Discussion Do you keep a loveone safe space?

[UntitledUser]

Do you usually talk about your mental health with your love ones? But I'm not talking about telling them you are depressed, rather having deep conversation about your thoughts or about your plans. For example, I'm open about my depression and my suicidal tendencies with my best friends. They know I'm such a mess. Unfortunately I regret telling them because I feel shit talking the same stuff on and on. They know I still have a plan to CTB but that's it.

But for you: do you think having someone to deep talk helps you? Or maybe the "support network" just don't seem to work? Obviously no one will ever feel the way you feel, but maybe is it worth to have someone (does not matter who) to trust this kind of issues besides health professionals

I know that is different from each person and not all people want to share or talk about these kind of topics.

Who is your safe space?

 

[Pale_Rider]

SaSu is where I do that. I have discussed mental health with a family member before, but I regret it.

 

[eattwinkiesseejesus]

Safest place i ever had turned out to be the psych ward.... with all of my struggling and like-minded peers. The doctors and staff were a nightmare but the people- its the first time in my life I felt seen and heard. SaSu is* my safe place now.

 

[darksouls]

I have no one in real life with whom I could talk about anything

 

[Forever Sleep]

In the past, I've talked about ideation to close friends- mainly because they've either felt the same way or, I've gotten the sense they were open minded enough to accept that's how I felt. It has been a kind of release in the past. I even had a part joke, part serious pact with a friend at school- we started young.

Really only one friend I skate around the topic with now and then. Really because they are the only one I'm in semi regular contact with so- I think it only fair they get to choose how close they want to stay- given the likely future. I don't go into details though- in terms of methods or a plan. I just make it clear it's still a desire and likelihood of mine.

I just think it would upset people though so, there's no real point in telling them. It's not like there's anything they could do. That's why I'm so grateful I can express it all here.

 

[anomalou]

Safest place i ever had turned out to be the psych ward.... with all of my struggling and like-minded peers. The doctors and staff were a nightmare but the people- its the first time in my life I felt seen and heard. SaSu is* my safe place now.

I feel that. Honestly it would be so nice if we all could somehow find our way together without the staff of psych wards, but I have no clue on how one could organize such a thing.

 

[dontwakemeup]

I use to speak openly about my suicide and life! I never was ashamed about it and never felt I needed to be, I felt i was justified. The support circle i had went behind my back and planned a 5150. No problem, I done my 72 hrs and once I was discharged, I blocked everyone who had any parts in that! Now, I don't discuss my plans or anything in my life with anyone. If I decided to go, I won't write any notes to hell with them all, they can figure it out! If I feel the need to vent, I come to SaSu where I feel safe! I can understand why they done what they done and they can of course understand why they are banned for life. When you make calls like that, be prepared for the repercussions!

 

[Lyn]

Venting never really helped me.
And I just can't tell my plans to my partner. I can talk literally about anything with them. I must be lucky and grateful to be able to find such a person.

I can tell everything, but one thing...

They are also suicidal.
Probably not as active at this point of time as I am now, but if I was sincere with them in these thought I'd only make them feel worse.
And that feeling would make me feel even worse.
It's a vicious circle that I'm too hesitant to even start.

It's like when I'm drowning, they can help to keep afloat. And vice versa, I can help them keep afloat.

But if we'll happen to drown simultaneous... that could become the end, I guess.
And it might happen sooner or later.
So I just don't know.