Does anyone else hate this forum?

[paredler]

Seriosuly, I never thought I would encounter so much judgment, humiliation and insults in this forum. I thought that even if people disagreed with my opinions or would want to tell me I was wrong, they would say it in a nuanced way that would be respectful enough so i don't feel insulted, but I was wrong. This forum is a man to a man beast and is no different from npc's forums of norrmies who enjoy other people's sadness. Fuck everyone here.

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

If people are behaving that way, report them.

 

[SVEN]

Sorry you feel that, more especially since I find the empathy and understanding I view on these threads and posts encouraging and helpfull.
I don't know whether you have contacted Admin re any unpleasant or hurtfull posts relating to yourself, I've always been impressed by their effective, but light touch, moderating.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I wouldn't say that I hate this forum per se as, at the end of the day, this place is the only place where I can actually talk about my feelings and I'm grateful for that. However, I can confidently state that this place isn't my home and that I don't really feel safe here as a lot of people here have showed time and time again that I'm an outcast even on here. I don't believe that this place is more empathetic than the average social media site when it comes to some behaviours. It sucks but this is the only place willing to talk about suicide so this is all I have. The mods here are objective at giving people warnings and this isn't their fault at all but the fault lies within the fact that I'm interacting with humans. I think that this further proves that I'm meant for death since it's only in death where I don't have to deal with other humans

 

[isolatedl111]

Seriosuly, I never thought I would encounter so much judgment, humiliation and insults in this forum. I thought that even if people disagreed with my opinions or would want to tell me I was wrong, they would say it in a nuanced way that would be respectful enough so i don't feel insulted, but I was wrong. This forum is a man to a man beast and is no different from npc's forums of norrmies who enjoy other people's sadness. Fuck everyone here.

My interactions with people here were alright

 

[Valhala]

On this forum you can find so many practical and useful facts about the realization of CTB that it is already great in itself. Personal opinions and reactions of individuals should simply not concern you because they are essentially irrelevant.

 

[dontwakemeup]

I'm sorry you feel like this You have to understand you're in a community full of hurt people. I'm not making excuses for anyone's behavior, but a lot of people here are angry, hurting, and barely have the strength to type such nasty things. Don't take it too personal. We already have to deal with our own issues, pro-lifers and the world. Enjoy the ignore user feature, there's no limit.

 

[CatLvr]

On this forum you can find so many practical and useful facts about the realization of CTB that it is already great in itself. Personal opinions and reactions of individuals should simply not concern you because they are essentially irrelevant.

I'm sorry you feel like this You have to understand you're in a community full of hurt people. I'm not making excuses for anyone's behavior, but a lot of people here are angry, hurting, and barely have the strength to type such nasty things. Don't take it too personal. We already have to deal with our own issues, pro-lifers and the world. Enjoy the ignore user feature, there's no limit.

These two posts sum things up nicely.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

Without knowing what happened it's hard to believe this happened to you. I'm sorry you feel like this. If you feel insulted you can always report the people.

 

[paredler]

Without knowing what happened it's hard to believe this happened to you. I'm sorry you feel like this. If you feel insulted you can always report the people.

Here's a thread where I was insulted

Check qw3rty259's replies

 

[maniac116]

This is an open forum & there are all sorts of people here with all kinds of motives, both good & bad.
Overall I find comfort in a community of like minded people.
The obvious question, & I mean no judgement at all is why are you here if you hate it here?

 

[LONE WOLF.]

Here's a thread where I was insulted

Check qw3rty259's replies

l just read a bunch of those and didn't see any insults, are you sure your not just a narcissist who wants everyone to agree with everything you say then get all butt hurt when they don't ?

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

l just read a bunch of those and didn't see any insults, are you sure your not just a narcissist who wants everyone to agree with everything you say then get all butt hurt when they don't ?

Careful, insulting poor, abused OP by calling them a narcissist! /s

 

[-Tandem-]

Na I don't see all that but I'm not saying it doesn't happen. I mainly browse and don't interact a whole lot so maybe that's why.

 

[paredler]

l just read a bunch of those and didn't see any insults, are you sure your not just a narcissist who wants everyone to agree with everything you say then get all butt hurt when they don't ?

Are you serious? This guy Lol'deverything I said and called me weirdo.
Also, you could have just said "I don't find any insults, just people disagreeing with you." But you had to call me narcissist right? Can people here say things without implying that the other person is a complete incompetent loser?

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

Are you serious? This guy Lol'deverything I said and called me weirdo.

Report it to the mods and move on, instead of making a thread whining about it.

 

[paredler]

Report it to the mods and move on, instead of making a thread whining about it.

Why can't I just share my feelings and my experience without it being called "whining"?

 

[Gone soon]

I don't know. My experience is completely different. This forum helps me a lot. There are many kind people which who I can talk about things I don't dare to talk about openly in my everyday life. Maybe your experience is different. I don't judge you

 

[savory]

Here's a thread where I was insulted

Check qw3rty259's replies

I read the comments. I get the impression qw3rty259 is making fun of you. The "Lol" and "wtf lmao" before using actual words to communicate with you. Unless someone's joking with you and it's mutual, it's a sign of disrespect. I think they think you're lazy, "weird", and delusional.

A couple of commenters on this post are also making fun of you.

 

[sancta-simplicitas]

Report it to the mods and move on, instead of making a thread whining about it.

