Hated by every member of my own species

[dead22222]

theres nothing left for me here

 

[INTJme]

Understandable.
But do you have anything to give?

 

[dead22222]

Understandable.
But do you have anything to give?

Why would I want to help the people that have only harmed me

 

[INTJme]

Why would I want to help the people that have only harmed me

Because you can. Isn't that empowering enough?
Personally, I like the idea of selfless giving more than giving to get something in return. Of course, it's unsustainable to live like that 24/7 but very fulfilling even if done 20% of the times.

 

[HopingOnaMiracle]

Did you do something terrible for people to hate you for?

 

[Rhizomorph1]

Because you can? Isn't that empowering enough?
Personally, I like the idea of selfless giving more than giving to get something in return. Of course, it's unsustainable to live like that 24/7 but very fulfilling even if done 20% of the times.

I agree but I'm not sure this is what OP needs to hear when they are feeling the wrath of injustice and abandoned/victimized by society

OP, I don't know you but I don't have any space in my heart for hatred, no matter your circumstances; I care deeply and entirely unconditionally. If you want to chat feel free to dm me <3

 

[dead22222]

Because you can? Isn't that empowering enough?
Personally, I like the idea of selfless giving more than giving to get something in return. Of course, it's unsustainable to live like that 24/7 but very fulfilling even if done 20% of the times.

Ive helped other people before and im happy they got something out of it, but underlying it all I am begging to be accepted

 

[INTJme]

I understand your pain. I've lived 31 years of my life feeling unaccepted for who I am. Heck, a couple days ago even SaSu members were ganging up on me for something they misunderstood me for! Of all places, one would've thought this is where I get some respite. :)
Anyway, you're amazing for having been selfless in this selfish world and I know it's difficult to find people who will accept you for you. But, first of all, do you accept yourself for who you are?

 

[Rhizomorph1]

Ive helped other people before and im happy they got something out of it, but underlying it all I am begging to be accepted

Longing to be accepted and connect with others is entirely natural and something you absolutely deserve. It can be hard to trust and to find the people willing to be open minded in today's culture... What parts of others or yourself do you struggle with?

 

[dead22222]

Did you do something terrible for people to hate you for?

I agree but I'm not sure this is what OP needs to hear when they are feeling the wrath of injustice and abandoned/victimized by society

OP, I don't know you but I don't have any space in my heart for hatred, no matter your circumstances; I care deeply and entirely unconditionally. If you want to chat feel free to dm me <3

I was born socially inept, nearly everyone I have met or interacted with has had a bad reaction to me just being myself. Any social behavior that comes naturally to me is never taken well by others. I hate seeing everyone around me having good communication with people, but when I talk to anyone I dont know im always akward and I can tell im disliked. It can even be in the same conversation between people I know and a stranger. The stranger will be able to talk well and enjoy conversation with them but when I talk to them I fail and I can tell it all falls apart. Im thankful for the few people I do have but it is not enough. Meaning in life comes largely from relationships and interactions with other people. Being treated as lesser than other people is so painful. Id rather have nobody at all if this is how im doomed to be for my life

I understand your pain. I've lived 31 years of my life feeling unaccepted for who I am. Heck, a couple days ago even SaSu members were ganging up on me for something they misunderstood me for! Of all places, one would've thought this is where I get some respite. :)
Anyway, you're amazing for having been selfless in this selfish world and I know it's difficult to find people who will accept you for you. But, first of all, do you accept yourself for who you are?

I wish things were different for us im sorry that happened to you. I thought I accepted myself, but I noticed that it only happens when I feel accepted by other people first.

 

[FuneralCry]

To me it's so dreadful how cruel humans are, I'm sorry you've been treated badly and had to suffer like that, it's unfair. But anyway best wishes.

 

[INTJme]

I wish things were different for us im sorry that happened to you. I thought I accepted myself, but I noticed that it only happens when I feel accepted by other people first.

