Do you respect your parents?

[Parnate]

I honestly don't think I do.
My father is a post graduate in commerce. He worked at the same organisation for twenty seven years. During that time there wasn't much appraisal for the work he put in. There were better paying opportunities but he didn't go for them. End result we lived just above the poverty line. We had sufficient home cooked food and education But that was all.
My mother was extremely abusive until my later teens. My sister was abusive to me till I was twenty five . My father never stopped the abuse which he could have.
Things have changed now,
My father changed his organisation and earns better than before, my mother is no longer abusive.
But I am so long gone , I am far away from them, from life itself.
Most of the time I am lost daydreaming, thinking what if I had been born in another family, with a different life.
I wish my family had been either poor or abusive . not both.
It has been 32 years of not such a good life,
They all say it will get better, I feel it will get better and it actually is.
But , I am dead inside. Pieces of my heart have been cut and taken away from me .
There are wounds which have left permanent scars on me.
I am just floating, letting life take me in whichever direction it wants.
I never had a control over my life , I don't think most people have. But if life takes you from on suffering to another and life itself becomes a series of sufferings, you feel like a puppet at the hands of fate, god or whatever greater power there is in this universe.

 

[TraurigerClown]

I hate my Parents to the guts.
My father killed himself, when i was 5yo, after my mother accused him of rape, which he didnt do. Just so she cut get a fast divorce!
Then she married my stepfather and he was a fucking pedo....so yeah...i hate them

 

[darksouls]

no, my parents are human scum, I despise them

 

[Lilithium]

My mom is a narcissist who refuses to apologize for being physically and emotionally abusive to me when I was a child, and my dad is an enabler who tries to get me to accept her half baked non-apologies.

I don't feel like I have a lot of respect left for them.

 

[fadedghost]

no

 

[TwistedNightmares]

Not at all. My ex-father abandoned me completely, and my mom is a schizophrenic narcissist. She has made my life a living hell.

 

[ginko0]

I give them respect, but deep inside, not really

 

[X-sanguinate86]

Two losers who ate up a bunch of obvious lies for selfish reasons, had kids for the same selfish reasons and then just sat there watching me suffer for years? No.

 

[MrJoker789]

My mom yes
Despite all her flaws, she still loves me
She have many of the same issues I have
It's just a never ending cycle I guess
Why I'm not having kids
I find it much harder to respect my dad
I had made my peace with him and forgiven him
We barely talked since he left me my mom and my siblings shortly after I was born
He died 1 or 2 years ago
He didn't leave me any letter
I just find it hard to find an excuse for him not to
No awkwardness or anything, he would be dead when I saw it
To make it worse no one invited me to his funeral
It just felt like I had to go through the trauma of being abandoned by him once again
I am trying to make peace with it again, because what good does it do to go and be bitter about it :(

 

[nitrogenous]

Look, as much as I want to, I'm not in the position to respect them (at least for now). They have contributed heavily into why I want to ctb so badly and any interactions with them usually ends with my SI being much worse. I don't think I can forgive them for all the abuse they've done (and still am doing)… physically, medically, financially, emotionally, mentally, the list goes on. Sure, they might have grown up in an unstable household themselves, but that does not give them any permission to lash all of it on me. I can't imagine how much further I could have accomplished in life, if it's not because of them. Maybe one day, I will learn to forgive and eventually respect them, but unfortunately, not now, yet.

 

[michaaaaaal]

I'm estranged from my father and my mother only cares about me and my depression in the sense that it inconveniences her and she's like a better (happier) son, so no, not particularly. I think the worst thing about CTB is that I'll never be able to witness their reactions, literally the only way to get them to care about me in any way, which deep inside I'd like experience very much, just for once lol.

 

[FoxSauce]

Depends fully fully, no. If shes right ill give her that. Theres times shes always right even tho she caused or misunderstood the situation, she doesnt take accountability. She rarely apoligizes for things she does.


Ofc I understand no ones perfect I get that but I just ignore her.

Ofc Im self aware I can be a bitch too. If indo something wrong ill do my best to apoligize and take accountabilitly

Rn were just roomates. Do I mind , no the farther shes not in my business the better.

Ofc if shes a good mood ill do my best to treat her the same respect.

 

[Seneca65AD]

It appears I am definitely in the minority when I say "yes" - I respect my parents. Both came from poor backgrounds and neither had an education. But they worked hard to make sure my sister and I were fed and clothed. Admittedly there was a time where I blamed them for moving around so much when I was a child, but my father had to go where the work was. Now I realize they were both in their teens when they had me and only slightly older when they had my sister, and had no real support system to guide them in child rearing.

They did the best they could with the hands they were dealt - there were the usual "spankings" that seemed to be prevalent for all kids raised in the 60's but nothing I consider to be abuse. I still love and respect them.

Did they contribute to my CTB ideations? One could say yes - we moved around a dozen times during my school years. That lead to bullying etc. Of course, looking back, I was an odd little kid and that definitely did not help my mental stability. I have dealt with my past and it rarely arises to push me back into the "black void"; now, CTB ideation is mostly triggered and/or fed by the present or future.

 

[ceelobling]

Fuck no. I was gonna write a bunch of stuff, but no I don't even want to think of them. Because of them it took me years to actually fit in and be normal in life.

 

[RosebyAnyName]

No, they had sex and then cared about me only to the extent that I'd give them what *they* wanted.

If we weren't related and I weren't still stuck living with them, I wouldn't be acting nearly as friendly with them as I am now.

 

[Pluto]

 

[preachyflockk]

No, I want them to suffer after Im gone

 

[justanotherbody]

Also a fortunate minority who can fully answer yes, here.

I have a great, solid relationship with mine. I call them almost daily.

My only gripe with them was their inability to take any form of mental health concern seriously when I was growing up.

Other than that, they are good people who genuinely care and love sincerely. We've had healthy discussions about how their disregard for my depression and anxiety growing up was incredibly disparaging. They've since apologized and reconciled their outdated views.

Without hesitation, reserve, question, or judgment, they helped me when I was at my lowest during the summer of 2024. And I would honestly not be where I am today had I not been lucky enough to be spawned from them.

I love my parents. And I truly wish more people were able to say that.

 

[deny_conformity]

My dad died about 20 years ago so I have no opinion about him. He was abusive growing up but as I've come to terms with my bipolar I can see I am similar to him but he took the easy option to self-medicate on alcohol and morphine. So I guess both yes and no.

I recently went completely non-contact with mother so I guess I don't. I was forced to like with her last year when I tried to CTB and after eight months of hell I just walked out and blocked her on everything. I haven't spoken to her since the end of November and I don't miss her. I don't respect her.