Everyone is allowed to make threads here and this thread is about someone feeling unsafe on the forum, which is a highly relevant topic because the idea is that this is supposed to be a supportive and kind space. I don't see why you find it necessary to add to their unsafety, thus making the forum feel even worse for them.

 

[-Link-]

You really want to try to avoid personalizing combative responses you receive here.

For people to be on a suicide forum, they're probably in a pretty bad spot in life, and for some, they'll be prone to overreactions, high sensitivity, anger, lashing out, etc. Look at this as a product of their personal problems rather than a reflection on you, yourself.

And if somebody is judging you or making personal attacks, what exactly are they basing that on? A single post? A few comments? These are snap judgements based on very little information and, again, are more reflective of themselves and their own issues rather than anything to do with you, personally.

This isn't to justify or condone the other person's behaviour. It's only about putting their actions and comments into perspective and trying to keep yourself in a better headspace here.

 

[ForgottenAgain]

Here's a thread where I was insulted

Check qw3rty259's replies

I think he was too direct and crude, I don't see any insults, I wouldn't consider "weird" an insult. Looking past the "lol" and "wtf" I do think he raised good points about contradiction and I think he attempted to help by saying that maybe things don't have to be so hard and that you can change your circumstances and are not a slave of yourself. I think those are positive things to say but he could have said them with more care.

On the other hand, you said on your post "fuck everyone here" which ended up being far more aggressive than what that user did to you. You actually insulted people. Respect is a two way street and that statement kind of blew it for you... I could now be offended by you because I'm on this forum and I'm included in that insult, now what do we do then?

Please try to understand that people here are all dealing with a lot and can't show 100% care all the time. Same for you, today you felt very bad because of that interaction and insulted everyone and yet, people here are commenting and trying to help even though you insulted them. We are now all giving you the benefit of the doubt because we think you're probably going through a lot and don't truly mean that insult you said. Try to think that way towards other users too. Try to have a bit of leeway. If a user offends you, let them know they are offending you so they have a chance to course correct. If they don't, report them. We all need some understanding.

I'm really sorry about your weight issue and emotional eating by the way, I suffer through similar and it's a hell to get out of. Similarly to that user though, I don't think you're a slave to your body, I believe you can make a change with the right circumstances. You may just be too low now to be able to make that change and that's okay.

 

[paredler]

I think he was too direct and crude, I don't see any insults, I wouldn't consider "weird" an insult. Looking past the "lol" and "wtf" I do think he raised good points about contradiction and I think he attempted to help by saying that maybe things don't have to be so hard and that you can change your circumstances and are not a slave of yourself. I think those are positive things to say but he could have said them with more care.

On the other hand, you said on your post "fuck everyone here" which ended up being far more aggressive than what that user did to you. You actually insulted people. Respect is a two way street and that statement kind of blew it for you... I could now be offended by you because I'm on this forum and I'm included in that insult, now what do we do then?

Please try to understand that people here are all dealing with a lot and can't show 100% care all the time. Same for you, today you felt very bad because of that interaction and insulted everyone and yet, people here are commenting and trying to help even though you insulted them. We are now all giving you the benefit of the doubt because we think you're probably going through a lot and don't truly mean that insult you said. Try to think that way towards other users too. Try to have a bit of leeway. If a user offends you, let them know they are offending you so they have a chance to course correct. If they don't, report them. We all need some understanding.

I'm really sorry about your weight issue and emotional eating by the way, I suffer through similar and it's a hell to get out of. Similarly to that user though, I don't think you're a slave to your body, I believe you can make a change with the right circumstances. You may just be too low now to be able to make that change and that's okay.

I don't need your benefit of the doubt. If you think qw3rty259 was fine but I'm too aggressive, then hate me passionately and act to remove me from here. If you actually don't see any insults from him then I don't want to talk to you.

 

[CatLvr]

I don't need your benefit of the doubt. If you think qw3rty259 was fine but I'm too aggressive, then hate me passionately and act to remove me from here. If you actually don't see any insults from him then I don't want to talk to you.

Good grief, dude. THAT was harsh.

 

[ForgottenAgain]

I don't need your benefit of the doubt. If you think qw3rty259 was fine but I'm too aggressive, then hate me passionately and act to remove me from here. If you actually don't see any insults from him then I don't want to talk to you.

I don't hate anyone. It's funny that, in the end of the day, you seem to be the person you were complaining about:

I thought that even if people disagreed with my opinions or would want to tell me I was wrong, they would say it in a nuanced way that would be respectful enough so i don't feel insulted

I won't engage anymore, I'll leave you with your own words.

 

[I_go_in]

Tbh this place seems pretty chill. I don't think zoomers would survive one minute on 2006 internet.

 

[dontwakemeup]

I barely read the thread and it wasn't bad to me. Ultimately perception is reality. If you felt offended then you're feelings are validated. It seems people were trying to help you more than a few insults.

If your weight is a problem which from reading the thread then simply change it. You can get the same amount of dopamine from a vigorous workout as eating a platter of unhealthy food. At some point you have to accept you have a ED and deal with it. There are several options online, meds, and youtube offers several info.

Nothing is easy. It took you years to put on the weight as it will take time to get rid of it. Everyone won't agree with you, and that's fine. If you need some tips, I can help.

 

[WhatPowerIs]

I read the thread and yes I agree I think he was being rude even if he wasn't directly insulting you, the tone came off as rude and passive aggressive and he did not enter the conversation in good faith or with any form of respect ("Nah, you chose to think so to justify your own laziness").