Dont tell people you want to ctb

[thedaywillcome]

Its not a good idea! Because they react as society wants

 

[FuneralCry]

I would personally never tell people that I want to ctb as it seems like in this world many people do not respect the right to die. It would do no good telling other people, it would only make things worse. They would never accept and understand my decision, they would expect me to suffer for decades.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

One would think that would be obvious, but, I guess, we all think a little differently. Honestly, for me, I think that if someone tells another about their ctb plans, it is, actually, a cry for help, signifying that they aren't really ready. Just what I feel.

 

[Achlys]

One would think that would be obvious, but, I guess, we all think a little differently. Honestly, for me, I think that if someone tells another about their ctb plans, it is, actually, a cry for help, signifying that they aren't really ready. Just what I feel.

That's how I feel as well.

What do you make of talking of plans on forums such as this one?

 

[Shu]

I want to die

 

[WorthlessTrash]

I want to die

Same :(

 

[its-about-time]

There's an acceptable grey area to talk about it with some people. It's also a good way to get help if that's what someone is wanting but feels otherwise unable to ask for it directly.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

That's how I feel as well.

What do you make of talking of plans on forums such as this one?

Well, to be honest, I've thought about that. I know, for me anyway, that I'm not using any encryption, or Tor browser, or anything, so my IP address is right out there for anyone to find, and that could be traced to back to me. But, I'm not very concerned because I don't have anyone anymore concerned about me who could stop me. Some people are here to cry out for help. Some want information because their mind is already made up. Some are just looking to vent. Some will be helped because they'll be able to see that so many others it way worse than they do, not to diminish anyone's problems because they are all real and devastating for anyone experiencing them. Some are just trying to get a reprieve from their tortuous thoughts and lives, even if only for a short while. Some are just here to alleviate their loneliness. The reason are endless, really.

 

[Symbiote]

People that care about you will try to help, people that don't care will ask for your stuff instead.

 

[Journeytoletgo]

I agree it's pretty foolish to tell people you will CTB

 

[watchingthewheels]

 

[TheStateofCaliforni]

I'm considering telling my partner. They've talked about wanting to ctb before. Stuggling to find the words though; I'm extremely worried they'll tell others.

 

[quix77]

I dont have anyone to tell. No family. Just the one friend. And I feel bad leavibg without saying goodbye.

 

[thedaywillcome]

That's how I feel as well.

What do you make of talking of plans on forums such as this one?

Thats different. First people here are strangers you dont have contact in real life and second people here also want to ctb.

 

[western_heart]

I talk to my gf about suicide to some degree. Not about active plans (except... sometimes I do, she stopped me mid attempt last week)

 

[Fengshuiside]

I told my close friend and he was fine with it and supportive(as in accepting Im doing it). I know if I told any other friends they'd have immediately called and try to stop me etc. This friend said that he's going to be sad when I'm gone and obviously isn't exactly stoked about this, but ultimately he understands that it's out of his power and only person he can control/change is himself.

Also he understands why I am in this situation in the first place. So we just made a deal that since I could be open about it we'll hang out as much as we can for the next 1-2 months before I CTB. I was going to originally do it during early May.

I know this may sound kinda fucked up, but I assume a lot of the people on this forum understands this perspective and don't consider this even weird or anything. We even joke about the subject, we have pretty dark sense of humor. He did say to me that he'd be very pissed at me if I just did it out of nowhere suddenly without a warning like I originally intended.

But yeah this is definitely a very rare case. He's aware of this situation and its unfortunate but the fact he knows doesnt affect our friendship in any way, our interaction is no different from prior to him knowing this.

Definitely I don't recommend telling anyone about your plans, I've done this a few times impulsively and it just sucks for everybody. Either go with the plan and leave a note/delayed email or keep it to yourself. However, talking to someone about feeling suicidal or struggling with mental issues in general is a different case, and you should talk if you have someone you can talk to.

 

[Weebster]

I may start wearing a shirt with CTB written on it. I wonder if anyone in the wild will recognize it

 

[giffel]

One would think that would be obvious, but, I guess, we all think a little differently. Honestly, for me, I think that if someone tells another about their ctb plans, it is, actually, a cry for help, signifying that they aren't really ready. Just what I feel.

Be careful how you interpret things.
You can make speculations but it's not based in truth, necessarily.

See, I read this suicide study and according to them, sharing plans openly was a common act before they actually did it.

I've made the mistake of sharing out of foolishness. It's really stupid to share any plans as this might make people on alert and may supervise you more.

