Discussion Does it make sense to keep going past your experation date as a prostitute or end it on your peak?

[Disaster]

I do respect your decision to not pursue rehab and to not look for another job. I wonder if harm reduction programs are a thing in your area and for your substance of choice? But I won't be pushy about it either. I will respect your choice to ctb, even though I hope you will find some way to consider your life worth living. I would prefer to have some backup plan in your situation.

 

[Akaidarafox]

I do respect your decision to not pursue rehab and to not look for another job. I wonder if harm reduction programs are a thing in your area and for your substance of choice? But I won't be pushy about it either. I will respect your choice to ctb, even though I hope you will find some way to consider your life worth living. I would prefer to have some backup plan in your situation.

They are not. I doubt it would change anything anyway. Thank you for mentioning that you respect it, it's nice to know some people are supportive :)

 

[qwerty1969]

You are a beautiful soul never forget that.

 

[lionetta12]

I am wondering for quite some time if CTB is a good way for me to end a good time. I feel like dragging out a time with pure misery and depression after you already peaked and had a great time feels wrong and well downright unbearable to me.

Without going into specifics I am working in street prostitution for almost 10 years now and I turned 29 years old this year. I can feel that I am becoming too old and undesirable by many guys and even by the person that takes care of my money and clients. Frankly he barely talks to me anymore and is busy with the younger girls and I get less and less customers and more and more abuse.
On top of that I also have a heavy drug addiction and I barely make enough money. Part of my earnings go to him and my monthly expenses and the rest goes towards my habit.
I have had a great time but I feel like soon I will end up fully on the streets with no money, no qualifications, no friends and no perspective. It has been a good ride but I am also a realist and I do know it can't be great forever.
I know plastic surgery and the like is an option but in the end I don't have the money for that and it would still always just be a run against the clock to be desirable enough to work in the industry.

Since I have nobody to talk to I am looking for thoughts and help here.
Does my thought process make sense? Am I missing something?

I am just unsure if dragging on past your experation date filled with depression makes sense and what to do.

You've been in this unhealthy job and environment for 10 years, I think it's time to get out and try something healthy and new if possible. It's not going to get better and you are experiencing more abusive. It's not worth it.

 

[2bemyenemy]

Without going into specifics I am working in street prostitution for almost 10 years now and I turned 29 years old this year. I can feel that I am becoming too old and undesirable by many guys and even by the person that takes care of my money and clients.

Are you able to hook in a place where you have access to older clients? I know older men are more hesitant to pay street hookers and look for "escorts." Maybe you could try a hotel bar or something.

 

[Akaidarafox]

Are you able to hook in a place where you have access to older clients? I know older men are more hesitant to pay street hookers and look for "escorts." Maybe you could try a hotel bar or something.

How old are we talking? I am not used to escorting. I am mainly doing regular street work.

 

[2bemyenemy]

How old are we talking? I am not used to escorting. I am mainly doing regular street work.

Normally 40s or 50s. Sometimes older. Usually married

 

[Akaidarafox]

Normally 40s or 50s. Sometimes older. Usually married

That's older than the average guy I serve usually on the streets but yea I mean money is money but how does it work if you don't? As far as I understand it as an escort you go to the guys instead of being on the street and they coming to you as I am used to

 

[2bemyenemy]

That's older than the average guy I serve usually on the streets but yea I mean money is money but how does it work if you don't? As far as I understand it as an escort you go to the guys instead of being on the street and they coming to you as I am used to

The main thing is you approach them. It can be a little daunting at first and a little more time consuming because you want to reel them in first with some light flirting. I would also not broach the topic of them paying you while inside the establishment to avoid trouble with the business. (I would normally offer them a smoke outside)

 

[Akaidarafox]

That is an idea. I will look into it some more, thank you for the advice, I am mostly used to street work but worth a shot

 

[Againstthewind]

Most people would have you believe that people in sex work need to be saved or are problems to deal with, but that couldn't be further from the truth. We must remind ourselves that sex workers are one of the most stigmatised groups in our society and are often deliberately denied a voice by policy makers who claim to be advocating for them. Only through decriminalisation will sex workers be less stigmatised and feel comfortable in reporting crimes (they're targeted because the idea is that they're not seen as being on par with society, this was very prevalent in a case that was famous in the UK, the Yorkshire Ripper) to the police and advocating their rights as workers.

It's unconventional to say to you OP, that if you are genuinely happy, no one can take that from you. I would be more concerned about your safety of course.

I understand about the drug being a heavy mask, to not feel the feeling you get while being you (sober) it's just if it's a drug that is dangerous for you on a daily basis, that as you search for a higher, high, it could potentially lead to an OD. That would be the biggest thing to focus on.

Man, I would not worry about the age, you're my age, and that ain't old! How far technology has come now, you could set up an OnlyFans, record your own content from home, work from home, there's so much to it. It's what you want from life, with what you have, then what you feel you HAVE to do. The environment you are in and the people you are around controls your confidence then what you actually do for a living. You just gotta put yourself out there. Be safe!

NOTE - I am not a director or work in the industry, I am a shmuck from the UK.

ME in the adult industry LOL.

 

[Akaidarafox]

Thank you for non stigmatised view and saying what not many people want to hear. It's nice knowing people do speak out on it.