GOODBYE

[StarryStarry]

I wish you endless peace but you really should reflect before continuing to post endless disrespect against rain. this community would literally not be here without them. i'm deeply sorry for the situation! <3 but did you not have evidence of abuse beyond this person just being an ex of yours that was painful to see? Please understands mods cannot ban people solely because another member says they don't like them or they make them sad, any mod who operated that way wouldn't have a platform for long. My experience after the transition has been more positive, I've reported bigoted/homophobic/transphobic content and it was immediately removed, whereas before hate speech wasn't punished. IDK, I don't wanna invalidate anyone here and I genuinely wish you the best, but this situation is not black and white like you're seeing it in your current state.

Obviously you received your information from the dumb ass. She is worthless as a moderator either too young or too dumb or both. Maybe if you received the "real" sotry you might feel different. I'm not in any "state." But you certainly are one fucked up individual. Keep your nose up Rain's ass so she can continue to use you.

 

[PrincessInWhite]

Obviously you received your information from the dumb ass. She is worthless as a moderator either too young or too dumb or both. Maybe if you received the "real" sotry you might feel different. I'm not in any "state." But you certainly are one fucked up individual. Keep your nose up Rain's ass so she can continue to use you.

I haven't spoken to her at all regarding this, nor do I intend to. My opinions are my own. You seem so deeply hurt and it makes me sad. I genuinely hope things improve for you.

 

[Journeytoletgo]

I hope you find peace whether away from this site or not

 

[StarryStarry]

You have no idea how I feel so don't even suggest that you do. I am NOT hurt I'm PISSED OFF. Yup, maybe you like rain but if she had spoken to you the way she spoke to me I doubt you would be as kind. She has no ability to do the job she is doing. Hence, she can't do the job. Maybe you like her personally well that's great. Good for you. She has no clue how to deal with people and being in the position she is in I would think that would be an issue. But hey keep lovin on her. You two deserve each other.

I hope you find peace whether away from this site or not

Thank you!

 

[PrincessInWhite]

You have no idea how I feel so don't even suggest that you do. I am NOT hurt I'm PISSED OFF. Yup, maybe you like rain but if she had spoken to you the way she spoke to me I doubt you would be as kind. She has no ability to do the job she is doing. Hence, she can't do the job. Maybe you like her personally well that's great. Good for you. She has no clue how to deal with people and being in the position she is in I would think that would be an issue. But hey keep lovin on her. You two deserve each other.

Thank you!

peace to you!

 

[Niko66]

Sorry but if you are going to publicly call out and insult people the least you can do is give some evidence (or actual details) of what actually went on so we can make a judgment other than "this person is an abuser" "this person is an enabler" without providing any context beyond vague statements and expect everyone to raise their pitchforks against them, if you aren't comfortable sharing that then I don't know what this is aiming to acomplish but attack these people, and yet again, if that was the aim then what's so bad about showing some evidence? If not of your personal relationship which might too intimate, then of the mistreatment you got from the admin.

 

[_Seeking]

I'm sorry that you don't feel comfortable continuing to post here. If you change your mind, feel free to come back. I don't know what happened, but I say don't give him the satisfaction of leaving. There are a lot of good people here, but this site also attracts some of the worst dregs of society unfortunately and they come here to prey on the vulnerable. I think every forum has its bad apples, but it feels worse on this site because so many here are already in such a bad state.

 

[StarryStarry]

I'm sorry that you don't feel comfortable continuing to post here. If you change your mind, feel free to come back. I don't know what happened, but I say don't give him the satisfaction of leaving. There are a lot of good people here, but this site also attracts some of the worst dregs of society unfortunately and they come here to prey on the vulnerable. I think every forum has its bad apples, but it feels worse on this site because so many here are already in such a bad state.

Thank you for your kind words. Unfortunately, it isn't just him. I went to the mod (rain) and she informed me that what happened was all my fault and she was going to contact this person and talk to him. I couldn't believe what she was saying. If you need a mod DON"T go to her please. Again, thank you for your kind words.

 

[rationaltake]

I'm really sorry about this situation.

I can only say that I have reported various posts which I thought weren't acceptable and they were dealt with appropriately.

 

[StarryStarry]

I'm really sorry about this situation.

I can only say that I have reported various posts which I thought weren't acceptable and they were dealt with appropriately.

Maybe you dealt with someone other than Rain, I don't know maybe she didn't like my posts maybe she hates women who knows and honestly I don't care. She is going to say the wrong thing to the wrong person and the shit is going to hit the fan. I see it coming with her in a position of "authority." Sad, very sad. Not all the mods on here are like here. I wouldn't put all of them in that basket.

