Friend keeps ignoring me. AITA?

[c4bomba]

The only friend i have keeps ignoring me for some reason. She'd leave me on read and reply days later. She's not busy, she said so herself. She was consistently active on discord or spending 2 or so hours playing some game. It makes me extremely mad because I like talking to her. Of course you can forget to reply back but there's a limit. Im mad because why can't you spare two seconds to reply to me or something is it that hard? I'm so mad I'm gonna throw the whole friendship away, I've been lonely all my life i dont mind being lonely for whatever little time left of my miserable pathetic life. And also because i feel like I've been to attached to her like a pathetic dog.

But i don't know if that's the right or sensible thing to do. WIBTA?

 

[SASU-KE]

Don't go full no contact. Reciprocate the same way. If she responds once a day, do the same thing. There's no point in putting too much effort into a relationship that's one sided. That being said, it's also not right to completely abandon the person.Just put in the same amount of effort they're putting.

 

[Abyss Dweller]

Agree with Sasuke.

I know your frustration, most of the friendships I ever had felt one-sided because I care too much.
But going nuclear about it only gives relief short term.

 

[MapleS]

Maybe talk to her about it?

 

[c4bomba]

Don't go full no contact. Reciprocate the same way. If she responds once a day, do the same thing. There's no point in putting too much effort into a relationship that's one sided. That being said, it's also not right to completely abandon the person.Just put in the same amount of effort they're putting.

I'm too attached and pathetic to do that. Besides i don't think she'd care as much

 

[etherealgoddess]

The only friend i have keeps ignoring me for some reason. She'd leave me on read and reply days later. She's not busy, she said so herself. She was consistently active on discord or spending 2 or so hours playing some game. It makes me extremely mad because I like talking to her. Of course you can forget to reply back but there's a limit. Im mad because why can't you spare two seconds to reply to me or something is it that hard? I'm so mad I'm gonna throw the whole friendship away, I've been lonely all my life i dont mind being lonely for whatever little time left of my miserable pathetic life. And also because i feel like I've been to attached to her like a pathetic dog.

But i don't know if that's the right or sensible thing to do. WIBTA?

I honestly do this. You just have to accept it or not accept it. I usually get depressed and overwhelmed and ghost people for up to two weeks and then try talking again.

 

[LonelyPrince]

I feel like you should talk to her. Pretending nothing is wrong and copying her behavior will only make you bottle your feelings up and make you suffer more.
I'm sorry this is happening to you, I too have a friend sorta like that.

 

[c4bomba]

I feel like you should talk to her. Pretending nothing is wrong and copying her behavior will only make you bottle your feelings up and make you suffer more.
I'm sorry this is happening to you, I too have a friend sorta like that.

How do i even approach it? Maybe it's partof normal life what if I'm just overthinking and she's just fine and doesn't hate me. I don't know how to approach it because what if it's a normal thing people do? But it does make me mad yes but what if I'm overreacting. I'm second guessing nyself. Sorry i just want some clarity and I'm mindlessly complaining

 

[LonelyPrince]

How do i even approach it? Maybe it's partof normal life what if I'm just overthinking and she's just fine and doesn't hate me. I don't know how to approach it because what if it's a normal thing people do? But it does make me mad.

It's not supposed to be normal but it has become common to do since there are no direct consequences due to it all being online. Face to face people wouldn't do this.

Your feelings are valid. If I were to approach it I would say something along the lines of: "Hey, I've noticed that in the past few days you haven't been answering to my texts and I haven't heard much from you. It's bothering me. Is everything okay?"

 

[c4bomba]

It's not supposed to be normal but it has become common to do since there are no direct consequences due to it all being online. Face to face people wouldn't do this.

Your feelings are valid. If I were to approach it I would say something along the lines of: "Hey, I've noticed that in the past few days you haven't been answering to my texts and I haven't heard much from you. It's bothering me. Is everything okay?"

Thank you so much