclusive and supportive community. I'm so grateful I found this place.

If the 'normies' one day get their way and shut this place down, they won't stop people taking their own lives. There will likely always be sources like The Peaceful Pill Handbook out there- and people desperate enough will find ways to access it. It will just mean that a whole group of people who are isolated as it is- because they can no longer fit into the mainstream shitshow of pretending your life is fabulous- will become EVEN more isolated. Guess what? Isolation is a major factor in depression which is a major factor in suicide. They'll simply be pushing people to do it sooner rather than later.

 

[katara]

I've never had anyone encourage me to kill myself. I have seen people on goodbye threads whom have been on the fence and vaguely encouraging, but not outright, and I've always made a counterpoint to them. Ultimately, the worst I've experienced is arguing with right-wingers and conspiracy theorists. I think overall this site is pro-choice, and pro-reduction of suffering, not pro-death.

Ya same I talked to some lunatic right winger in the chat who was going off about some Qanon sounding shit. It was honestly pretty funny, I was mad at first because no mods were silencing him, but then after a while it made me laugh. I think he might have been on drugs anyways. He wasn't spamming about this site being evil or anything, but he mentioned some stuff about abortion and was calling everyone who didn't agree with him "stupid". He mentioned some really graphic stuff, but he was a boomer, I figured it would be better to just not take him seriously.