Discussion Do you hate having your picture taken, or looking in a mirror?

[Ardesevent]

Title. I have to take a selfie for a uni assignment, never realized how much it bothered me before then. Being able to stare and see exactly what's wrong with you is jarring.

 

[IrRegularjoe]

Yes, I can see what I've been through just by looking at my face.

 

[AnnonyBox]

Absolutely, I hate my face. I try to avoid looking in mirrors when I can. I refuse to take selfies.

 

[waterbottleman]

Don't like taking pictures. Don't mind looking at the mirror.

I don't think I'm ugly or bad looking, in fact I have great skin that glows because I take care of it so much.

I just hate having to do a fake smile. I think smiles should be genuine. I like genuine moments/feelings not fake and artificial like when taking a picture.

 

[Mr2005]

Don't know where to start. I have problems galore and then I catch my reflection and see what started it all.

 

[Vault of Memories]

I've always had trouble smiling in pictures. It just seems so fake to me, I'm attempting to portray an emotion that doesn't fit how I feel. For what? Where's the realism in smiling in every single picture you're ever in? No human is always happy and in my case I rarely am, the sad expression just comes off more naturally.

I've also always been pretty critical on myself regarding my physical features.

 

[Lunaloveflood]

Yes i feel like i get uglier everyday i just hate my face

 

[Worthless_nobody]

Yes I absolutely hate having my picture taken. I used to not mind looking in mirror but lately it's getting harder and harder.

 

[Tiedie]

I really hate pics and mirrors. Being in public intensifies the feeling. Like just looking in the mirror to try on clothes is humiliating to me.

 

[terry_a_davis]

Always hated it and it got worse in adult life. Only time i've been accepting of how i looked was when i was in really good shape through exercise and high on drugs. Even then i'd cringe if someone else took a photo.

 

[Oyoy]

If I wanted to see the poster child of sadness and dispaire then I would love it ;/

 

[TStorm]

I hate myself so I avoid appearing in pictures or looking in mirrors much. I feel bad that other people have to look at me honestly.

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

YES !!! I have hated it ever since I was a kid.

Absolutely, I hate my face. I try to avoid looking in mirrors when I can. I refuse to take selfies.

I hate looking in the mirror as well. I just want to punch it.

 

[Mistake of Nature]

I refuse to get my photo taken and I avoid mirrors/reflective surfaces. My face and body are revolting. On really bad days, I have to cover all mirrors in my home because a glimpse of my reflection is enough to make me spiral.

 

[Walilamdzi]

I used to be so self conscious that I would constantly look in the mirror, but not out of vanity, out of fear that I looked abnormal. I would look in windows / anything reflective whenever I walked around and I would look in the mirror obsessively before leaving anywhere. I've always avoided getting my photo taken apart from times when I was having a so-called manic episode.

 

[Cutepoison]

Totally. I hate what I see, just can't look at it

 

[Myforevercharlie]

Depends.. Pictures for passport or drivers licence are horrible. I have days i avoid every mirror. But i don't get repulsed by my face anymore

 

[Pale Blue Dot]

I think yes. I avoid taking pictures or selfies, or even looking myself in the mirror. I just don't want to realize that my body is physically existing, it's always been gross.

 

[Lethe]

I'm considered attractive by male standards, but I'm a trans female so I hate it of course. Want to get facial feminization surgery asap. I guess it's not all bad though, a cis lady said she was jealous of my skin, which made me feel nice.

 

[Brink]

I used to be so pretty and on point but now I've given up caring just let my body, face and hairline worsen. It's freeing in the sense that we should reject the unattainable cultural standards of beauty but not at the expense of health which is what I've done.

 

[watereyes]

I used to think I was a fat pig even tho I weigh 52kg. Then I met people who were genuinely attracted by my appearance so I started to love it. I still hate myself on the inside tho.

 

[oneanonymous]

I've always hated having my picture taken, even as a kid. I'm an attractive person but I don't take many selfies compared to other people, mainly because it feels silly to me. I'm always looking in the mirror though, because I'm always afraid I may have something on me or something is messed up that I'm not aware of but for some reason, I hate looking at myself in the mirror when other people are around. I have no idea why. I don't even like fixing my makeup or hair in public restrooms when other women are around. For some strange reason, it's slightly embarrassing to me and I have no idea why lol. My anxiety has never made sense though.

 

[KiraLittleOwl]

Since the surgery looking in the mirror making me want to die.

 

[BlackPoppet]

I really hate pics and mirrors. Being in public intensifies the feeling. Like just looking in the mirror to try on clothes is humiliating to me.

Yeah me too. I actually won't look into mirrors in public bathrooms. Or in changing rooms.

I think yes. I avoid taking pictures or selfies, or even looking myself in the mirror. I just don't want to realize that my body is physically existing, it's always been gross.

I used to have a nice figure. A dancers body. Until antipsychotics ruined it. Now I hate it. It's lumpy and fat is in all the wrong places. My boobs are bigger, which me and my partner like, but that's it.

