Help Freeze my eggs before I go OOF ☠️🪦💨

[ShinyScissors]

I am a perfectly healthy and fit 20F. I have no family history of illness like cancer, heart disease, or obesity. Only genetic mental illnesses are OCD, ADHD, and anxiety.

I was not born with depression and neither were my relatives. My family lineage possesses attractive physical assets as well.

I think if I had a kid they would have a better chance at life than me. I want to pass on my ambition, creativity, innovation, and empathy to someone else to do great things. My potential has been obliterated by my trauma.

I was thinking about freezing my eggs before I CBT & leave them for my partner. Is it selfish to want to continue my lineage when I want to OOF myself? Please be kind I'm pretty open minded.

 

[DepressedDude]

Yes

 

[ShinyScissors]

Yes

Thank you for your honest opinion

 

[fedupwithlife]

Yes

Why

 

[DepressedDude]

Why

Antinatalism

 

[idk3]

My potential has been obliterated by my trauma.

I haven't yet looked too deep into the topic, but I think there's a chance you might pass this trauma on through something called "Intergenerational trauma". It's said to affect epigenetics, so there could be a chance the kid ends up in a similar position to where you are currently.

Wish you all the best in whatever choice you decide to make.

 

[ShinyScissors]

I haven't yet looked too deep into the topic, but I think there's a chance you might pass this trauma on through something called "Intergenerational trauma". It's said to affect epigenetics, so there could be a chance the kid ends up in a similar position to where you are currently.

Wish you all the best in whatever choice you decide to make.

If that's the case I will throw my idea completely out. That's the last thing I'd ever want. I will not extend this suffering into another life. Thank you for informing me.

 

[rozeske]

There will be a better chance of you passing on the mental illnesses and possibly trauma than ambition, creativity, innovation, and empathy and possibility to do great things. Those things are more related to the child's personality and the way they are raised and the types of parents they had. They are more related to the kind of environment and society they are exposed to. I think there is a good chance of this going south, not to mention the child having to grow up with only one paternal parent and having to live with many unanswered questions in their head.
Wanting to have a child and wishing to do your best to give them the life, love and opportunity you never had is understandable and only natural. But Wanting to bring one when you won't even be there with the possibility of things that could go wrong, can be a bit "controversial".

 

[Agon321]

Do what you think.

I personally don't see anything wrong with it.

 

[ShinyScissors]

There will be a better chance of you passing on the mental illnesses and possibly trauma than ambition, creativity, innovation, and empathy and possibility to do great things. Those things are more related to the child's personality and the way they are raised and the types of parents they had. They are more related to the kind of environment and society they are exposed to. I think there is a good chance of this going south, not to mention the child having to grow up with only one paternal parent and having to live with many unanswered questions in their head.
Wanting to have a child and wishing to do your best to give them the life, love and opportunity you never had is understandable and only natural. But Wanting to bring one when you won't even be there with the possibility of things that could go wrong, can be a bit "controversial".

That makes sense, I can see how having only one parent can create instability in itself. I knew this could be a potentially controversial topic and I am relieved by your level headed response. There would be no way I could protect him/her from outside sources of trauma if I'm not there.

 

[cowboypants]

If my "imagined" partner died and I have their eggs I wouldn't want to make a baby from it. Apart from it being cyberpunk weird. I would feel sad seeing the resemblance everyday

 

[BardBarrie]

I am a perfectly healthy and fit 20F. I have no family history of illness like cancer, heart disease, or obesity. Only genetic mental illnesses are OCD, ADHD, and anxiety.

I was not born with depression and neither were my relatives. My family lineage possesses attractive physical assets as well.

I think if I had a kid they would have a better chance at life than me. I want to pass on my ambition, creativity, innovation, and empathy to someone else to do great things. My potential has been obliterated by my trauma.

I was thinking about freezing my eggs before I CBT & leave them for my partner. Is it selfish to want to continue my lineage when I want to OOF myself? Please be kind I'm pretty open minded.

I mean if you intend to CTB then I don't see the point of freezing your eggs.
Any potential kids will most-likely learn of their bio mum and wonder why she left this world.

 

[fleetingnight]

It's not a bad idea in theory, but I personally think the world is too dark and cruel for most people to succeed or be okay in it. Like a lot ppl have said, I don't exactly condone bringing people into this world, but I completely get where the you're coming from. And I'm sorry you don't feel like there's a chance for you here, I wish the world was kinder and easier to live in.

 

[Neon Grave]

I personally think the world is too dark and cruel for most people to succeed or be okay in it.

Pretty much my thoughts, beyond the possibility of passing on genetic depression somehow. I genuinely feel sad for the younger generation. The world is systematically set up for them to fail.

 

[ForgottenAgain]

If my "imagined" partner died and I have their eggs I wouldn't want to make a baby from it. Apart from it being cyberpunk weird. I would feel sad seeing the resemblance everyday

I second this opinion. Also, could limit the partner's ability to get another girlfriend since he would be a single dad. Another scenario would be him having your child while dating another woman which I find super unlikely.

The traits you want to pass on are much more dependant on how the child is raised rather than genes. Imo, you'd have to be alive and present in the child's life to try to guarantee that those values are passed on.

 

[Throwawayacc3]

I haven't yet looked too deep into the topic, but I think there's a chance you might pass this trauma on through something called "Intergenerational trauma". It's said to affect epigenetics, so there could be a chance the kid ends up in a similar position to where you are currently.

Wish you all the best in whatever choice you decide to make.

This. It's to do with epigenetics. Trauma and mental illness cause chemical markers on genes.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6952751/

 

[mengbao]

It is your decision to have your eggs frozen. If you want why not?

 

[timetodie24]

How would you partner feel about it ?
Someone needs to be the surrogate for your eggs . It's hard enough to find willing surrogates for living people, never mind eggs from a dead person. Not many would be comfortable. And if your partner finds a new partner then that complicates things, how many people would be happy with that set-up ? What if they want their own kids, would they by surrogate for your eggs ? unlikely as i'd imagine they'd want to go 'traditional' route if they're able.

 

[Hotsackage]

I have ocd to, no way in hell would I want to procreate with that. But each to their own, wish you well.