caring for people

[ketkrg]

ive begun to care less and less for people. i dont know what it is i guess i just see no point. I obviously care for some people but those i dont know i cant wrap my head around the fact theyre real and it might be a problem. people seem to have sympathy/empathy for others and now i see it i feel as if i lack it. i dont think i care and i dont know if its bad or not.

 

[sugarh1gh]

When I am on the edge, only feelings I care about is mine, no one elses. I can be sympathetic but I suck at empathizing anyways.

 

[howlercoaster]

I just have this justified in my head.
If i feel something, i have sufficient reasons. Otherwise i wouldnt be feeling. Obviously watch for the morality, dont go hurt anybody just cuz you feelin like, but still.
Too much simplist, maybe?

 

[SuicidalTiger]

This is the opposite for me... I went into a bout of depression recently. I also met some new people and some old friends came through. I have started to care for thrm deeply... Something is keeping me from CTBing

 

[QueerMelancholy]

I don't think it's rare to stop caring for people you don't know and probably will never know. But I do think there's a difference between not being interested in the well-being of strangers and wishing harm on them. I feel like we tend to think everyone deserves kindness or our sincere compassion but in my opinion, we need to focus on ourselves first and foremost and try to do the least harm overall to ourselves and then through that aim to help other people.

There's nothing wrong with caring a little less about 8 billion people in the world on a person-by-person basis if you can still muster up sympathy for people suffering in the world. Over-generalized kindness or compassion only tends to work so much and doesn't really save anyone from anything and can exhaust us so much we lose the power to care for ourselves.

No shame in putting yourself first or caring for your needs first.