do you have a death plan?

[clavicals]

I wanna donate my body to science, if they don't want it then cremation. I would want people to play songs that remind me of them idk idc

 

[DurkheimsCat]

I think everyone is going to be mad at me and not want to do anything. I have signed up to donate my body to science (not for organ donation as you need a heartbeat for that) but for mortuary science. They return the ashes after 3-5 weeks. In my note I ask to be planted in my favorite potted plant but also I have no control over what happens after I'm gone. I've been to a couple of funerals for people that have ctb and it's very strange because at both, the grievers were like, "this was a snap decision, I know they didn't really mean to do it" and I don't want any of that sentiment. In my note I explain this was very much intentional and that I'm sorry but it's the only solution for me.

 

[bijou]

I wanna donate my body to science, if they don't want it then cremation. I would want people to play songs that remind me of them idk idc

donating ur body to science is a really cool idea

i just want everyone to know i am reading every reply! i just cannot respond to all of them, i really appreciate all of your responses to this post. thank you so much for engaging in this conversation so openly, all of your perspectives and choices are valued by me. i think post-death and death positivity are good ideas to engage with, especially on this forum.

thank you <3 i'll continue to reply as i can

 

[Stinkyrat]

i do not mean a plan for ctb, i mean a plan for your body post-mortem. do you have any particular songs you'd want to be played at a wake? do you want to be cremated or embalmed? composted? have you thought about a death plan at all?

i feel, when choosing to die, the way your corpse is cared for is deeply intertwined with that choice. whether i choose to ctb or not, i found that creating my death plan was a deeply cathartic experience. facing mortality head-on is an incredibly intimate thing to do with oneself.
tell me your final wishes if you would like to, i am deeply intrigued and here to listen.

I read a lot of replies
And tbh most of them just made me feel anxious because I don't want anyone to see my body my dead body
I don't want to be exposed to anyone in no way possible I know I shouldn't care about it(?) but I do
I don't wanna be found and if someone does find me I don't want to be recognizable .. apart from hating myself and wanting to hide all my life I just can't stand losing control of what's being done to me next and just the thought of me laying somewhere dead fully exposed to ANYONE scares me a lot since so many years

 

[bijou]

I read a lot of replies
And tbh most of them just made me feel anxious because I don't want anyone to see my body my dead body
I don't want to be exposed to anyone in no way possible I know I shouldn't care about it(?) but I do
I don't wanna be found and if someone does find me I don't want to be recognizable .. apart from hating myself and wanting to hide all my life I just can't stand losing control of what's being done to me next and just the thought of me laying somewhere dead fully exposed to ANYONE scares me a lot since so many years

i can understand this point of view as well, facing mortality can be a terrifying thing, the fear of the unknown is something you are not alone in at all. many people, including me, are terrified of what happens and this manifests in different ways (for me this shows through in rigorously planning my funeral). it's especially terrifying because, i have some issues with control, and i would not be there to make sure everything is perfect. i'm not sure this rings true with you or not, but you're not alone in being scared.

 

[Stinkyrat]

i can understand this point of view as well, facing mortality can be a terrifying thing, the fear of the unknown is something you are not alone in at all. many people, including me, are terrified of what happens and this manifests in different ways (for me this shows through in rigorously planning my funeral). it's especially terrifying because, i have some issues with control, and i would not be there to make sure everything is perfect. i'm not sure this rings true with you or not, but you're not alone in being scared.

That's exactly what I'm talking about.. my English is really bad so I can't put it in words as good but just not knowing what will be done at my funeral is scary enough.. and the thought of people finding my body? In a way I would never want anyone to see me?!? It just sounds so horrible to me.. if there is a chance to control all of it beforehand that would be great but there's no way.. i attempted before and I remember how stressed I was to get everything right and perfect to be clean myself from head to toe and wearing something that makes me feel comfortable being looked at
Cleaning all the house and making sure I prepared everything well for my family but it didn't work out the way I planned

 

[oh_no191]

I want my body donated to science. I don't have a reason to be buried in the ground or sprinkled anywhere. Might as well have my body be useful