Discussion Do you trust people here?

[steppingoff]

I am not trying to be obnoxious about this, but I only have one thing in common that brings us to the site - CTB.

Yet, it's probably one of the most important decisions you will make (or not make). But we are also trying to reach out and find people with whom we can share these really intimate thoughts - Do you feel you can trust people here?

Opinions?

 

[LittleCupcake]

I dont trust anyone, Im usually very reserved

 

[rozeske]

Trust them in what way?

 

[jellie]

i trust people to an extent. wouldn't give out personal information but i trust that when people give me advice it is from a good place.
i like to think that we are all trying to help each other. obviously a couple users here and there are on here to encourage suicide or post gore or whatever but that's the far minority. most of us are just sad and want to help eachother out.

 

[Kit1]

To be honest, I don't trust many people in my life - it might be the CPTSD, autism, lived experience of abuse or whatever. However I am open about my feelings and experiences on this forum as I find that a number of us have shared experiences of rejection, being left out of mainstream community due to neurodivergence/disabilities etc, a lot fo us have been abused as children especially by our primary caregivers as well and we are all at the point of seriously ending our lives - it is highly unlikely that anyone is going to try and cheat and lie here and I don't get double meanings etc and people appear to be straight forward, straight talking here which is brilliant. And perhaps the confidentiality around whomwe are helps..,

 

[Praestat_Mori]

Yes it's possible to trust people here as far as this is possible in an anonymous environment and what you wanna share in PMs. But it's a process. Trust and sometimes friendship develops over time.

 

[cec]

i trust people to an extent. wouldn't give out personal information but i trust that when people give me advice it is from a good place.
i like to think that we are all trying to help each other. obviously a couple users here and there are on here to encourage suicide or post gore or whatever but that's the far minority. most of us are just sad and want to help eachother out.

Very well said

 

[nightlygem]

Trust is a strong word that has different levels. Would I trust anyone here with my personal information? No. Not at all. Do I trust the people here to be helpful and understanding to this taboo subject? Absolutely.
This is a community of people who do not have judgment towards the idea of ctb. Encourage it? No. But we are willing to embrace this subject and shed light on this because, as humans, we are desperate to find some sort of understanding from others.
I'd say that I trust this community to be nonjudgmental, but not on a personal aspect.

 

[why am i alive?]

What helps is that we're anonymous. I think that is what helps me. I don't fully trust this site but it's the only resort I have left

 

[sserafim]

I don't trust anyone by nature (I'm a very private, reserved and closed-off person), but I think that people on here are usually being genuine/honest because they have no reason to lie on a suicide forum of all places. People haven't given me a reason not to trust them

 

[steppingoff]

Trust them in what way?

Good question -- but I am letting people define it themselves

 

[Deleted member 65988]

Nope.

 

[dinosavr]

I think I wrote here more personal information than I ever should have and if someone knew me in real life and knew I'm a user here, they would probably easily recognize me.
But I don't think that will ever happen so fuck it

 

[divinemistress36]

I trust people's empathy on here not sure I trust the methods to ctb on here though

 

[unabletocope]

If people are cool then they are cool, people here are fine

 

[INTJme]

I trust people's empathy on here not sure I trust the methods to ctb on here though

Really? Not even SN? I'm even inclined to say that's the only thing I would trust people on here for.

 

[Deleted member 65988]

Really? Not even SN? I'm even inclined to say that's the only thing I would trust people on here for.

Well not everyone's gonna like SN as a method and i completely understand why.

 

[destinationlosangel]

Actually I do. This is a place where most ppl who have lost themselves come to. Opinions on things are completely unbiased and honest. There's no 'keeping up appearances' here. Its blatant honesty. So I appreciate the discussions.

But of course, the advantage of this forum, like all online spaces is u dont necessarily have to take all this into ur personal life. U can decide who u wanna let in and not.

I have made some good friends here ill tell u that. And we have sorta become each other's support systems, so to speak.

