Can I get some encouragement pls

[K14~♡]

Sorry to ask for something like this, but I think I just really need some rn ToT

Due to some stupid decisions, events, and my declining mental state, I ended up neglecting my studies. Missed some of the midterm exams (and we're in finals now). I've given up on myself and this semester so I didn't ask for any special exams, but one of my teachers emailed me today asking if I can take the missed exam in his subject tomorrow. I agreed, but I don't really wanna take it even if I can salvage my grades since I've given up + I don't see a point in uni rn. But welp, I've agreed to take it so I gotta go

Still, I don't have any motivation for this at all and I'm struggling to bring myself to study. I feel I need some encouragement to bring myself to work, cuz I've been stuck in brain fog and haven't been putting effort in anything productive for a while that I no longer see any importance in it

So yea, I just want some motivating words to get myself to study for my exam tom, and be told that I can handle it TvT

 

[NihilDoll]

It's so scary to see how often school ends up being the reason people come on here...
So you're in no way alone with struggling with it

It's super easy to fall into the loop where nothing really makes any sense or matters anymore.
But ironically, that also means that not seeing a point in something also doesn't matter, so why not do it for the heck of it :D

But seriously, it's difficult to break this cycle. So don't beat yourself over the head with it.
The fact that you want encouragement in the first place means that you haven't given up completely on it.

The way i would go about it is to lean heavily into "It doesn't really matter anyways"
So it doesn't really matter that i wouldn't want to do it either. I'd just do it to play along.
In most cases, when it ends up actually giving my brain some stimulation, it also clears up any mind fog for me.

So i'd say just go with the flow. Just do it for the heck of it. It doesn't matter, might as well pass some time with it.

 

[voc_89]

You already under pressure. Don't make things worse by pushing yourself to hard
Take it slow and try to see what you can do between now and tomorrow to improve your fighting chances in the exam. You almost at the end. Just push a little more. But, again, don't overdo it as you can recover from bad grades in one semester (I did… and I was doing badly for one whole year)

 

[K14~♡]

It's so scary to see how often school ends up being the reason people come on here...
So you're in no way alone with struggling with it

It's super easy to fall into the loop where nothing really makes any sense or matters anymore.
But ironically, that also means that not seeing a point in something also doesn't matter, so why not do it for the heck of it :D

But seriously, it's difficult to break this cycle. So don't beat yourself over the head with it.
The fact that you want encouragement in the first place means that you haven't given up completely on it.

The way i would go about it is to lean heavily into "It doesn't really matter anyways"
So it doesn't really matter that i wouldn't want to do it either. I'd just do it to play along.
In most cases, when it ends up actually giving my brain some stimulation, it also clears up any mind fog for me.

So i'd say just go with the flow. Just do it for the heck of it. It doesn't matter, might as well pass some time with it.

I was having similar thoughts earlier too. Like, I've been doing nothing fulfilling anyway, might as well have something to do?

that also means that not seeing a point in something also doesn't matter, so why not do it for the heck of it :D

Also that's quite a nice mindset to have :> I don't resonate with it rn, but maybe I'll remind myself of it at a future time. Thank you sm for the reply, I feel like you understood me well haha

You already under pressure. Don't make things worse by pushing yourself to hard
Take it slow and try to see what you can do between now and tomorrow to improve your fighting chances in the exam. You almost at the end. Just push a little more. But, again, don't overdo it as you can recover from bad grades in one semester (I did… and I was doing badly for one whole year)

Thank you for the reminder I won't push myself too hard, I don't think I even have the will to make that possible rn ToT I'll just take it easy yea. It's impressive btw that you managed to recover. I don't think I could handle that TT. Tho I had plans of leaving this program since months ago so I'll be starting over, but I'm also unsure now if I should still try for uni after this sem

 

[SoLowHollow48]

Broooo you again! I keep seeing you for some time now!

