Discussion Have you ever been treated differently (in a negative way) from others because of your mental/physical health issues ? #10

[MeltingBrain]

I would like to listen to your experience .
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[Lulzacruel]

ive been discriminated against in my professional life (aka IRL life) sometimes due to insomnia, with co-workers occasionally "teasing" (i say it lightly since its more often just jokes at my expense)

im glad to be with my family in america, don't have to see those co-workers anymore

 

[Document6105]

All the time, institutionally.
Humans do not care for others who are born with defects.
We're disregarded and targeted by the citizenry and government alike.

Sure there are people who claim to "care", but do any of them ever actually *help*? No.
The moment you inconvenience them, you get disregarded.

I'm sure there will be people reading this, thinking that "I do care!", but really, do you?
To care is to be willing to do something for the other, no matter how tough it may be.
Anything beside that is nothing but pretentious.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Are you a researcher? Like a grad student, doctor, professor, psychologist, etc?

 

[dory]

I feel like professionally I do a good job at hiding it, I wear long sleeves and long pants so people wouldn't be able to see scars anyway, but in my personal life it feels like everyone is just making fun of me like a inside joke i'm not in on. They either treat me negatively by poking fun or they think they are being "positive" by treating me like a little kid and babying me but that is also just negative. It makes me feel trapped and one of the reasons i can't wait to CTB

 

[MeltingBrain]

Are you a researcher? Like a grad student, doctor, professor, psychologist, etc?

No.
I like answering polls which some youtube channels conduct , it's fun answering them and comparing with what others have answered . I thought it would be fun conducting them here as well .

 

[taiberjames]

only at the start, i remember I told people I know that I got out of the army because of deppression and they looked at me like I was a freak and left.. I was happy I didn't tell them I actually were diagnosed with bipolar.

But I feel like later it was no longer an issue for me,
Maybe from my confidence, maybe I surrounded my self with better people.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

No.
I like answering polls which some youtube channels conduct , it's fun answering them and comparing with what others have answered . I thought it would be fun conducting them here as well .

OK. Fair enough.

 

[FormerlyFe(IV)]

Honestly, not that much.

My parents downplayed and pretty much ignored my Aspergers diagnosis. It practically never came up in conversation. But I did have a teacher come to my home when I was very young, for anger management issues if I'm not mistaken.

Friends seem to be fairly tolerating. I have had the displeasure of hearing from a High school friend that "my friendship with them prepared them to be a nanny for a special needs kid". That one hurt. I did have two public meltdowns/shutdowns. One went terribly wrong, the other was treated with both confusion and empathy.

At work, I would get lightly mocked at. Sometimes laughing with me, sometimes at me. Like how I forget to not tiptoe sometimes. How I would need to speak my thoughts out loud to program. How I looked scary all the fime. How I was "robotic" and then when I understand sarcasm before someone else they use me as a comparison. Plus the whole using autism/autistic as a slur type of deal.

Could have been worse, could have been better.

 

[UKscotty]

I try my best to make sure people don't find out.

I know from personal experience that people see us as a major inconvenience and a hassle once they find out about mental illness.

Admittedly I myself even feel the same about others. Despite being 25 years deep into severe MH issues, I still see others with MH issues as a liability and a burden. Honestly, I'd rather they hide it from me.
Bad as it sounds, I am just being honest.

 

[MeltingBrain]

I try my best to make sure people don't find out.

I know from personal experience that people see us as a major inconvenience and a hassle once they find out about mental illness.

Admittedly I myself even feel the same about others. Despite being 25 years deep into severe MH issues, I still see others with MH issues as a liability and a burden. Honestly, I'd rather they hide it from me.
Bad as it sounds, I am just being honest.

I too try to hide it . I don't want to be the "weird" guy in a social situation .
I appreciate your honesty.

 

[hhh_]

all throughout my school years mostly hs i could tell people very often avoided me and a lot would talk about me even when i was around. i was mute for a good part of highschool and even before ive always just been quiet and oftentimes people would talk about how everything i got to do in class was unfair (teachers knew about my mental health situation and let me sit out of group activities/projects, but i still did all the assignments, just on my own. theyd talk about how i was strange for never talking. i felt when people would stare at my scars and even had people i barely even knew touch them (felt down my arm) during gym when we partnered up. popular kids would often act as if we were friends in the very obviously sarcastic way in front of their other friends for laughs and having been so lonely i always played along but it was so obvious. it's also terribly obvious when people are faking being nice because they see you as incredibly inferior and end up treating you like a baby instead.