If you don't like or accept yourself first, how can you expect people to?
If I were to walk into a room full of strangers and the first words that came out of my mouth were how horrific I am of a person, do you think people would be attracted towards me or be repelled? Doesn't matter if there was any truth to what I had said, people won't like me still. Why? Because I complained about myself; I don't like or accept myself.

Humans are social creatures: we have an innate ability to identify people who like themselves and those who don't. Often those who do are confident and approachable. And it has nothing to do with morality! Even the most vile of characters out there can be very likeable and they use it to their advantage! Similarly, even the kindest of people can be disliked. They usually appear aloof and detached.

You sound quite young. I'd suggest you to start putting yourself out there more and meet new people but this time affording more acceptance to yourself. And don't go in with the expectation of being accepted. Go with the expectation that you'll fully self-express and enjoy yourself. Do this and you'll see magic happen.

Good Luck.

 

[dead22222]

If you don't like or accept yourself first, how can you expect people to?
If I were to walk into a room full of strangers and the first words that came out of my mouth were how horrific I am of a person, do you think people would be attracted towards me or be repelled? Doesn't matter if there was any truth to what I had said, people won't like me still. Why? Because I complained about myself; I don't like or accept myself.

Humans are social creatures: we have an innate ability to identify people who like themselves and those who don't. Often those who do are confident and approachable. And it has nothing to do with morality! Even the most vile of characters out there can be very likeable and they use it to their advantage! Similarly, even the kindest of people can be disliked. They usually appear aloof and detached.

You sound quite young. I'd suggest you to start putting yourself out there more and meet new people but this time affording more acceptance to yourself. And don't go in with the expectation of being accepted. Go with the expectation that you'll fully self-express and enjoy yourself. Do this and you'll see magic happen.

Good Luck.

I know what you mean but I think this would only work for a person who can naturally communicate without seeming alien to most people.

 

[dead22222]

If you don't like or accept yourself first, how can you expect people to?
If I were to walk into a room full of strangers and the first words that came out of my mouth were how horrific I am of a person, do you think people would be attracted towards me or be repelled? Doesn't matter if there was any truth to what I had said, people won't like me still. Why? Because I complained about myself; I don't like or accept myself.

Humans are social creatures: we have an innate ability to identify people who like themselves and those who don't. Often those who do are confident and approachable. And it has nothing to do with morality! Even the most vile of characters out there can be very likeable and they use it to their advantage! Similarly, even the kindest of people can be disliked. They usually appear aloof and detached.

You sound quite young. I'd suggest you to start putting yourself out there more and meet new people but this time affording more acceptance to yourself. And don't go in with the expectation of being accepted. Go with the expectation that you'll fully self-express and enjoy yourself. Do this and you'll see magic happen.

Good Luck.

I am much better now thanks for trying to help me i figured out a lot on my own, but i am very one track minded at times and that can make me blind to others perspectives. So i wanted to say thanks for your effort and advice

 

[xinino]

If you don't like or accept yourself first, how can you expect people to?
If I were to walk into a room full of strangers and the first words that came out of my mouth were how horrific I am of a person, do you think people would be attracted towards me or be repelled? Doesn't matter if there was any truth to what I had said, people won't like me still. Why? Because I complained about myself; I don't like or accept myself.

Humans are social creatures: we have an innate ability to identify people who like themselves and those who don't. Often those who do are confident and approachable. And it has nothing to do with morality! Even the most vile of characters out there can be very likeable and they use it to their advantage! Similarly, even the kindest of people can be disliked. They usually appear aloof and detached.

You sound quite young. I'd suggest you to start putting yourself out there more and meet new people but this time affording more acceptance to yourself. And don't go in with the expectation of being accepted. Go with the expectation that you'll fully self-express and enjoy yourself. Do this and you'll see magic happen.

Good Luck.

Is it an urge? Like do you feel something missing inside of you, and do you need a sense of acceptance from others? Because I notice people have the same tendency, personally, I can go for years without interacting with people, I am kinda self indulging guy with some radical ideologies.

 

[sserafim]

Lol I'm the opposite. I hate every member of my own species. Actually, it's more like an apathy rather than hatred

Understandable.
But do you have anything to give?

