Did your ex/bf/gf/wife/husband/fiance/partner/fwb etc support you during your tough times?

[NZkiwi]

my most ex recent ex 4 years
messaged me lol, sent me a reel
lovely girl
dealing with her own stuff and a little overhwhelmed tried her best and i dont hold a grudge against her

my other exs were supportive but i wasnt as unwell and i was a lot younger
i think i tried to tollerate a lot by my own and didnt take it out on her
a lot better at communicating now

sent her this
kept messaging me but idk wasnt vibing


""""
ive been slowly transitioning my friendships from "remeber when" friends to imagine if

i cant really think of a "imagine if" between us at this stage so if you have any ideas let me know

thanks for reaching out
thank you for everything
wishing you all the very best
im so proud of you €¥€¥€
keep doing you
"""




end of a chapter
open to a new one
at peace

 

[Pluto]

 

[NZkiwi]

yes i should of added cat to the list mb bro

 

[Chili]

Mine did not, sort of. I never told them I was thinking about ctb, but the physical toll it took on me (huge weight gain to huge weight loss over and over, to generally disinterest in things) and that severed the relationship

 

[90377lethe]

Yes and no. I've had partners try their best to support me, but I think the majority of them just didn't take me or my pain seriously. Or they expected that I'd be able to handle things that were incredibly traumatic without trouble.

I have a tendency to pick partners that are not emotionally intelligent, or just don't feel much emotion at all. It's caused a lot of problems for me throughout my life, but I don't know how to change who I'm attracted to.

 

[Luchs]

The one gf I had in my lifw never had any clue about how I really felt inside from the start of our relationship to its end. Probably would have ended a lot sooner if she did.

 

[Insufficent]

Yes, ex wive did. But like everyone should, she did had her boundaries and took her for granted.

 

[LRkin]

The first one was supportive. Still messages me from time to time. I don;t know why. But her support didn't strike home. She's a good person, but we didn't really understand each other.
The rest of them... shit luck. The only way they "helped" me was making my mental state even worse.

 

[DewDr0p]

my best friend is the only person i've really told about mental struggles. they are amazing, i know they are worried about me but they still try to be gentle and supportive. they have been a close friend for almost a decade. when i try to withdraw from friends, i never manage to actually do so with them. i feel bad because well i love them you know. i dont want them to worry, but they are genuinely such a valuable and supportive presence in my life.

i was gonna say they didnt really fit in the title, but i suppose they are technically also an ex. i never told any other exes, they had their own shit and im glad the relationships didnt last.

 

[whywere]

ZERO period.

Never had or have had anyone for that, it is me and myself only.

Walter

 

[never mind me]

Yes and no. In general I'd say my boy-friend wants to help me, but is easily overwhelmed when I am in a bad way. The first time I felt really bad during our relationsship was early on in the relationship when being with him (as it was the first time I actually fell in love) caused me to be haunted by bad memories from my childhood. Although he tried to comfort me he seemed not to know what he can do to help and seemed to be stressed by it which caused him to be not that helpful. But it improved a lot when I explained to him that I don't expect him to fix me, that I know that I have to find a way to deal with these memories and that it will take time, but that it helps, if he is simply there and cuddles me when I ask him to. Although I sometimes had suicidal ideation I didn't really want to kill myself at the time, because it was obvious that I felt bad because of bad things that others had done to me and it goes against my principles to give shitty people that much power over me to give in to their wrongdoings and off myself.

When I felt bad this summer when I had to come back from an overseas trip due to health reasons my boy-friend wasn't supportive at all. Although he allowed me to crash for 2 weeks at his place, he made it very clear that he wanted to have me out of his appartment asap and on an emotional level he wasn't supportive at all. It seemed that apart from it being too much for him not to have his private space while I stayed with him, he couldn't stand me being really gloomy. I didn't mention my suicidal ideation to him, because he just acted like I was exaggerating, so I turned to my friends for support instead.

