god i still miss him

[emptymiku]

when we hung out every day i was happy why did the one thing that made me feel alive have to be taken away from me i wish he wasnt so busy all of the time thats all i want

 

[MyLifeisHell]

Can you reach out at all?

 

[emptymiku]

Can you reach out at all?

i can but i don't know if he wants me to, and i'm scared that he doesn't

he's been so busy that i would just be bothering him and i don't want to do that

 

[Meditation guide]

I'll say something that won't make sense or be appreciated but I wish someone had said it to me when I was missing someone who didn't have time for me: Move on, put him in your rear view mirror and wait for someone who does want to be with you.

I know, you want only him around but time is valuable. Make the most of yours. Life can be good when you're with someone who appreciates and values you and wants to be with you.

And in the meantime learn to enjoy your own company and do things by yourself including movies or whatever you can manage. The most wonderful person on earth is worthless if they don't have time for you. When he does decide he has nothing better to do and contacts you, you will be too busy to see HIM!

I know all this was useless information because you only want him but at least you got some good advice, even though it probably won't help.

 

[TheLastGreySky]

i can but i don't know if he wants me to, and i'm scared that he doesn't

he's been so busy that i would just be bothering him and i don't want to do that

I would say try once, pour your heart out, and then if he doesn't give you another chance then move forward.

 

[Meditation guide]

I would say try once, pour your heart out, and then if he doesn't give you another chance then move forward.

That would just sound pathetic in my opinion. At times like this it's most important to try to preserve your dignity, and save face, which when you look back will make you feel ok with yourself. It's important to think of your own self respect. In fact the most important thing of all when this happens.

Also it's not too appealing when you don't have time for someone, and they confront you with how much they miss you and are asking them for something you don't want to do, which is spend time with them.

 

[emptymiku]

That would just sound pathetic in my opinion. At times like this it's most important to try to preserve your dignity, and save face, which when you look back will make you feel ok with yourself. It's important to think of your own self respect. In fact the most important thing of all when this happens.

Also it's not too appealing when you don't have time for someone, and they confront you with how much they miss you and are asking them for something you don't want to do, which is spend time with them.

yeah, that last part is what ive been trying to avoid so heavily

 

[hi-okbye]

i understand how you feel so much,.. sort of. my partner died but i can still relate to the feeling of just missing them all day and just wanting them back. if you two were meant to be, then it'll probably happen at one point or another.

 

[foxgirl]

i understand how you feel so much,.. sort of. my partner died but i can still relate to the feeling of just missing them all day and just wanting them back. if you two were meant to be, then it'll probably happen at one point or another.

So sorry to hear that… this is definitely something I needed to read today. If it's meant to be, it'll be. Just not today.

 

[TheLastGreySky]

That would just sound pathetic in my opinion. At times like this it's most important to try to preserve your dignity, and save face, which when you look back will make you feel ok with yourself. It's important to think of your own self respect. In fact the most important thing of all when this happens.

Also it's not too appealing when you don't have time for someone, and they confront you with how much they miss you and are asking them for something you don't want to do, which is spend time with them.

Then do what makes you happy, I agree with what you said about being okay with yourself, but it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of you.

 

[Meditation guide]

It's about having boundaries, and as someone who only recently learned to have them, I've finally realized it's better to walk away when anyone makes you feel sad and hurt.

 

[emptymiku]

I think that you should reach out to him. Maybe he misses you too, but is also scared to reach out for potential reasons? Life is so short, so If I was in your position, I would definitely reach out to him. Let us know how it goes

i just can't do that. the reason we stopped talking was because he's busy and doesn't have time for me, not because of a falling out or something that can be repaired. i'm so scared to reach out but i feel so lonely without him, i don't know what to do anymore