Wdym

Because you can. Isn't that empowering enough?
Personally, I like the idea of selfless giving more than giving to get something in return. Of course, it's unsustainable to live like that 24/7 but very fulfilling even if done 20% of the times.

Why? How is it fulfilling?

 

[tbroken]

Is it an urge? Like do you feel something missing inside of you, and do you need a sense of acceptance from others? Because I notice people have the same tendency, personally, I can go for years without interacting with people, I am kinda self indulging guy with some radical ideologies.

IMO, interactions or not, the best people just do things and enjoy the time without needing for acceptance.
In my case, I admit I'm one of theme, but trauma made me anxious and thoughtful. I also know now that it will be nearly impossible to feel again the trauma I felt, because it was physical and i healed it. But I'm randomly scared about all other traumas that I may face.
From a certain pov, my speech is extremely logic, but wasting time and forcing my own isolation is something bad, that can cause other traumas.
Morover, recently I was reading an article that perfectly describes my situation: the first trauma had like a domino effect on my life and caused a lot of other traumas; the sad part of all of this, is that I'm 0% responsible of the first f*cking trauma and I refuse to solve problems that I did not create.
I'm stuck in this distorted thing and i cannot find a way out.
Plus, i was forced to go back to live my parents, because i made ONLY wrong choices in my life and now I'm stuck with two old ppl that don't understand anything about life and my father is very dangerous for my mental health. Not to mention my youth friends Let's just laugh about it.
The only REAL solution i found for my self is to CTB. It will erase all problems all at once, like a format C: .

 

[Helvete]

Hey OP. Just know that me, some random kid across the world from you loves you <3 I want the best for you and I am sorry this world has not been kind to you

 

[INTJme]

Is it an urge? Like do you feel something missing inside of you, and do you need a sense of acceptance from others? Because I notice people have the same tendency, personally, I can go for years without interacting with people, I am kinda self indulging guy with some radical ideologies.

Well, you could have very many radical ideologies to look edgy or feel like you're special but your ideologies don't hold any water as long as you're human. How many years have you actually gone without interacting with people before you made the claim that you can "go for years?"

I'm in rage and I'm gonna stop. I don't even know why I'm bothering with you.

 

[Ashu]

I don't hate you, but I might not be a member of your species.

(Just tryin to make ya laugh OK.)

 

[WhatPowerIs]

If you don't like or accept yourself first, how can you expect people to?

This kind of logic has been used by many people in my life to justify their abuses towards me.

 

[INTJme]

This kind of logic has been used by many people in my life to justify their abuses towards me.

Correlation doesn't equal causation.

 

[WhatPowerIs]

Correlation doesn't equal causation.

That they have to work towards anything to find basic acceptance or respect is bullshit.

 

[INTJme]

This kind of logic has been used by many people in my life to justify their abuses towards me

If you're going to quote me, at least quote me fully instead of selectively choosing a statement and completely disregarding the message that follows. There's always a context to something and I provided an example after that statement to explain what I meant. If you don't agree, either come up with a logical argument to debate or agree to disagree instead of dismissing someone or their statements that has nothing to do with you.

 

[xinino]

Well, you could have very many radical ideologies to look edgy or feel like you're special but your ideologies don't hold any water as long as you're human. How many years have you actually gone without interacting with people before you made the claim that you can "go for years?"

I'm in rage and I'm gonna stop. I don't even know why I'm bothering with you.

Sorry if you felt this way. I was serious, it was not just about you. I genuinely know people who did crazy stuff to be accepted, and I just want to know what motivates them, is there common ground?

About ideologies, it is odd to not be radical in this crazy world actually, everybody should be radical, not just minorities that should be the norm, there is nothing special about that, and I said I could go for years without interaction because ordinary conversation adds nothing to my contentment; I don't need it, only the bear minimum to survive.

 

[greebo6]

Almost every human I ever encounter hates me . (Probably mostly because of me being so ugly)
It is as good a reason as any other to give up and ctb.