 

[Angi]

I am sorry to see you leave, StarryStarry. And I am very sad to see you in pain. It must hurt loads to have someone who causes you so much pain around, and then be asked to PROVE this pain, too. Not being believed is terrible. Yet you are standing up for your needs, first by asking for help and then by planning to leave, this is the good bit, I am glad you can do this!

Could you maybe also take a step back and make sure the pain is not making your life even harder as it drives you into rushed decisions? You are already dealing with loads and here I am asking you for more, but if you can, it might help you. You say Rain said "she was going to contact this person and talk to him". Maybe a mod telling him to leave you well alone would accomplish this. After all, he would probably be kicked out if he failed to comply. Would this help you? You could ignore him, and he would have to ignore you. And nobody needs to prove anything.

Whichever decision you make, do know people here like you.

 

[StarryStarry]

I am sorry to see you leave, StarryStarry. And I am very sad to see you in pain. It must hurt loads to have someone who causes you so much pain around, and then be asked to PROVE this pain, too. Not being believed is terrible. Yet you are standing up for your needs, first by asking for help and then by planning to leave, this is the good bit, I am glad you can do this!

Could you maybe also take a step back and make sure the pain is not making your life even harder as it drives you into rushed decisions? You are already dealing with loads and here I am asking you for more, but if you can, it might help you. You say Rain said "she was going to contact this person and talk to him". Maybe a mod telling him to leave you well alone would accomplish this. After all, he will probably be kicked out if he fails to comply. Would this help you? You could ignore him, and he would have to ignore you.

What rain told me was that she was going to contact him to find out what happened. Not to tell him to avoid me or ban him. Years ago something really bad happened to me and I told someone I trusted - they didn't believe me. I felt the same way even though I don't know rain nor do I want to. But she was that person for that moment when I was pouring my heart out to her and she said it was my fault. There are some people in the world who are worthless - they usually don't realize how worthless they really are right Rain?

 

[Eris666]

i dont know you but please dont leave!
dont let this person win

 

[rationaltake]

I can only say that Rain stands up for women's rights.

 

[StarryStarry]

I can only say that Rain stands up for women' rights.

Well, I'm a woman and she didn't stand up for mine. So I know you think she is wonderful and good for your, but I know what she really is and I"m not going to continue the conversation.

 

[WorthlessTrash]

When and how did she tell you it was all your fault? That sounds very odd coming from a moderator. I don't know if she did or not, so I that's why I am asking.

 

[RainAndSadness]

Wow. I've never said it's your fault. I actually validated your feelings and tried to make sure you understand that I'm on your side. Post my message. I tried to solve this issue with you on good terms and explained to you why I can't fulfill your request to ban that member without further input. It's absurd that you would make up lies about me.

 

[Lullaby]

Starry, maybe you need some time for yourself. I know things have been rough for you lately, and this was probably the tipping point. Going back and forth with everyone is only going to make you feel worse than you do right now.

I would log off, spend some time with your cat, try to get some rest and relax as much as you can. Give yourself a break today.

 

[StarryStarry]

Wow. I've never said it's your fault. I actually validated your feelings and tried to make sure you understand that I'm on your side. Post my message. I tried to solve this issue with you on good terms and explained to you why I can't fulfill your request to ban that member without further input. It's absurd that you would make up lies about me.

The truth hurts doesn't it. You are a crappy moderator. Nothing more to be said to you.

 

[Angi]

Years ago something really bad happened to me and I told someone I trusted - they didn't believe me. I felt the same way even though I don't know rain nor do I want to.

Please reread this! You have been through a lot of pain and your head is just spilling it out over Rain's head. I have not seen your conversation, but from everything you say, even ignoring her part, I think your pain from the past is driving you away from your support here, just so it can feast on your soul.

Starry, maybe you need some time for yourself. I know things have been rough for you lately, and this was probably the tipping point. Going back and forth with everyone is only going to make you feel worse than you do right now.

I would log off, spend some time with your cat, try to get some rest and relax as much as you can. Give yourself a break today.

And I want to second this! Have some time with Sweet Pea, who is definitly kind to you. Noone better for bad times!

 

[RainAndSadness]

Actually I'm the one who needs a break here. I literally gave you specific approval to post my message. You're obviously not gonna do it, you'll leave this forum without standing up to your accusations - because we both know they're made up. I literally sent you a message right when you posted that thread about a bad experience in this forum and I told you very clearly that I feel for your pain and I understand it's a very difficult situation, especially when you're dealing with other mental baggage. I told you to explain to me what happened so I can see if I can take action, if necessary. The only reason why we're having this conversation now is because I didn't ban that member. Simply because I have no way of knowing what happened. I understand that your experience in this forum is highly affected when you have to share this space with your ex-partner, especially when you consider them a bad person and when you have painful memories about your shared past. But I did never imply that any of this is your fault because I know how it feels to be in that position. I'm so tired of these accusations.

