Discussion Do you have a safe space in your mind? Is it based on a real space?

[Forever Sleep]

My safe space is picturing my Nana's house. She died 36 years ago, when I was 10 so, it's kind of likely I'm not even remembering it that accurately but still, I sometimes like to imagine walking through it, room by room and the garden. She loved flowers.

Are there any places you try to remember or, try to picture when you need comforting? Are they real or imaginary?

 

[GodzillasBiggestFan]

i have two, one real one imaginary. one is the theatre where i have performed some shows, or really any theatre. i always feel safe and comfy to picture theatres, but especially the one i am most familar with.

and the other is imaginary, a place from a fanfiction i wrote, the house of a character who would, if i met her, help me and support and take care of me. in the original canon it never shows her house, i just imagined it.

 

[BeanCurd]

I have a few. Some real, some from TV shows etc., some totally imaginary (but I'm sure based on places I've seen). It's nice to be able to escape there when I need to :) One is a childhood friend's house. I wasn't there a lot, but it seemed like a happy place. I also go through it room by room, and can remember the smells and some of the fabrics.

I maladaptive daydream, so I'm in another world a lot.

 

[Pluto]

 

[Hollowman]

Nope, I have aphantasia so I can barely visualize anything.

 

[tomame]

mine is recalling an ex girlfriend who no longer talks to me because i feel it morally contrasts all my dark thoughts and aligns more closely to things they want me to think about

 

[tiokapaws]

Yes! I have my closest "imaginary" friend, who I'll call C, and by effect the little group I've created for us. It's a mix of a sort of modern land combined with an escape to a fantasy world.
Genuinely, C had saved my life.

I made her when I was 8, and our teacher read us all a book at school. It wasn't anything special, just about a mischievous little girl who always aimed to have fun, even if it got her into trouble. I always really wanted to be carefree in the way other kids my age were, and then I saw this girl, who had a bundle of curly hair and a lovely name and I thought "what if she looked a bit more like me?"

And then C came to be! She's my closest friend and confidant. When I was younger, I think I overly relied on her, to the point I'd tap out of conversations in the real world and zone out so I could be with her and all our friends.

But to be fair, I was so incredibly stressed it felt like the only way to go by. Now, I've gotten better at coping(?) Or maybe worse. So we don't hang out as much, but she's grown up with me and is still always there anyway, just at the back of my brain.

It's thanks to her I've become I'm more confident. Whenever I'm scared or nervous, I try to emulate how she would be, in all her brazen attitude and confidence. She's everything I could want to be.

Sometimes there are other characters from tv shows I'm currently watching that will pop up to visit, but C and the others are the ogs and my one true happy place.