 

[magick'sgone]

I can relate to this so much. I was a cute kid until I got ill at about 11. Fucked my appearance up in so many ways. Strange to go from a healthy looking child to an ugly, sick looking adult. Pretty sure that's how the depression got started. It really exposes the true nature of the human attitude toward beauty. Picked up some serious facial fractures from an assault and now I'm a complete mess to look at. I look in the mirror and a pale skinned, black eyed, wonky, broken man stares back. I'd give anything to look like ANYONE else. And all my friends insist on taking photos together or want to do group facetime chats. Being depressed is one thing, but genuinely looking like shit every day adds a sense of urgency to the desire to ctb. The funny thing is that I tried to be positive and believe all the bullshit platitudes about looks not being important for so many years, despite an abundance of regularly received insults and observed evidence to the contrary. It's actually surreal to be so notably repulsive. ‎

 

[AcornUnderground]

Yes. I actually was really beautiful once, it got me through most of my life with a breeze, because I was lucky enough to be smart and a hard worker, too. Still, I always felt that something was wrong with me. I was never fully in my skin, and I was super high strung. Never, ever relaxed or comfortable. I think that is why I accomplished so much - always moving. I drank a lot, too - to calm down. I'm organizing a lot of photos now to prepare for my exit and I'm realizing that I was physically ill much longer than I realized. It's apparent in pictures of myself and my facial and body changes. My disease has ruined my eyes, face, hair and body. I'm just so sad that I didn't know I was sick and had kids anyway.

 

[1DayItWillBover]

I hate my picture being taking.. I take off my glasses when i go into the bathroom just so i dont get a clear view of me. No one has asked me yet when i take off my glasses but i already have a reply for that..

"I don't want to look at the person that i have become"

 

[DeathNoot]

Yeah I dropped out of a class that wanted me to use a photo of myself for an assignment lol. That was a long time ago. At home I don't care but in public/when other people are around I refuse to look in a mirror. Unless I'm not wearing my glasses, it's fine if its blurry.

 

[Cashewmilk]

I've always hated it. Since I was a young child, I knew I was ugly, no one liked me at school because I looked funny, I have a big crooked long thin nose. It wasn't until highschool when I started wearing makeup, I was so ecstatic that I finally looked pretty, and I could just wear makeup! But when I saw myself in photos, I was horrified. It was not the same face I saw in the mirror, it looked twisted and deformed in pictures, back then we didn't have smartphone cameras, we had old school cameras with developed pics, and I noticed in my school pictures when I got to see them, I was so horrified. I always did something to fuck up my face with beauty routines, like plucking my eyebrows wrong, or putting hair removal creams on my face and messing up my hair line. I remember when webcams came out, that's when we started taking millions of selfies, sitting at the computer. I looked really pretty in my webcam selfies, I finally mastered how to do my make-up, and everyone at school thought I was so pretty, but when I didn't wear makeup, it was scary and shocking lol. But in candid photos, or digital camera photos, I looked totally fucked up!!! It didn't even look like ME, I just couldn't understand it, so I totally avoided having my photo taken. I was able to take nice selfies with my digital camera because it had a little screen on it and I could see a preview. When the selfie generation came with the new iphones etc, I had stopped taking photos of myself by then, I wasn't a teenager anymore or interested. I was also busy with other things like my addiction and my depression, so I didn't care about my looks, and didn't have any need to photograph my face. I am sure if I was normal I'd master selfie taking, and take those fake misleading photos like most girls do on instagram, and I'd probably end up getting botox and stuff too, ugh boy I'm glad I dodged a bullet there! I had body dysmorphia as a teen and I was headed in that direction.

Nowadays I don't give a crap about my face, I don't mind looking in the mirror, I'm so used to it, it's ridiculous how ugly I look, and I've just accepted it, I don't care about looks anymore, in my bathroom mirror I like how I look, simple, and my face shows how much I suffer, I like the darkness around my eyes, I much prefer myself without makeup or just coverup to remove blemishes on the skin, I hate mascara, eyeshadow, eye liner, things I used to be obsessed with. I used to get horrified when I saw my face in a surveillance video in a store or in a mirror, my features are slanted. When I got into the sex industry, my ego boost was totally lifted, I was worshiped by some men (this is very common for most women in the sex industry), most of them loved my face, even without makeup, I know their standards are low compared to what's conventionally attractive, and they're aroused and about to get laid, but they often compared me with other sex workers and were relieved to see me, I guess they ran into some older women or some crack heads (little did they know I was a junkie too lol!). I had to take pics for my sister's graduation, ugh, it's SO FUGLY, and my mom framed it and it's everywhere, I'm the ugliest. Even my older sister who's also ravaged by drug addiction and abuse has natural features, clear skin, straight face etc always looks normal in photos. I always look like a mutant. So yeah, no pics, but don't mind looking in the mirror, I'm used to my stupid face lol.

 

[maka]

Yup. Throughout my childhood I've been known to fight people who've taken my picture until they delete it. I don't regret that.