Biggest Regret 2025 ™️

[Sleeper System]

Everyone has things they wish they didn't allow to happen or wish they could change. Don't give me that " I have no regrets because all my mistakes have lead me to the person I am today and I wouldn't want to be any other way. " Kindly, fuck off.

Anyway, I'm in my suicidal hole today because I think I made a bad decision. Long story incredibly short... I bullshited my way into a position at work that I really didn't want to do but the money was slightly better so I jumped through all the hoops and now I regret it. It sucks. The mental and physical stress is not worth the money at all. I'd pay what they are giving me to NOT do the job at this point. It's just really overwhelming and I kind of just want to step down and go back to what I was doing before. but there is a pressure on me from people who I respect and who vouched for me and even though letting them down would suck, ultimately I really couldn't care less.

So I guess I have to be an adult and stick it out for as long as I can. Every day the economy seems to be getting worse and now people making 100k a year are considered bottom middle class. And im below that. So imagine. The stress. Ugh.

I really just want this life to end already. Part of me wants to get a terminal disease so I have a legit reason to go but part of me also doesn't want to suffer. The duality of existence.

Anyone else have any regrets or current thing stressing them the fuck out!? I need to read some like minded folks stories so I can feel better about my own bullshit.

 

[TheCavernousDeep.]

I failed to live up to my potential. A pretty stupid reason to want to die right? Given dying zeros out all future potential. I guess my logic is that if I die now, I won't have to live with the shame of failing to live up to my potential.

This year was a pretty god awful year for me. But I honestly can't imagine any year afterwards being any better.

I'm sorry about your job man. Is it worth the Hail Mary to say "I'm not cut out for this position, but I love working here. Can I please swap down, take the pay cut, and keep working where I'm passionate?" I think they'd rather have you doing a job that you can do well, rather than some shitty role you hate. But regardless, ambition is a virtue, so don't beat yourself up too much. Life is filled with land mines like the one you ran into, but that doesn't necessarily mean you took a wrong step.

 

[franklyUPSET1010]

I bullshited my way into a position at work that I really didn't want to do but the money was slightly better so I jumped through all the hoops and now I regret it. It sucks. The mental and physical stress is not worth the money at all. I'd pay what they are giving me to NOT do the job at this point. It's just really overwhelming and I kind of just want to step down and go back to what I was doing before. but there is a pressure on me from people who I respect and who vouched for me and even though letting them down would suck, ultimately I really couldn't care less.

So I guess I have to be an adult and stick it out for as long as I can. Every day the economy seems to be getting worse and now people making 100k a year are considered bottom middle class. And im below that. So imagine. The stress. Ugh.

I won't divulge my regret with you, but I will reason with yours, as that is not in your own fault to blame for.

Regarding this matter and how it happened, you had to risk your own livelihood and the cost of keeping your home that anyone would do the same position you would if it meant the cost.

No one asks to be in positions where they have to do more than expected, and it's okay to feel down about it and allow yourself to feel upset over it, too.

I won't go further into your own mental state, but I do agree with how overwhelming it is for anyone to want to quit or to keep going for a little bit further before they found another job and quit.

I've known only a few people like that and it has been both stressful for them to even wish to bring up the fact they endured a job they had to do just for the pay of it.

When I share the mental decline there to your own mental state, I wondered about the other, as if you struggle with a disorder that puts you in this position.

With that even, I wondered if your naturally more sensitive to a hard risked environment.

You can mention needing short breaks and working for home, if it helps for the time being right now, and if you also need mental health breaks, they can't break you out of that by law and you can sue, too.

This regret can be adjusted and addressed by a little, but it is a regret nonetheless that I will never put anyone down for and question their adulthood to even consider 'added work'.

No one can!

You're a person regardless and you're still growing in experience, yet you need to be allowed permission to focus on yourself from what those people say with such disregarding intent to avoid the truth of how work can overload a person, even if they are such efficient.

Please take care of your mental health the best you can, and equally, please share this with someone you trust to make a plan for what you can do.

I trust you are okay today after you have read this letter towards your day.

I'm so sorry you felt this way this year :((

 

[Sleeper System]

I failed to live up to my potential. A pretty stupid reason to want to die right? Given dying zeros out all future potential. I guess my logic is that if I die now, I won't have to live with the shame of failing to live up to my potential.

This year was a pretty god awful year for me. But I honestly can't imagine any year afterwards being any better.

I'm sorry about your job man. Is it worth the Hail Mary to say "I'm not cut out for this position, but I love working here. Can I please swap down, take the pay cut, and keep working where I'm passionate?" I think they'd rather have you doing a job that you can do well, rather than some shitty role you hate. But regardless, ambition is a virtue, so don't beat yourself up too much. Life is filled with land mines like the one you ran into, but that doesn't necessarily mean you took a wrong step.

Logic is sound to me.

I don't have to ask. It's a union job. I can just tell them im stepping down and no longer want to be a manager. Obviously with company politics they could screw me over and move me to a place I dont wanna go or a dept I dont want to be in. If I say it nicely they might be understanding but also it kind of taints my name as someone who couldn't hack the job so it ruins all future prospects. Ugh. I think its because of the holidays they shit feels so heavy. I have a lot of thinking to do. Thanks for your advice man.

 

[Grog]

I don't regret much of what I've done this year. I've made a lot of progress in my life. I have an apartment now and I'm away from the people I don't like. I feel safer and more at peace.

 

[whybother2002]

It's easier to ask what I don't regret

 

[Sleeper System]

I don't regret much of what I've done this year. I've made a lot of progress in my life. I have an apartment now and I'm away from the people I don't like. I feel safer and more at peace.

That's a good feeling. Glad to hear you're doing better.

 

[kitkat9234]

Regret and guilt from my past fuck ups consume me. It eats me up inside. I fucking hate myself.

 

[madwoman]

I am a stressy anxious person and would rather look at things in my life not as regrets but just things that happened that I can either change or live with it and make peace with it otherwise I really won't be able to cope and will spiral into a black hole. I talk myself out of regret or I finally do the thing that would help or make me feel better

I wanted to just say you should consider stepping down bc I feel like you'll keep stressing and resent your work - you can even just say like you have a lot of personal things going on in your life and don't feel you can put your all into this position that it deserves so you feel it's best to step down - that's commendable and would be a good reason in future job prospects. Unless you want to be a manager or higher up - maybe there's a lateral move you could do? I love being a minion personally. I'm hoping for less stress for you