Yeah, being in that headspace where you feel like you can't focus on anything when deadlines are pressing is terrible but don't worry. Baby steps! When I was in college and I didn't want to do shit because my dad just died, I just focused on things that I could handle at the moment.

I worked on assignments that I know would be easier to do in the list of other assignments I must submit (I like literature, gen psy, and biology so those are the ones I prioritize). Get a score cut, if you want. That's okay too. You can always chase it once your mojo's back. Take additional classes and stuff. I did that to boost my GPA because I sucked at accounting and economics.

For the test, when you want to learn, try different spaces. It worked for me. I would explore the cafés in my city just to finish my thesis at the time. I was so bored in my boarding house and I basically had no one in college to talk to so I just go my own way.

Reward yourself for getting a chapter down by going to the movies, getting a good drink/food, or traveling someplace else.

That's all I got, really. Hope you got that test right even if it's a pain in the ass to study

If you're broke, the local library is a good go-to too. Or the park. If it has wi-fi.

 

[voc_89]

Thank you for the reminder I won't push myself too hard, I don't think I even have the will to make that possible rn ToT I'll just take it easy yea. It's impressive btw that you managed to recover. I don't think I could handle that TT. Tho I had plans of leaving this program since months ago so I'll be starting over, but I'm also unsure now if I should still try for uni after this sem

I fell in love. Made me want to be a man worthy of her (she cheated, etc. but that experience made me know I was capable which I took with me into my MSc). I also felt like dropping out. Idk if this may sound bad but maybe try to use uni to 'break out' or do things differently. When I did that the experience was easier. Also maybe consider, if possible, less courses during the year and making up by picking up courses in summer. There are other tricks you can use to maybe help make the uni experience better. That said, do whatever you think is best. For example, trades is also a lucrative area of business. We no longer in an era where high education = 6 figure salary. Well not my generation (millennial) at least

Broooo you again! I keep seeing you for some time now!

Yeah, being in that headspace where you feel like you can't focus on anything when deadlines are pressing is terrible but don't worry. Baby steps! When I was in college and I didn't want to do shit because my dad just died, I just focused on things that I could handle at the moment.

I worked on assignments that I know would be easier to do in the list of other assignments I must submit (I like literature, gen psy, and biology so those are the ones I prioritize). Get a score cut, if you want. That's okay too. You can always chase it once your mojo's back. Take additional classes and stuff. I did that to boost my GPA because I sucked at accounting and economics.

For the test, when you want to learn, try different spaces. It worked for me. I would explore the cafés in my city just to finish my thesis at the time. I was so bored in my boarding house and I basically had no one in college to talk to so I just go my own way.

Reward yourself for getting a chapter down by going to the movies, getting a good drink/food, or traveling someplace else.

That's all I got, really. Hope you got that test right even if it's a pain in the ass to study

If you're broke, the local library is a good go-to too. Or the park. If it has wi-fi.

Great minds think alike. I was just telling him about tricks to game the system. The sooner you realize life is scripted and it's win at all costs the easier life becomes. Integrity be damned I play for keeps

 

[K14~♡]

Broooo you again! I keep seeing you for some time now!

What does this mean whahaha

For the test, when you want to learn, try different spaces. It worked for me. I would explore the cafés in my city just to finish my thesis at the time. I was so bored in my boarding house and I basically had no one in college to talk to so I just go my own way.

That sounds fun, though I'm indeed broke so can't go cafe hopping much haha. But yea would be nice to explore

Great minds think alike. I was just telling him about tricks to game the system. The sooner you realize life is scripted and it's win at all costs the easier life becomes. Integrity be damned I play for keeps

I wish I could realize this and think the same someday too

Btw y'all are so supportive, I appreciate the advices

 

[voc_89]

If it's one thing I love about here is the community. It's open, honest and supportive. Long may it continue. Also, it's not wrong to not be there yet (with respect to win at all costs mindset). You only get there when u realize the game (life) is rigged. Sooner or later we all realize that. How u respond though is what matters (continue playing nice or play to win). Wishing you the best of luck in your exams tomorrow