Does venting help you?

[yume_]

I mean specifically here, does it help you? I have vented before and it helped me to organise my thoughts, but if I go from this line of thinking I could just write in a diary or smth.

In a way, I think that it is sweet that somebody in this vast world has read my venting.

Also I think that this is the only place that I could vent since IRL I don't trust people enough.

 

[3spiral]

yes, getting understanding from people and even being kinda relatable is better than getting an "you're weird" that I usually get irl

 

[4colliez]

yes and no, it definitely helps in the moment when i feel like shit but i haaaaaaaate reading back on my posts lol. i hate oversharing and being publicly emotional, but i guess keeping it in isn't any better

 

[subtract7671]

no, in fact it makes everything worse and deepens any spiral I might already be in, but I can't help it

 

[EveWants2Die]

I think it does as long as you don't let it turn into a spiral

 

[chuckapalahniuk27]

yes, getting understanding from people and even being kinda relatable is better than getting an "you're weird" that I usually get irl

this exactly

the only problem i have with it is overthinking what i'm going to post out of fear i'll look stupid
i'd never keep a diary because someone could find it

 

[3spiral]

this exactly

the only problem i have with it is overthinking what i'm going to post out of fear i'll look stupid
i'd never keep a diary because someone could find it

it's the internet so I usually don't overthink it and just say whatever shit comes to my mind and embarass myself probably but like no one knows who I am anyway

 

[yume_]

but i guess keeping it in isn't any better

For me, keeping it in is worse than venting. Both have this negative energy but when I think alone It's so much more negative.

I think it does as long as you don't let it turn into a spiral

I always spiral lol

 

[not a fish]

Absolutely, I used to vent but write things down or talking to myself but it's not that same. I need to vent to other people and usual that's close friends but when it's something bad that I don't want to burden them with I go here

 

[vitbar]

It helps to a point beyond which I get frantically dependent on venting, despite it helping less and less, and spiral. IRL this behaviour has driven people away.

I find myself trying to argue that there is no hope for me with people who love me and are unlikely to agree. I feel unheard and misunderstood. If they did agree I'd hardly be pleased either. Lose lose. Inconsolable.

It's linked to OCD imo. The venting becomes a compulsive avoidance of my concerns. I'm not being entirely rational, so reason doesn't work. At the heart of it are uncertainties. These days I'm trying to accept instead.

Journals are better for me, or therapy. Neither feed the fire in the same way.