do you have a death plan?

[bijou]

i do not mean a plan for ctb, i mean a plan for your body post-mortem. do you have any particular songs you'd want to be played at a wake? do you want to be cremated or embalmed? composted? have you thought about a death plan at all?

i feel, when choosing to die, the way your corpse is cared for is deeply intertwined with that choice. whether i choose to ctb or not, i found that creating my death plan was a deeply cathartic experience. facing mortality head-on is an incredibly intimate thing to do with oneself.
tell me your final wishes if you would like to, i am deeply intrigued and here to listen.

 

[Embalmer]

I think personally I would want to be cremated and have all of my ashes spread in the forest by my house. It brought me a lot of comfort when I was struggling and my biggest fear is decomposing/ending up as a forgotten grave or stuck in an urn gathering dust on a shelf until I'm eventually thrown away.

 

[Eternal Bliss]

I think personally I would want to be cremated and have all of my ashes spread in the forest by my house. It brought me a lot of comfort when I was struggling and my biggest fear is decomposing/ending up as a forgotten grave or stuck in an urn gathering dust on a shelf until I'm eventually thrown away.

I would prefer to be cremated as well but I would prefer for my ashes to be scattered into the sea

 

[Sweet Tart]

When I lived alone, I told my cat she could eat my body if I died and left her with no food. We live with family at the moment, so she probably won't miss any meals on my account, but even so, she's welcome to take a nibble if she wants. She loves food, lol.

I want a natural burial with no embalming, just a pine box that gets chucked somewhere to decompose. Idk if this is legal or doable, but it's my wish. I don't want a headstone or anything, I just want to be returned to the earth and have my energy & parts get reabsorbed back into the ecosystem. Hopefully the ants won't get depressed from eating my body, lol.

I cringe at the thought of having a funeral and the social grieving stuff. There are very few people in my life and lately I'm just done with everyone but my best friend. My family doesn't really know me or wish to know me at all. Fortunately I will cease to be present for the show they will inevitably put on at my funeral.

 

[bijou]

I want a natural burial with no embalming, just a pine box that gets chucked somewhere to decompose. Idk if this is legal or doable, but it's my wish. I don't want a headstone or anything, I just want to be returned to the earth and have my energy & parts get reabsorbed back into the ecosystem. Hopefully the ants won't get depressed from eating my body, lol.

this is possible and more opportunities for green burials are popping up depending on where you live. the green cemetery in my area is just a really gorgeous greenspace, a very serene environment.

I would prefer to be cremated as well but I would prefer for my ashes to be scattered into the sea

there is an option for aquamation as well if you are adverse to the carbon footprint of cremation.

 

[Sweet Tart]

this is possible and more opportunities for green burials are popping up depending on where you live. the green cemetery in my area is just a really gorgeous greenspace, a very serene environment.

the green cemetery sounds wonderful! it's reassuring to hear that it's becoming an option for more people

 

[outrider567]

Mausoleum, normal burial, no funeral, red granite building, free standing building, 6 high--Im on top level--Many old oak trees in the cemetery--If any relatives ever want to come visit me, I want them to look UP at me, not down at me in the ground

 

[locked*n*loaded]

My plans are made - cremation. There's no one to attend any funeral, so I won't be having one, not that I want one, anyway. I already have a plot and a niche in a headstone where my ashes will be placed.

 

[FuneralCry]

The reality is that whatever happens in this world after I'm gone could simply never be my concern as I simply won't exist at that point, so it cannot really matter to me as everything will be forgotten about. This is why I look forward to not existing as those who are no longer here are completely unaware of everything and they don't have to deal with any concerns related to existing but if I had to choose I would go for the cremation, I could never want a funeral or a burial, I only wish to be forgotten about, not remembered in any way, the only relief lies in the thought of this meaningless and insignificant existence finally being forgotten about.

 

[bijou]

Mausoleum, normal burial, no funeral, red granite building, free standing building, 6 high--Im on top level--Many old oak trees in the cemetery--If any relatives ever want to come visit me, I want them to look UP at me, not down at me in the ground

i appreciate the idea of them looking up at you, very creative touch

 

[The anhedonic one]

I'm going to Mexico for N sometime in the future.
I'm not having a funeral.
The vultures in the desert shall dine off my corpse when the time comes.

 

[Sweet Tart]

The reality is that whatever happens in this world after I'm gone could simply never be my concern as I simply won't exist at that point, so it cannot really matter to me as everything will be forgotten about. This is why I look forward to not existing as those who are no longer here are completely unaware of everything and they don't have to deal with any concerns related to existing but if I had to choose I would go for the cremation, I could never want a funeral or a burial, I only wish to be forgotten about, not remembered in any way, the only relief lies in the thought of this meaningless and insignificant existence finally being forgotten about.

It's comforting to think about not existing. The space my body is occupying will be eventually be empty and air will flow thru it unimpeded. There is something beautiful and peaceful about that.

