I'm sorry for you. What the video said is still true though, ugly people have more room for character growth because people are less likely to act fake around them just because they're hot.
Absolutely not. It's a South Park clip, come on, wake up. That's like white people saying being white is a curse..to the minorities. Or the wealthy bemoaning to the poor about money.. Classic gaslighting. Typical "woe is me", complaining about an absolute blessing, anyone who racks their brains long and hard enough can turn a privilege into a curse. And only the extremely privileged themselves have the luxury to even attempt such a thing, they are not run down and destroyed by life so they have the time and energy to search for any tiny bread crumb of oppression or tragedy they can in order to attention seek for sympathy. And they will get it too, because the tears of the attractive are noticed while the tears of the unattractive are swept under the rug. Prime example: You, what you're attempting to do right now.
It's also quite easy to become ugly so if anyone wants to complain about being attractive, the solution is simple and abundantly possible. For ugly people to become good looking? Not so much.
Read between the lines of that clip, Kyle is called an asshole at the end, even though he has a point (ignoring the fact that becoming an "adult" does not change that looks unfortunately matter a great deal.)
We shouldn't have to wait until looks supposedly don't matter (they actually never stop mattering) or matter less, to balance out our past imbalance of unfortunate circumstances. By that time, "mattering less" is something that could be said about anything. Everything comes to an end eventually, including life itself. The point is that if you get to enjoy the privileges of life while you have them, you are and always will be better off than the people who did not. You have the memories, you had the experiences, and that's basically all life comes down to in the end. It's not like every single one of us loses our memory, past and looks at 50 and after that we all start over as elderly uggos for centuries to come. Most value and enjoyment comes from one's youth and carries one through the later years of life.
Ugly people have more room for character growth!? Oh you mean from being shunned and having to isolate?! Yea..stellar way to grow that character! Lmao! ..Even if that were true, to what end? Sure, you could argue that hardships can grow us in ways we wouldn't normally grow but if those hardships never come to an end, then all that growth will turn to absolute rot. Even people who had miraculous ugly duckling/swan transformations have trouble escaping that ugly box society put them into, they are unable to close their eyes to the insane difference in treatment, the trauma is too great, any growth was hammered down by the massive amount of damage done to them. And for people who never escape that unattractive physical shell? Well their "character" can do a nose dive and they may either take it out on themselves or others, which is society's fault for shaping them that way and nature's fault for restricting them in a form they had no say in.
On the contrary, attractive people have no excuse in that area and are given heaps more room to grow. The world is at their feet, doors are opened for them where they are closed on others. An attractive appearance can even help a person glide more easily through any other form of disadvantage or "-ism" in life.
Having a form of confidence that was bred by other people complimenting you for your appearance is rarely an end all, be all. Usually it is just a giant head start, a stepping stone to build other confidences and successes onto.
Where being unattractive can be defeating and hope-stripping, being attractive is often the opposite. One good thing leads to another and by the time your looks start fading, you've still got everything else which was built off of them. If someone wants to wallow in their good fortune and not make further use of it then that's another story that I don't really care to have an ounce of sympathy for. Unlike the unattractive who have to build their lives off of shit and have every reason to give up where the attractive can see the light and keep going.
Obviously there are other aspects of life and different types of hardships which anyone can experience, but that's not what this thread is about and quite frankly, to my dismay, looks are something that really do matter a great deal compared to other things which should, ideally, matter more. They stain even those more worthy parts of life and humanity.
As far as them having to worry about people being "fake" to them? What do you consider fake? I would say people are being quite genuine in their attention to the attractive and their interest and investment in them, however fucked up and unearned that attention may be. And if there is anything more than looks to the person being given the attention, at least they are actually given the opportunity and environment to show it, for it to be seen.
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You think ugly people don't have to worry about who is fake to them?
Ha! So many people are fake to the unattractive and so so so disingenuous. The ugly, sometimes even the plain, serve to make others feel better about themselves.
They are taken advantage of because people think less of them, they are used, they are disrespected, people may be nice to them to signal virtue, may compliment them to gaslight them or pat themselves on the back for their good deed of the day, people take them as a friend because their looks are not a threat. Some may even look for a less attractive romantic partner as to worry less about jealousy or abandonment. All types of ulterior motives and manipulative machinations can be at play while interacting with those who would otherwise be insulted or ignored.
And if the ugly person ever complains or points out this reasoning, well they will be dismissed and blamed, they will get the same "beauty is a curse" spiel you are trying to push and much more. Insanity if you ask me.
...But I guess if the abuse is genuine then that makes it better? (Though since it's still based on looks then it's really no less "fake" than the good treatment the attractive people get for theirs.) No matter how glaring the reality is, when all is said and done. those who don't experience the hell of not being attractive will try to deny the fact that looks matter at every corner, because if they admit to the truth, they can no longer blame the ugly person and they can no longer see themselves as the victim. So they turn that fear of losing their victimhood onto the less fortunate. Why? Because they can. Because of the very privilege they are trying to cover up.