 

[komakun]

no lol i feel like they never really believe me when I'm going through anything or just think I'm too awful to sympathize with whatever I'm going through idk

 

[ShiroNoKitsune]

my most ex recent ex 4 years
messaged me lol, sent me a reel
lovely girl
dealing with her own stuff and a little overhwhelmed tried her best and i dont hold a grudge against her

my other exs were supportive but i wasnt as unwell and i was a lot younger
i think i tried to tollerate a lot by my own and didnt take it out on her
a lot better at communicating now

sent her this
kept messaging me but idk wasnt vibing


""""
ive been slowly transitioning my friendships from "remeber when" friends to imagine if

i cant really think of a "imagine if" between us at this stage so if you have any ideas let me know

thanks for reaching out
thank you for everything
wishing you all the very best
im so proud of you €¥€¥€
keep doing you
"""




end of a chapter
open to a new one
at peace

Yes, they did. Not in ways I was aware at the time.

I was blinded by my own SI, lost in myself I never stopped to realize the person closest to me knew, without having ever said a word. Looking back on it, he knew.

we broke up because he went through his own thing and started tearing down everything, we'd built, I loved him but I couldn't be there watching him burn his world down. Among other events, I won't go into here.

My other I miss dearly. I was young and dumb and once again, blinded by it all. He was sweet and I had my eyes set on a higher hill. He was happy to stay behind and so we drifted away. It was probably my biggest mistake to date. Three quarters of a decade wasted because I wanted more.

He was the only man who ever bought me flowers.

 

[girl_with_a_plan]

Not really - or they were supportive as a way to get sex.

 

[trying ungracefully]

Sort of. During my manic episode (didn't know I was bipolar then) he was a saint and even lost a car taking care of me with how much he wanted me to be okay. I was cruel, slapped him, and kept him awake for long hours not realizing he couldn't stay up. I even ended up telling him then that I semi cheated on him by "talking" to a guy online for a few days.

Still he pushed through and waited for me to get better and stayed with me through four inpatients in one year. He visited me and wrote me long letters and gave me comfort items. Afterwards things weren't the same obviously but we've been slowly trying to get back to the point we were.

But at other times he can misunderstand things so badly. With my anxiety he'll tell me that "calm down" bull shit. I remember one time I was anxious with his driving and he started yelling because he was so annoyed. He also deal with the fact that I have mood swings and I will feel a range of emotions throughout the day and small things can set me off.

He tries his best though so that's what matters to me. And he is getting better with my anxiety stuff I think.

 

[NZkiwi]

Three quarters of a decade wasted because I wanted more

bruh that aches

 

[literallynoone]

I don't think so. I mean she tried but it was too late too salvage it I guess. She wanted for me to be for her when she was going through tough times which is completely fine and I completely fucked up there I admit but she knew I was going through a really hard time for me and when time rolled around when she was good and I was ready to give up completely there was nothing at all from her. Well aside from leaving me. I don't blame her at all but I really wish she didn't later message me with "are you okay" or "i'm here for you" because no, please no I just don't want to hear from you again on this. Just leave me be.
I'd honestly prefered it before I had any relationship experience because I could at least lie to myself that maybe having someone "care" about me would make me feel any better. Again no shade on her she had her own shit to deal with.

 

[StarsAbove]

my most ex recent ex 4 years
messaged me lol, sent me a reel
lovely girl
dealing with her own stuff and a little overhwhelmed tried her best and i dont hold a grudge against her

my other exs were supportive but i wasnt as unwell and i was a lot younger
i think i tried to tollerate a lot by my own and didnt take it out on her
a lot better at communicating now

sent her this
kept messaging me but idk wasnt vibing


""""
ive been slowly transitioning my friendships from "remeber when" friends to imagine if

i cant really think of a "imagine if" between us at this stage so if you have any ideas let me know

thanks for reaching out
thank you for everything
wishing you all the very best
im so proud of you €¥€¥€
keep doing you
"""




end of a chapter
open to a new one
at peace

That is nice that you are still on good terms with your exes. Hope it is a positive reunion, whatever that may look like.