Discussion Do your siblings turn out the same or different than you?

[valar_morghulis21]

Lots of people have depression and mental illness due to their upbringings and parents, me included. My younger sister in the first glance seems "fine" ( I mean who is truly fine in this world?). She's not gloomy and suicidal like me. She's more bubbly, do well in university, have lots of friend, active social life, enjoy shopping and expensive things and wanna make lots of money in the future etc. In general she got all the quality capitalism wants in a white collar worker (no shade).

But she got a pattern of relationship hopping. Ever since she was 15/16, she always been in a serious relationship. One of them lasted a few years or so, the rest range within 6 months. That damn girl truly can't be alone with herself. Every boyfriend is the love of her life. Even tho I told her to reflect on what she wants, set a higher standard, heal, and grieve the breakup or whatever it is to process emotions, she doesn't seem to care much.

I guess I do blame my parents for her viewpoint on love and relationship, to a certain degree. It's just so jarring to see 2 siblings grew up in the same household turn out to be so different.

How about you guys?

 

[DarkLordVoldy]

My brother is the golden child and i'm the misfit - it's like that in most families

 

[lastspaghetti]

Haven't seen my brother in over ten years, he was always a horrible person and really violent. Has been in (probably drug induced) psychosis for years now but hasn't tried to stab anyone to death at least from what I know. I think I am the way I am partly because of him - he was always fucked up and my parents didn't know what to do about it so I ended up as collateral. Apparently I was the golden child for our early years at least and I think that had a lot to do with how he turned out. He had language development problems and was apparently already violent enough as a toddler to warrant some professional attention back then but it unfortunately that didn't last.

 

[violetforever]

in adolescence, the same. in adulthood or approaching it, they are doing better than me is all i can say. i dont know how much better it can get while still being a member of my family though.

It's just so jarring to see 2 siblings grew up in the same household turn out to be so different.

thats exactly how i feel but i guess we have to remember we may have the same shared experience in our families but different experiences outside of family. different friend groups, different schools/classes/teachers, different online activity.

 

[Spite]

My sister is the total opposite of me - super confident and outgoing, extroverted, loves being in the sun and the outdoors, has a huge friend group, very sociable. We are vastly different from each other.

 

[itsgone2]

My brother was similar. Angry. Misfit. Killed himself a few years ago. Gun.

Sister started out rough. Now doing incredibly well.

I wish I had it to do over and my brother and I could be happy. But as it is I'm impressed he figured it out. Overcame si. Sad, but at peace.

 

[darksouls]

my sister and I are very different,
she enjoys life,
my sister told me that she views death as a punishment

 

[PeaceSeeker83]

My sibling is just another normie.

 

[OldAlan]

My brother was just like me. And like me, he kept it all hidden, until he killed himself. I'm better now, but it took 50 years to get myself here.

My sister is so different - happy, with a family. I enjoy talking to her.