 

[Watlock]

I do not want a funeral at all, someone can just take my ashes and throw me into a body of water. Even if someone put a funeral together, there would be maybe 5 people there max. I think composting could be cool but no one gives enough of a shit about me now, they're definitely not gonna try to set up something like that when I'm finally done burdening them.

 

[PinkyStat]

I just want to be cremated and thrown away on a park playground that i used to be when i was very little, i dont really want a funeral tbh, but i will write the name of some songs in a notepad at my pc homepage (i wont make a physical letter because if someone finds it will be very… weird to say a least, it is way easier just to hide the notepad inside a folder yknow?)

 

[bijou]

I'm going to Mexico for N sometime in the future.
I'm not having a funeral.
The vultures in the desert shall dine off my corpse when the time comes.

i guess you can see that as returning to the earth in some fashion

 

[NoReasonToLive2023]

My currently planned CTB method is jumping. Who knows what'll be left of my body?

 

[bijou]

I just want to be cremated and thrown away on a park playground that i used to be when i was very little, i dont really want a funeral tbh, but i will write the name of some songs in a notepad at my pc homepage (i wont make a physical letter because if someone finds it will be very… weird to say a least, it is way easier just to hide the notepad inside a folder yknow?)

i think the music we enjoy says a lot about who we are/were, are there any songs in particular you'd enjoy? in my experience music, or lack thereof, at funerals, wakes etc. really sets the tone. i'd personally not enjoy my memory being butchered by playing music i didn't even enjoy.

The reality is that whatever happens in this world after I'm gone could simply never be my concern as I simply won't exist at that point, so it cannot really matter to me as everything will be forgotten about. This is why I look forward to not existing as those who are no longer here are completely unaware of everything and they don't have to deal with any concerns related to existing but if I had to choose I would go for the cremation, I could never want a funeral or a burial, I only wish to be forgotten about, not remembered in any way, the only relief lies in the thought of this meaningless and insignificant existence finally being forgotten about.

you have a very intriguing perspective, thank you for sharing

 

[PinkyStat]

i think the music we enjoy says a lot about who we are/were, are there any songs in particular you'd enjoy? in my experience music, or lack thereof, at funerals, wakes etc. really sets the tone. i'd personally not enjoy my memory being butchered by playing music i didn't even enjoy.

you have a very intriguing perspective, thank you for sharing

I dont have a song that would actually fit in a context of a funeral, but here are some songs that i would like to share to the others when i die

 

[ipomoeaalba]

i would love to just be like thrown into a hole under a tree or a garden. let me give back

 

[slashedpiel]

i would definitely want to be cremated. i always tell my friend to grab whatever she wants i have in my room and have some of my ashes, if i were to die early. i haven't thought too much of the funeral aspect, but i know that i would want it to be big. i'm thinking about making one big playlist filled with all of the music as i liked as a kid, a teenager, and all up until now. all i know is that i'd want to be cremated and have my family dress up my urn with different costumes lol.

 

[absolomonisgone]

I'd want my body to be donated to a medical school for kids to dissect and learn---, but it's an impossibility; I can't go to the school and arrange with them to claim my body as they'd ask lots of questions like so I decided to kill myself? And even if I instruct my family to do so in a suicide note, they won't.
So, will just get buried. In any case, we are meant to be food for worms. It's the irony of God. He creates such a wonderful thing like a human being as food for worms!!

 

[leftdreaming]

Not yet, just a death wish.

 

[Pidgeons_Sparrows]

i want a hole to be digged in the middle of some random big forest, my body thrown in, drenched in gasoline, ignited, then covered up and a small unmarked tombstone

its important that the tombstone says nothing on it

 

[outatime_85]

When I go, no one will care, and there will be no mourners.

That said, there will be no box; I will just be tossed into the ground, wrapped in a cloth shroud with a simple grave plaque with a number.

 

[BlackNails]

Simply signed up to be an organ donor, figured someone else might find use for what I no longer need

 

[Forever Sleep]

Likely pre-paid cremation with no service. I'd like my ashes to be thrown into the sea but I bet that's expensive, so I figure it probably doesn't really matter. I like the idea of composting though and a tree growing from me but I expect that's expensive too. Have you looked at funeral plans? They're extortionate!!

 

[catharspiral]

I would prefer to be cremated as well but I would prefer for my ashes to be scattered into the sea

Same here - the sea is a beautiful place to rest in death

 

[Praestat_Mori]

I actually don't have a plan. Once i cease this existance I'm free in (possibly) another dimension! I will not be able to return to this world and whatever is done with that cluster of atoms left behind, I don't care about it! Anyway I will be free from all agony and suffering.

 

[anklebiter]

Tbh I really don't care what happens when I pass, I'd prefer if people didn't care and just got it done and over with and didn't hold a funeral for me

 

[IndyAna]

I wanna be cremated and for my ashes to be scattered somewhere in the USA. it was one of my biggest dreams, to visit someday. but I sadly won't, I have a bus to take in a few days.