 

[Asingletwig]

Only ever let a co worker know my mh issues once and it led to a horrible nine months so yeah never made that mistake again and would just always be quiet unless talking about work or pets with coworkers. With friends it's been even worse. Told them I was diagnosed with BPD when we were going into uni and since then I've seen them 7 times over 6 and a half years. Like these involved ppl I've known my entire life and used to hangout everyday. It got worse when I actually told them I was an alcoholic because we used to joke that I was, hell they even got me a flask and it was the name of our group chat. Out right ghosted by people I thought cared about me, ppl that said I could tell them anything and they would be there to listen. So I can't be bothered to tell them about being suicidal. Only have one friend that's been there for me and I hate that I can't put up with life for them anymore.

Long story short don't tell ppl about your mh, it only ever complicates and ruins things. Like you can vent online or talk to a therapist but irl people just aren't able for it and will avoid you just so they aren't inconvenienced

 

[MeltingBrain]

all throughout my school years mostly hs i could tell people very often avoided me and a lot would talk about me even when i was around. i was mute for a good part of highschool and even before ive always just been quiet and oftentimes people would talk about how everything i got to do in class was unfair (teachers knew about my mental health situation and let me sit out of group activities/projects, but i still did all the assignments, just on my own. theyd talk about how i was strange for never talking. i felt when people would stare at my scars and even had people i barely even knew touch them (felt down my arm) during gym when we partnered up. popular kids would often act as if we were friends in the very obviously sarcastic way in front of their other friends for laughs and having been so lonely i always played along but it was so obvious. it's also terribly obvious when people are faking being nice because they see you as incredibly inferior and end up treating you like a baby instead.

Sorry you had to go through this. Children ironically are much more tribalistic and show unhinged behavior because of lack of maturity (atleast in my experience).

Only ever let a co worker know my mh issues once and it led to a horrible nine months so yeah never made that mistake again and would just always be quiet unless talking about work or pets with coworkers. With friends it's been even worse. Told them I was diagnosed with BPD when we were going into uni and since then I've seen them 7 times over 6 and a half years. Like these involved ppl I've known my entire life and used to hangout everyday. It got worse when I actually told them I was an alcoholic because we used to joke that I was, hell they even got me a flask and it was the name of our group chat. Out right ghosted by people I thought cared about me, ppl that said I could tell them anything and they would be there to listen. So I can't be bothered to tell them about being suicidal. Only have one friend that's been there for me and I hate that I can't put up with life for them anymore.

Long story short don't tell ppl about your mh, it only ever complicates and ruins things. Like you can vent online or talk to a therapist but irl people just aren't able for it and will avoid you just so they aren't inconvenienced

Sorry you were ghosted by some of your "own" . After reading many testimonies like yours on the site, I am not going to tell people about my health .

 

[Shaylla1998]

During my school years, particularly in high school and to some extent in later elementary grades, I experienced mistreatment from others. This negative treatment deeply impacted me, and by the time I reached university, I was already emotionally wounded from those earlier experiences.

In elementary school, I endured physical aggression like punches and pushes from other children, seemingly for no reason other than their dislike of me without any apparent cause.

High school brought even more intense challenges. I faced teasing, bullying both in person and through social media, name-calling, and even incidents like someone throwing food at me, despite their lack of familiarity with me. It seemed that someone had influenced them to harbor animosity towards me, for reasons I couldn't comprehend.

During 9th grade, we had a guest speaker from an organization visit our school to address the issue of bullying and share extreme cases. That day seemed to change how people viewed me, and the mistreatment largely subsided. However, from that point on, I was labeled as "the quiet one," and there was an underlying fear that I might act out in some dangerous way. While I didn't particularly care about their perception of me, as it allowed me to live in relative peace, the scars from my earlier experiences lingered in my mind.

In university, the atmosphere was generally positive. The professors were caring, and the students I encountered were friendly. However, due to the trauma I experienced as a child and teenager, I struggled internally. I lived with constant paranoia, always on guard and ready to face insults, teasing, or physical aggression that never actually materialized.

The cumulative impact of my early life experiences has left me deeply broken, and I currently feel beyond repair.

 

[MeltingBrain]

During my school years, particularly in high school and to some extent in later elementary grades, I experienced mistreatment from others. This negative treatment deeply impacted me, and by the time I reached university, I was already emotionally wounded from those earlier experiences.

In elementary school, I endured physical aggression like punches and pushes from other children, seemingly for no reason other than their dislike of me without any apparent cause.

High school brought even more intense challenges. I faced teasing, bullying both in person and through social media, name-calling, and even incidents like someone throwing food at me, despite their lack of familiarity with me. It seemed that someone had influenced them to harbor animosity towards me, for reasons I couldn't comprehend.

Sorry this happened to you.

The professors were caring, and the students I encountered were friendly. However, due to the trauma I experienced as a child and teenager, I struggled internally. I lived with constant paranoia, always on guard and ready to face insults, teasing, or physical aggression that never actually materialized.

The cumulative impact of my early life experiences has left me deeply broken, and I currently feel beyond repair.

I have heard and seen how bullying destroyed people's self esteem and messed with their mental health .