 

[rationaltake]

Actually I'm the one who needs a break here. I literally gave you specific approval to post my message. You're obviously not gonna do it, you'll leave this forum without standing up to your accusations - because we both know they're made up. I literally sent you a message right when you posted that thread about a bad experience in this forum and I told you very clearly that I feel for your pain and I understand it's a very difficult situation, especially when you're dealing with other mental baggage. I told you to explain to me what happened so I can see if I can take action, if necessary. The only reason why we're having this conversation now is because I didn't ban that member. Simply because I have no way of knowing what happened. I understand that your experience in this forum is highly affected when you have to share this space with your ex-partner, especially when you consider them a bad person and when you have painful memories about your shared past. But I did never imply that any of this is your fault because I know how it feels to be in that position. I'm so tired of these accusations.

Yes you're the administrator. You're also a member of SS who deserves the same courtesy and consideration we all do. I'm sorry for the bad experiences you've been through.

 

[downndone2]

Thank you Cathy - that's exactly how I am feeling. THe really sad part of all this is that the mods refuse to help me. The one and only place where I thought I could get help and they turn their back on me. This site has gone downhill since changing hands. ALl I can say is you can't speak freely here anymore - there are people on this site whose only intention is to tear people down while the mods sit back and not do a damn thing. Very sad.
THIS REPLY IS FOR EVERYONE WHO HAS EVER BEEN KIND AND CONSIDERATE OF ME. I TRULY APPRECIATE IT. UNFORTUNATELY, MODS REFUSE TO ASSIST ME AND HAVE TAKEN THE SIDE OF THE ABUSER SO I'M SIGNING OFF NOW. I JUST WANTED THE PEOPLE WHO HAVE HELPED ME THAT I DO APPRECIATE YOU ALL.

Thank you. Unfortunately when I went to the mods for assistance they failed in their obligations and took his side. Sad very sad.

HIS NAME IS CAPSICUM_CORRAL

Not sure if that went through or not. The guy's name on this site is Capsicum_Corral.

I'm sorry to see you go. I wish you peace in this life. Wish I wouldve seen this post earlier. Take care of yourself and your precious cat.

 

[Angi]

Yes you're the administrator. You're also a member of SS who deserves the same courtesy and consideration we all do. I'm sorry for the bad experiences you've been through.

Sorry, Rain, we entirely missed validating your feelings here. With me, this is the power differential at work, but this is an explanation and certainly not an excuse.

Having someone who hurt you intrude in your space is terrible. Also, calling someone worthless is not ok and would (presumably) have been looked after by a mod, had it not been directed at you. This is very unfair. You are not worthless, nor any of the other stuff mentioned. Trying your best in a given situation and being blamed for all that is wrong in the world sounds so frustrating! I wish you also had a lovely old cat I could send you to pet now... Or a bunch of humans who I could promise will do better. But then, we are evidently the best community we could find online, so this is as close to a nice cat as I can give you: https://www.reddit.com/r/Eyebleach/ In terms of people, I am sure most of us are aware that you were doing your best to protect the wounded and that you simply had no levers in hand to end this in a good way.

 

[indigomoon]

Well crap. I have no idea what is going on it I wish you would consider staying. I will miss you greatly.

 

[WorthlessTrash]

Look. I don't know what went on between you, Rain and the abuser, but Rain asked you to provide evidence that they stated that the abuse was your fault, and you did not. Some users told you to post evidence that said person on this site was being abusive and did not. When I asked when and how Rain said it was your fault, you didn't respond. Moderators can't just do something extreme like ban someone based off "he said she said" claims. That's not how things work on this site. You wouldn't like it if you got banned for a "he said she said" claim yourself".

Calling the moderators douchebags on your more recent thread because you didn't get your way is childish and immature, no matter how hurt you may be. You very well may have been telling the truth about the abuse, but the moderators and administrators don't know that for sure without evidence. And the fact that Rain was trying to be compassionate here and you resorted to personal attacks, and even wouldn't show evidence of them saying it was your fault makes your claims look dubious at best.

I am sorry that you didn't have a good experience on this site and I wish you the best of luck in life.

 

[may13]

What rain told me was that she was going to contact him to find out what happened. Not to tell him to avoid me or ban him. Years ago something really bad happened to me and I told someone I trusted - they didn't believe me. I felt the same way even though I don't know rain nor do I want to. But she was that person for that moment when I was pouring my heart out to her and she said it was my fault. There are some people in the world who are worthless - they usually don't realize how worthless they really are right Rain?

I am sorry that about whatever hurt you, but many of us here already feel worthless, and I think you are crossing a line into abuse here.

I am sorry. Just one persons opinion.