I imagine there maybe some psychopaths and predators here too like on many places on the internet. Which is why we must all exercise caution. And at the same time, these exact type of psychopaths and predators probably even live in ur neighborhood so that's that.

 

[Agon321]

It depends on what you mean.

I'm definitely not looking for friendship here. I don't want to write 1 on 1 with anyone here and tell anyone about my life.

However, I like staying here and exchanging views, opinions, or just looking for advice. We all have a common problem with the world. There are different people here, with different problems, but everyone is lost or simply tired.
I can say that it inspires trust in me on a basic level.

Unfortunately, there are people from different services here, so I have to be more reserved

 

[Jup_not_gup]

I am not trying to be obnoxious about this, but I only have one thing in common that brings us to the site - CTB.

Yet, it's probably one of the most important decisions you will make (or not make). But we are also trying to reach out and find people with whom we can share these really intimate thoughts - Do you feel you can trust people here?

Opinions?

It depends

 

[UKscotty]

It would be pretty nuts to trust people in a place where 99% of us suffer from mental health issues and the other 1% are pro death.

I think the value in this site is you can evaluate multiple view points. It's more about the like minded people chatting about life.

Megathreads cover all the main methods and there is little value in discussion of actual methods anymore.

 

[winamp]

some not all

I do not recommend making friends with people who recovered and aren't suicidal anymore (so I can finally understand those threads or posts about some of those people although there's nothing wrong with recovery, I wish I could but it doesn't seem very likely and I am happy for those who are/were able to)

not all of those people but especially/specifically the ones who denounce the site and never visit it again afterwards for many months unless they want to view drama or make fun of those here or find some other person to "fix"

they will always try to over analyze you or view you as a broken person/project to work on and to be fixed and will constantly misunderstand or misinterpret you and what you're going through or what you're dealing with

if they ask how you are it's only to make small talk or because they want something to gawk at or to be shocked by due to how bad your situation or mental health is

it will make you feel as though you're only being asked so then they can gossip and talk about how bad your situation is or how mentally ill you are to others

so far I've only encountered one such person who was like that

while others who are attempting recovery that I know of would never do such things and made it clear they wouldn't and even say that the site is the reason why they were able to seek recovery or recover in general when there was no where else especially since mental health care is still quite bad in most if not all places

 

[whywere]

At my age if I cannot trust folks on here, heavens I might as well get ready to go to hell in a hand basket because heaven in a fruit basket is not in my future.

Walter

 

[ijustwishtodie]

There's only one user here who I can really fully trust with every single piece of information regarding me.

However, as for the rest here, the best I can really trust them with is information as to why I'm suicidal and my neurotype which had forever cursed me ever since I was born but, then again, trusting people here with these things is moot anyways due to how the nature of this site is such that people can freely talk about why they're suicidal

 

[brokeandbroken]

I am not trying to be obnoxious about this, but I only have one thing in common that brings us to the site - CTB.

Yet, it's probably one of the most important decisions you will make (or not make). But we are also trying to reach out and find people with whom we can share these really intimate thoughts - Do you feel you can trust people here?

Opinions?

I don't think trust is black and white. Yes or no. It should be graduated you trust certain things from certain people. You go to a barber shop you expect they can cut hair. You probably aren't going to them for brain surgery. So I trust certain things.

 

[Dliena]

For me it would honestly depend on what their/y'alls true intentions are but overall maybe not tho the reason why is prob cause I don't really trust myself either in a way. I'm sure most here are good candid folks that have unfortunately had a very f ed up life with a crapload of issues that I'm also certain they didn't ask for and I can only hope you all are able to get the eternal peace/happiness that you gracefully deserve. I try to be grateful for this website as there isn't really a whole lot of forums I can go to be able to speak about these sorts of things obviously. I do think people can/should be able to decide for themselfs individuality what they truly want whether live or die as it is a bodily autonomy human right.

 

[SVEN]

On my best day I'm not even sure I can trust myself, m8.

 

[Guy Smiley]

I would trust anyone on here with my life.

 

[Myforevercharlie]

A few people on here I do trust.

 

[Linda]

For the most part, yes.