"Childhood trauma is not a valid reason to commit suicide"

[Deleted member 18655]

...said anyone who's never been through it! Compassion is one thing but anyone who's been through this would NEVER say that to another human being.

Take it as innocent ignorance, be thankful they didn't have to go through it and try to live with it, and take that quote with a grain of salt.

 

[curiouskitty]

Don't take it to heart, "life coaches" are professional bullshit peddlers. All trauma is valid.

 

[SoIntoYou]

"Childhood trauma is not a valid reason to commit suicide"
Oh my god this is hilarious. So let me get this right Mr. Life Coach. Do you honestly think the trauma goes away after childhood? Do you think the trauma not only doesn't go away, but also doesn't evolve into more serious problems? I understand that not all child trauma survivors are fucked for life, but MANY are. So either you have only dealt with the former, or you are not fit for this position, to put it nicely. Because if we ever met, I would give you a nice and genuinely polite conversation that would make you feel terrible.

 

[AllReturnsToNothing]

Life coaches and people in the "self-help" industry are assholes in general. I know that you said this person is your friend but I don't think a real friend would say something like that. However, that is definitely something a swell-headed life coach would say. What a genuinly awful thing to say to a person honestly.

 

[Harleyyy]

This was something I was told my a life coach friend of mine. I told him extensively about my suicidal thoughts, considering his past with them and his own personal trauma. However, I always felt invalidated by this. Not everyone has the strength to live with trauma. Its not fair was abused by so many people who didn't care. why should I have to force myself to live if I don't want to? Not everyone can do it, and honestly thats ok. I just wish I didn't have to resort to something drastic like getting hit my train, jumping into water, etc.

I am sorry that you had to go through this. And you don't have to get affected by someone else's validation of your misery. Hope you find peace x

 

[Meditation guide]

This was something I was told my a life coach friend of mine.

Many of us are aware that "life coaches" are to be avoided at all cost. They are the most unenlightened people on earth, who paradoxically think they are specially chosen to tell other people how things are. Avoid life coaches. They are most of the time total idiots.

As you have found out, their specialty is invalidating you.
When someone tells me they are a life coach I run. I advise you to never talk to someone again who invalidates you that way. Stay far far away from such a person or you will continue to be worn down by that person in very cruel ways. They are narcissists usually.

 

[MeriDeath]

This was something I was told my a life coach friend of mine. I told him extensively about my suicidal thoughts, considering his past with them and his own personal trauma. However, I always felt invalidated by this. Not everyone has the strength to live with trauma. Its not fair was abused by so many people who didn't care. why should I have to force myself to live if I don't want to? Not everyone can do it, and honestly thats ok. I just wish I didn't have to resort to something drastic like getting hit my train, jumping into water, etc.

My friend, childhood trauma is more than enough. Actually, any kind of trauma is enough. You dont need other person's validation for that, the heart wants what it wants. Normal people will never undetstand. If its really what you wish abd you give 0 fucks about what other people say and the suffer is real, than you should care less about what others say or decide for you. Some people cant live with the trauma. Some people are fucked forever. He is no one to tell you what youve gone through as he is not living in your shoes. Think about it. Were not in the stage anymore to give a fuck about anyone or anything, as we are certain in our decision to ctb.

 

[nurplexkid]

The people who survive chilhood trauma were accepted by their peers which has a protective effect on mental health. If you're bullied by peers and traumatized by adults you're pretty much fucked.

 

[woxihuanni]

My own traumas mean zero, nill, nothing to me so I cannot empathise but telling you you have no right to feel a particular way is evil. That person is not your friend, does not respect you or have your best interests at heart. If you tell someone of your feelings and find yourself in an argument with them, it means you've never been friends.

 

[alexit]

As someone who suffered extensive childhood trauma this is something I think about a lot. Part of me wants to say that our abusers don't deserve to have that kind of power over us, to lead us to suicide. But the trauma can be so extensive getting over the traumatic incidents is not the end. It/they change you in a way that can make life impossible. You have my deep empathy.

 

[braketimez]

This was something I was told my a life coach friend of mine. I told him extensively about my suicidal thoughts, considering his past with them and his own personal trauma. However, I always felt invalidated by this. Not everyone has the strength to live with trauma. Its not fair was abused by so many people who didn't care. why should I have to force myself to live if I don't want to? Not everyone can do it, and honestly thats ok. I just wish I didn't have to resort to something drastic like getting hit my train, jumping into water, etc.

I know I may sound controversial, but I believe the fact we didn't choose to be born gives us the right to choose to die. There doesn't need to be any justification beyond that. Even someone with a great life has the right to end it all, no matter how it may affect the ones closest to them.

So yeah, your life coach friend is wrong, and doesn't understand the pain you are experiencing. Only you can understand that ultimately, and no one can judge you without having experienced it themselves.

 

[alexit]

I know I may sound controversial, but I believe the fact we didn't choose to be born gives us the right to choose to die. There doesn't need to be any justification beyond that. Even someone with a great life has the right to end it all, no matter how it may affect the ones closest to them.

So yeah, your life coach friend is wrong, and doesn't understand the pain you are experiencing. Only you can understand that ultimately, and no one can judge you without having experienced it themselves l.

Totally agree. I've never read anything that summarizes my views better, so succinctly.