Discussion Do you want to be remembered after ctb?

[Sad Avocado]

Personally I would like the thought of someone really thinking about me after I'm gone. Maybe my emotions play a big role here since I think I just want to be loved or at least remembered in a good way. But at the same time a part of me hopes to just disappear after some time to not cause unecessary pain to friends and family members. What would you prefer?

 

[FuneralCry]

I only wish to be completely forgotten about like I never existed at all, I wish for my meaningless and insignificant existence to be erased, existence was something I wish I never had to endure in the first place after all, I see existence as being a mistake.

 

[aitouka]

I want to be completely forgotten. Don't want to stain the world. And friends and family remembering me means pain to them, and I don't want to see them suffer. Let me completely unalive myself, both physically and in people's hearts. Please.

 

[guinea-pig]

One of the big things I hate about being alive is being perceived in any way, I wouldn't want people doing that when I'm not here.

 

[Sad Avocado]

One of the big things I hate about being alive is being perceived in any way, I wouldn't want people doing that when I'm not here.

totally agree with you

 

[アホペンギン]

I hope I will be forgotten once I ctb, by everyone who i was "close" to so it would be as if i never existed. Of course, this probably won't be the case, people will miss me. I don't understand why people have the audacity to treat us so badly and claim that they miss us once we're dead…

 

[Unknown21]

No, it doesn't concern me at all.

 

[Peerless_Cucumber]

I hope to publish some books before I go so as their author I'd like to be remembered. However I wish that my family would just forget about me. Like I never existed.

 

[Zebulon]

For me it doenst matter.
But I would wish that they realize the pain that we are in, though my death. They never understand it now, maybe after my death.
But in the end, they can piss on my grave for all I care, since im dead anyways.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I would like to be remembered- fondly hopefully. But then, I don't want people to be sad so, it's a difficult question. I think I would be sad if someone I knew CTB. I'd feel relieved for them too but it wouldn't stop me feeling sad.

 

[Sad Avocado]

For me it doenst matter.
But I would wish that they realize the pain that we are in, though my death. They never understand it now, maybe after my death.
But in the end, they can piss on my grave for all I care, since im dead anyways.

Me too I would like people to actually become aware of the pain I went through after I ctb. Not for them to suffer but at least to realise how bad a person can feel and at the same time act like everything goes well

 

[AbsurdCapybara]

No. I don't want anyone to think about me after I ctb, which is why I'm trying to wait until my parents pass. As for my soon to be ex-husband, well...I don't want to hurt him either but he's also a large part of why I want to ctb. I think my strategy would be to let enough time elapse that we've had no contact so I don't have to be a burden on him and he's forgotten about me in his day to day life and when he does eventually find out, if he ever does, well then I'm sorry. Honestly he'll probably feel bad for a moment but then feel relief that neither of us have to be burdened by my existence anymore.

 

[Sad Avocado]

No. I don't want anyone to think about me after I ctb, which is why I'm trying to wait until my parents pass. As for my soon to be ex-husband, well...I don't want to hurt him either but he's also a large part of why I want to ctb. I think my strategy would be to let enough time elapse that we've had no contact so I don't have to be a burden on him and he's forgotten about me in his day to day life and when he does eventually find out, if he ever does, well then I'm sorry. Honestly he'll probably feel bad for a moment but then feel relief that neither of us have to be burdened by my existence anymore.

I'm in a same situation with a ex-girlfriend and stuff like that. Maybe for the fact that I'm really young she will eventually go on since she has all the life in front of her still

 

[FindingHome]

No. I want to be forever left alone.

 

[Daxter_87]

I would like to disappear both physically and from everyone's memory. So much so that I shouldn't even be writing this comment, for I'm just leaving another mark in my arrogant determination to make anyone give a damn.

Truth be told, there is nothing to remember about me, except that I have never reproduced after my death; I would like people to follow my example in this regard. In fact, it would be nice to have an epitaph inscribed on my tombstone saying something like: "At least I never had offspring".

 

[Rocinante]

I want a name that reaches the heavens

 

[Suspect_Device]

No, any remembrance would just be pathetic and involve people feeling superior, like they are the beneficiaries of natural selection. Fuck everyone I'm not trying to have my suffering give them a sense of smugness.

 

[KAZ-2Y5]

I was thinking of making a YouTube video before I left.

Outing my abusers and posting my evidence. Then CBT, but if I survive, I'll have to delete the video then make a new one when I'm ready again. I don't want them to know about the video until I'm officially dead.

 

[inviável]

I think about this very often,. although some part of me want to be remembered I know I'm not the type of person to be remembered. I haven't accomplished nothing and have little to no friends, just people that don't know me for long or need me for beneficial things for them. Idk

I think about letting a letter, a list of my favorite songs or something like that. But in my opinion it sounds so selfish and just dumb in general. Just why would someone want remember me.
Some part of me what to be remembered, but I know I can't expect or force people to remember me.

 

[momentomori5]

I would like to be remembered by my friends, mainly. With positive emotions and memories only. Maybe then I can live a good life through their memories, or at least give my life a more positive meaning.

I don't know about family. They haven't been the best to me throughout my life. My younger brother though, I love him so much, he's one of the closest people to my heart, and I'm thankful I got to live a life with such a fun, smart human being daily. I'm not sure if I want him to remember me or not. I think it would be more painful than positive to him especially. He tends to hurt without sharing emotions or venting, so I think the pain would be too much to bare alone on him. I'd like him to forget me completely, if possible. He doesn't deserve the pain. Especially that he's in his last year in highschool, and in our country that's the year that decides what job he gets for the rest of his life. I wouldn't want my soon ctbing to affect that.