 

[Jred]

I feel like a lot of sources that always call it a cry for help are coming from a viewpoint that doesn't really care to see things from the position of a lot of us here. I'm not here as a cry for help, I don't know any of you; if my closest loved ones can't "help me" see the light of living, surely none of you can. But God, do I wish, if I told my loved ones I want to go, I wish just one of them would tell me that it's okay, understand my feelings, and be supportive of my choice.

 

[downndone2]

I have one person that knows I want to die and he just says he is sorry. I try not to bother him with my thoughts though

 

[CrossroadsCurious]

I may start wearing a shirt with CTB written on it. I wonder if anyone in the wild will recognize it

Most likely not. You have to actively research suicide to find this abbreviation. I never heard/saw "ctb" until I joined this site.

 

[MellowAvenue]

Personally, I think you should tread VERY lightly if you decide to and honestly maybe it isn't worth doing at all ultimately. I'm sure there are good versions of the story but generally it seems people get a response they aren't really happy with, for any number of reasons whether fair or not, and it probably just makes them feel worse even if that's not truly the intent of the person they told.

See, I read this suicide study and according to them, sharing plans openly was a common act before they actually did it.

Without context though that stat seems somewhat shaky as an indicator that they really had committed to it though. It may have been a final cry for help but obviously it may have indeed been a warning to perhaps help brace someone they cared about for something that was going to happen. I'd like to look at the study as well actually if you happen to have a link or recall how you found it.

 

[Weebster]

My family knows and expects it

 

[hockeymum9999]

I used to share with those closest to me when I was struggling more than usual but have been doing this less and less. It is the same shit but a different shovel. I would never share about actually ctb or that I have a plan in place for when I am truly ready because I don't want to be shamed even more than I already am feeling.

This place is the first place that I feel that won't shame me for wanting to end my life, for whatever reason. There is no judgement that I have a plan or don't have a plan, am ready to ctb or not or that I waffle constantly between the two many times daily.

 

[giffel]

Personally, I think you should tread VERY lightly if you decide to and honestly maybe it isn't worth doing at all ultimately. I'm sure there are good versions of the story but generally it seems people get a response they aren't really happy with, for any number of reasons whether fair or not, and it probably just makes them feel worse even if that's not truly the intent of the person they told.



Without context though that stat seems somewhat shaky as an indicator that they really had committed to it though. It may have been a final cry for help but obviously it may have indeed been a warning to perhaps help brace someone they cared about for something that was going to happen. I'd like to look at the study as well actually if you happen to have a link or recall how you found it.

It wasn't sharing plans but being open and talking about killing oneself

Can't recall where from I seen it sorry

 

[giffel]

I have one person that knows I want to die and he just says he is sorry. I try not to bother him with my thoughts though

Pro lifers are truly delusional

 

[Darkover]

i've told my mum and dad, my mum against me leaving, my dad said its up to me what i do, i am hoping my new source of sn arrives when ive got the money to buy it this month, hopefully leaving by the end of this month

 

[BrokenHopes]

I have told a couple of internet friends and a friend that I have met a couple of times IRL. I did not want them to think I just disapeared, so I felt it was an obligation. The one I have met IRL actually reacted very loving. She said she would be there for me in whatever I decide to do. I will not tell them the exact time when the day comes.

I have also talked about it with my mom a couple of days when I still had some hope. In a cry for help I had told a doctor that I possessed a method and would use it the day I no longer have any hope. He said everybody does that and it could be a good outlet.
I got so chocked I told my mom. She has seen my suffering for years, my wholehearted fight to recover, then fall get up again, crash and try it all over again.
She said she wanted to possess of the method and that she would give it to me when I could no longer take it, she wanted to be there with me.
But she is old and very forgetfull so she forgot. Now that Im getting worse she rememberd but Im not giving it. I want to die alone, I dont want to do that to my mom.
Now I must say that I was so moved by my moms words, it was the most love anyone have ever showed.

I would never tell the people I know would go full prolife on me. But there are openminded special people out there who are able to take it.

 

[Releasefrompressure]

My wife is very understanding. She managed to put up with me and now she wants to stick with me until death. She does not want me to die, but I have to go due to the situation I am in.
I will not be able to afford health care and I don't want to have our property sold in order for me to drag out a few years.

She wouldn't mind but I do. I have to be the man here and do what is required of me and quit cowering.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

See, I read this suicide study and according to them, sharing plans openly was a common act before they actually did it.

Yeah, as a last-ditch-effort cry for help. And they probably didn't get any. And not getting any help was what killed the last ounce of hope they had.