Ghost them or tell them I ctb'd?

[inverse-weibull]

I have a few close online friends and I'm not really sure which is better. I'd love to write them a letter for after I ctb, where I let them know how much they meant to me. A few of them might suspect I ctb'd, but I don't know if the additional closure is worth the grief it might cause. For any one else with online friends, what are your plans?

 

[threevoices]

if it were me personally, i would tell them, especially if youre close. i had a partner disappear off the internet randomly once over 5 years ago and it still affects me to this day unfortunately. maybe it would hurt for them to find out but it may end up hurting them more if they suddenly never hear from you again. at the very least, i think it might be a little worrying, but this is just my take

 

[Pale_Rider]

I'm not telling anybody anything. There will be no note.

 

[moonflow3r]

Closure is nice

 

[Big_Eal]

I'm not telling anybody anything. There will be no note.

same here

 

[inverse-weibull]

if it were me personally, i would tell them, especially if youre close. i had a partner disappear off the internet randomly once over 5 years ago and it still affects me to this day unfortunately. maybe it would hurt for them to find out but it may end up hurting them more if they suddenly never hear from you again. at the very least, i think it might be a little worrying, but this is just my take

I'm really sorry that happened. I've been trying to weigh which might cause more pain, obviously neither is great. Thank you for sharing your experience, that's really insightful.

 

[Stan Swiftie]

If they're not enough to keep you alive, they don't really matter, do they?
Ghost them.

 

[getoutgirl]

Hi, I relate to that. There is no nice way out, true. I'm holding on to the hope that if I plan it good enough, I can fake it so it seems that I'm still around, away, but living. That I've just started another life. That way they'd be mad at me, but that's better than the grief and sadness they'd feel if they knew the truth. It's giving them closure, but a white lie.
That's just my plan with everyone I know irl, online friends I can't say much. You could say you are stepping off the internet for good? Lie? I don't know how good lying is rn but is all I can tell you of my experience
Do what you think is best. hugs <3

 

[Hymn223]

i'll tell the ones that are close but not close enough that they know my real life identity, because they can't stop me

 

[FeelingsMachineCC]

Methinks that it's better to tell the people you care about, even if it may cause pain to them...
Personally me plans on writing a couple, 'cause at least they will know you loved them.

 

[inverse-weibull]

Hi, I relate to that. There is no nice way out, true. I'm holding on to the hope that if I plan it good enough, I can fake it so it seems that I'm still around, away, but living. That I've just started another life. That way they'd be mad at me, but that's better than the grief and sadness they'd feel if they knew the truth. It's giving them closure, but a white lie.
That's just my plan with everyone I know irl, online friends I can't say much. You could say you are stepping off the internet for good? Lie? I don't know how good lying is rn but is all I can tell you of my experience
Do what you think is best. hugs <3

That's actually a really great idea, thank you. I'd still be able to let them know how much they mean to me, but hopefully prevent some grief. I'm not sure exactly what lie I'd use, I'll brainstorm on it for sure. Wishing you the best too <3

 

[Subhumano]

I would just tell them and then disconnect before they can answer

 

[GUZMA]

I probably won't tell them because I'll be too emotional to think about it but I may schedule a message to one of them that I can cancel if I survive, they'd probably make sure everyone new so that'd be easier for me.

 

[LittleMagician]

I have a few close online friends and I'm not really sure which is better. I'd love to write them a letter for after I ctb, where I let them know how much they meant to me. A few of them might suspect I ctb'd, but I don't know if the additional closure is worth the grief it might cause. For any one else with online friends, what are your plans?

if you're really close you should tell them