does feeling scared mean you’re not ready to ctb?

[bunny_brownie9]

I think that for me I'm just ruminating on thoughts like what does death 'feel' like, is it going to hurt, what will the process be like etc…

what do others think? does it mean you aren't ready, or is it something everyone feels?

 

[Ambivalent1]

I think about it a lot too and I don't think I'm ready but I might have to due to circumstances. I'm sure dying won't be pleasant but death itself is probably nothingness, which you experience every night. The reason people think they dream all night is because you can't be aware of nothingness.

 

[MisterOGBongWater]

i dunno. prob not. were always gonna be scared, wishing things could be different, but at least for me, they cant be. so wether or not im scared it doesnt really matter. its over

 

[LifeIsBS]

i don't think you can ever be not scared when attempting ctb.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

As long as we are conscious we fear death and the unknown after it. Once we're unconscious we don't feel pain and all that anymore - like when we have a surgery, we feel nothing and usually don't remember anything what happened during that time.

I think we all are scared of pain and failing (and other things around this topic).

When the pain of living and suffering becomes bigger than the pain of death, then it's becoming easier to "press the button".

But even then we might be scared bc of SI.

 

[UKscotty]

I believe once all hope is gone, the fear of death will be gone.

 

[Orange Cat]

Everyone is afraid of death when they realize they are about to die. It's different than having an abstract idea that you are going to die someday in the distant future. It's really a fear of the unknown.

It doesn't necessarily mean that someone isn't ready because they are afraid. People who say that they aren't afraid of dying either have never come close to dying before or they are lying.

 

[DesperateOne]

I think that for me I'm just ruminating on thoughts like what does death 'feel' like, is it going to hurt, what will the process be like etc…

what do others think? does it mean you aren't ready, or is it something everyone feels?

Once you fully comprehend death I don't think there is a way to really get over those bad feelings that the realization produces, besides acceptance. Many philosophers who are 1000x smarter than you and me have either tried and failed or created another framework to cope about the eventuality of death. For me, the more I think about it the worst it gets, so I try not to dabble in this thought too much... When it comes, it comes.

On another note, like many people above said, once you are dead it's pretty much just oblivion which is something that the conscious human mind can't even imagine. If you've ever been under anesthesia you can maybe get a slight understanding of this oblivion... There is quite literally nothing. No concept of space & time, feelings/identity, the universe, or anything in between. When I went under for open heart surgery I was teleported from the operating table to the hospital bed. No idea what happened in between.

 

[ADBoy777]

I feel ya went through that a lot.
If it helps I believe it's neutral those feelings. We really want to succeed and there is never a guarantee which can cause stress and it's fine.

For me what helps me with those feelings is to plan it carefully don't rush to do things from impulse and as a result increase massively the success rate

 

[Edpal247]

I'm with the person above - if I believe I will succeed, I'm good. Yes I'll be afraid and feeling si. But I feel it has to happen. Can't avoid it really in my case