Have you ever known anyone who ctb? How did people react?

[Ambivalent1]

It's interesting. When I read about suicides, i sometimes feel like I'm missing out on something great. I wonder why I feel that way.

 

[Kasumi]

Yea once there was someone I talked to from time to time.
We weren't close or anything, but they didn't show up for a while and then I heard from a friend that they died.
It was kinda sad but ultimately I didn't know their situation, and like people die all the time so it wasn't really anything special.

 

[greenpictureframe]

I didn't know him personally, but someone killed themselves pretty close to where I live. People talked about how sad it was, about his family and how it was lucky nobody else got killed along with him (his suicide method created a very dangerous situation)

 

[internetgirl]

Can't remember exactly how old I was, but back when I was a kid the teenage son of a family friend died in a tragic car accident. At least that's what I was told, later found out a few years later from my Mom that he did it on purpose, felt trapped in his life in one way or another. Family didn't want everyone to only think of him as someone who took their life, so kept the note a secret and just said it was an accident. I think about them alot. Is that even legal? I never really would have thought family members may try to hide the fact that you'd cbt. Everyone's reactions were very "oh he was so young." and stuff like that.

 

[hopeless302]

yeah, I know a few people who did. Some of them were former school mates of mine. One person that comes to mind was this guy I shared some classes with back in high school. Let's just call him Z. We were never particularly close, but we knew each other and would speak on social media very rarely. Anyway, around 2 years ago, I saw some of our former classmates posting condolences about his passing. I felt bad and I wondered what could've caused him to die so young. A couple days later, I got an answer. His brother did a tearful live stream where he confirmed that Z had deliberately taken his own life. Apparently, Z was battling depression, loneliness and an alcohol addiction for some time. I was shocked by all this because he always seemed quite friendly and popular in high school. The few times I saw him afterwards were always in a club/bar setting with tons of people around, so I never imagined that he might be lonely or depressed. His brother was extremely cut up and pretty much implied that the whole situation made him want to CTB as well. The rest of his family was equally hurt. I attended the funeral remotely, as this was during the pandemic, and expressed my condolences. At the funeral, many of his relatives and friends gave eulogies which highlighted the need for mental health awareness and the usual stuff you'd expect. It really made me feel guilty about the pain I'd cause my family if I were to CTB...

 

[SuicidalOrganism]

i knew some kid in my high school 2 years older than me, he ctb. apparently the reason was because received a lot of bullying there and racial violence. heard he was suffering from autism too school did the typical virtue signaling and typical "there were no signs of it" or "we loved him so much"

 

[acerace]

There was a girl in my families community that ctbd a couple years back. They tried covering up the incident as though she never existed. I didnt know her personally neither did anyone around me but they were all continually gossiping about it in hushed tones. It was really weird because mental health is never talked about and if there is anyone that shows any outward signs of mental illness they are shunned and called crazy. I felt really sad for her.

 

[unrest]

only one being a friend's sister. her main feature of hers was that she was beautiful so the main reaction to when people found out she ctb was "she was so beautiful, why?" "she was too pretty to have ctb." a lot of rumors as to why, people wishing they couldve done more. but, my friend and her family have tried really hard to keep her sisters mental health in check.

 

[enough of this]

There have been two members of my family who CTB - a cousin and a nephew.
It was shocking in either case. Especially with my nephew. He was only 27.

 

[gatzby128]

A guy I was friends with in HS. About 15 years later he was struggling with a recent divorce and he overdosed. It brought a lot of us from HS together again to reminisce and tell stories about him and the old days, which was nice. We were all in agreement about what a great guy he was, but also how those of us who had talked to him recently knew he was terribly unhappy... how sad it was to loose him so young and how awful for his ex and their very young son.... mostly people reacted with sadness for those left behind and regret/guilt for not being able to stop it. We all saw the writing on the wall, but no one knew how to help him....

Which is why I have been trying to make it very clear to my loved ones that this is a carefully thought out rational and unemotional decision for me and there is nothing more they could do. They should have no guilt.

 

[Jolene79]

only one being a friend's sister. her main feature of hers was that she was beautiful so the main reaction to when people found out she ctb was "she was so beautiful, why?" "she was too pretty to have ctb." a lot of rumors as to why, people wishing they couldve done more. but, my friend and her family have tried really hard to keep her sisters mental health in check.

It's weird how society does this. Like it wouldn't matter if they were 'pig ugly '

It's weird how society does this. Like it wouldn't matter if they were 'pig ugly '

Actually I think I've reacted in confusion myself when I see someone very attractive in the public eye has ended things.

 

[unrest]

It's weird how society does this. Like it wouldn't matter if they were 'pig ugly '

Actually I think I've reacted in confusion myself when I see someone very attractive in the public eye has ended things.

my initial thought. but it kind of reminded me that if me or other people were ig more above conventionally attractive, they could still be going through so much mentally. idk.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

No. And I'm sure among my wider range of relatives I'm the first one considering CTB actively and I will be the first one committing suicide.

 

[saddestbunny]

kinda but it's always the same regardless of how close you are to them
family and inner circle is devastated, usually the parents most of all because they feel personally responsible

friends move on eventually but say how sad they are and they either
a) saw signs but didn't /couldn't help
b) "we never saw the signs"

forget about them right after. and in the case of music artists or if some corporation can make money off them they see it as a good thing