Has anyone thought about going missing?

[Coal54321]

The thought of just running away from everything and going missing for a while in summer or something so I can sleep outside while it's warm is really exciting to me. I don't know if I would come back or if I would ctb while I'm gone, but it's something I would really like to try. The only reason I am not going to is because of my family... I did run away once when I was in my late teens and they freaked out really badly even though I was only gone for a few hours. I've thought about maybe leaving and then texting them once I'm far away that I'm ok and to not worry, but I'm not sure - I feel like it would defeat the purpose.

 

[LunaRory]

I once said I was going on a camping trip with friends to get away from a difficult situation. Totally different circumstances, but it bought me some time before anyone noticed something was up and me packing a bag didn't raise any suspicion

 

[d3c96524be95]

10 years ago, I was a student already struggling with suicidal thoughts, and my parents were very worried for me. They once again wanted me to go to a psych ward which I couldn't really refuse. So the night before my admission, I just ran away. I initially wanted to end my life somewhere I'd be missing forever, but never had the guts for some reasons… I got caught by police after a few weeks of wandering.

I have mixed feelings about this episode. Leaving everything behind for a moment was kind of a relief, although I knew it wouldn't last. Also, my parents realized at this moment that imprisoning me would never be a solution. But yeah, they were so worried. They left me voice messages that I listened to once back in my "old life", and that was really heartbreaking. It made me feel even more shitty and hopeless. I now have to weigh that into my suicide plans.

Going missing, in all likelihood, will profoundly hurt your family. Depending on your situation, they may understand that you feel the urge to disconnect though.

 

[sheepgirl]

I would love too. I'd love to run away somewhere and just disappear for a while, maybe come back maybe ctb. But can't afford to leave and couldn't put people through it. I've been missing for a few hours before and it freaked people the fuck out, still feel bad..

 

[prone2fury]

the idea of running really far away from home so that nobody in my life can find me is liberating as hell. it's like entering a universe where all my problems are solved. i'd probably even keep myself alive just to enjoy all that freedom.

of course that's mostly a fantasy, but still. groovy idea

 

[Coal54321]

I would love too. I'd love to run away somewhere and just disappear for a while, maybe come back maybe ctb. But can't afford to leave and couldn't put people through it. I've been missing for a few hours before and it freaked people the fuck out, still feel bad..

The exact same thing happened with me and I feel the exact same about it. I think part of me just wants to see if the people I want to care will actually care that I'm gone

 

[FireFox]

Hell no going missing is the worst because Your entire private life will now become open public scrutiny by the media, police and public. Everything in your life will eventually come out. Here in the UK where I live a 45 year old mother and dogwalker called Nicola bulley has gone missing and the media coverage here is huge. She was last seen logged in a Microsoft Teams meeting call in a park where she was walking her dog.

On social media the British public are scrutinising everything in her life, her relationship, her job etc and have been going through all her Facebook posts.Her disappearance now has been subject to multiple conspiracy theories. The theories on social media are absolutely disgusting.The family are even getting social media abuse and harassment from the social media true crime community. It is disgusting.

The theories are the following:

- Her husband killed her even though the police have evidence he was working all day the day she disappeared. The fact the husband wasn't crying and breaking down on his SKY news appearance people think he killed her. I watched his appearance on chanel 5 news and it is so clear this man is devastated his partner is missing and cant explain to his kids where their mother is. His eyes show his pain and hurt. It is so clear he deeply loves his partner

- the husband and Nicola Bulley sister are having an affair and they both killed her

- Nicola bulley faked her disappearance to start a new life
- Nicola, the husband and family all colluded to fake her missing to get money and fame.
- others think she killed herself
- Many people believe think she was abducted. My mum believes this too.

Going missing there is no dignity

 

[SunnysSunset]

Every day. Tbh the only thing thats keeping me from not doing it is that I don't want my weight on a missing persons poster.

 

[FireWalkWithMe]

In my opinion the motivation for something like this shouldn't be the attention of doing it, or to be vindictive towards others. It should purely be to satisfy something within you. If you need to get away just do it, and then do the right thing, which is to inform people so they do not worry.

 

[FireFox]

Every day. Tbh the only thing thats keeping me from not doing it is that I don't want my weight on a missing persons poster.

@SunnysSunset You might not even make the news. When it comes to missing persons caes depending which demographic an individual belongs to some cases will get more media coverage than others.

Missing White Woman Syndrome which is theory in sociology. The pharse Missing White Syndrome was originally coined by the late black female American journalist called Gwen Ifill . She used presented an American channel called PBS news. Missing White Woman Syndrome is also a theory used today in sociology and by sociologists.
Missing White woman Syndrome means the media coverage of White middle class attractive women who go missing is excessive compared to women who are working class, ethnic minorities ( UK term to describe black and asain) or people of colour, disability and other marginalised groups of women in society.

Sociologists throughout the years have used examples of how excessive media coverage of missing women in the UK and the USA and worldwide is.

 

[Polarbears42]

I've been thinking of going missing on a camping trip. I live in an area of extreme vast wilderness, and I live several thousand miles away from my family. I could tell a few people I'm camping someplace, and go off somewhere else, deep into the wilderness, find a nice secluded spot, and ctb. Nobody would find me. I wonder what would be harder on my family, having them find my body in an obvious suicide, or have them believe I went missing on a solo backpacking trip.

 

[lunarpixels]

I think about it a lot recently too. I mean, if I'm being realistic, I could probably plan to go missing during a camping trip this year, preferably strung out on some bad shit I got somewhere.

 

[AllMyDreams]

When I was suicidal yeah I thought about it. But I realized that going missing without telling anyone can be just as bad as committing suicide (or even worse). If you're dead, there's no coming back, but if you leave a suicide note explaining why, at least there's closure, and people can eventually move on. If you're missing and are found or decide to come back, it's a huge relief, but if you're not quickly found your loved ones' entire lives will be consumed with trying to find you, or hoping you're still out there.

(Not endorsing either option, FWIW)