Venting Dont know why this happends

[Misfortunete]

i push people away when they try to get close to me i had some friends but i always end up ignoring them after a while i just don't want to talk to them i get annoyed when they try to reach out to me i don't know how to stop this.

 

[hmskms]

keep pushing them away. if theyre not worth opening up to, theyre not worth having around.

 

[Misfortunete]

keep pushing them away. if theyre not worth opening up to, theyre not worth having around.

Yeah you're right,I have this forum now who needs them anyway.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Have you been let down by people in your life? Have people said they cared but ultimately left you? I think sometimes we push people away as a defense mechanism. It hurts to lose people- so to avoid that, sometimes I think it feels safest not to get too close or rely on them to begin with.

It maybe also has to do with upbringing. My Mum died when I was very young and I've read before that motherless children as it were often grow up to be quite independent. I don't know your background and don't mean to pry but I think that can influence things too- if you had a shaky childhood.

I think it also helps to consider what it is that's annoying you. I find often people will spout a load of unrealistic platitudes if I tell them how I really am. That just annoys me because it feels like they are belittling my problems. So- I tend just to avoid the question now. Or, I just say I'm the same as always or- I'm fine if I don't know them so well.

 

[Misfortunete]

Have you been let down by people in your life? Have people said they cared but ultimately left you? I think sometimes we push people away as a defense mechanism. It hurts to lose people- so to avoid that, sometimes I think it feels safest not to get too close or rely on them to begin with.

In all the friend groups I've had I was always the one who got left out on things or they would include me at the last minute maybe this affected me more than I thought. Now I do this to people who don't deserve it and I feel bad about it.