being alone and feeling lonely

[BloodyNobody]

People that live alone or are alone for long periods at a time, how do you get by? I can't stand being alone, my head gets loud the boredom creeps in and it's just unbareable for me. I can't stand myself or my own company so every second I'm alone i find so difficult.

There's nobody I can really call or invite over, I don't really have any hobbies I'm too anxious to leave my flat. I just pass the time by laying on the floor crying but I'm so exhausted from doing that day after day.

do you like/dislike being alone? Why?
what do you do when it feels like time is stuck, How do you get through the awful feeling of being lonely? If you struggle to be in your company how do you cope?

Thank you if you've taken the time to read this post

 

[Callie Arcale]

I am alone and lonely. Until recently I had my job and I used that as a distraction, but now I am too ill to work or leave the house. I don't mind being lonely per se, I just hate that I am ill and can't walk or do anything to alleviate the monotony.

I have recently started reading about buddhist practices in the hope of learning how to come to terms with chronic illness and loneliness.

Apart from that, I surf the internet and watch Tv when my exhaustion allows me to do so.

I also have a fixed meal schedule, just to give myself a sense of routine and have something to "look forward to".

I am sorry you are struggling and I send you all my compassion. Take care!

 

[luten]

I have been living alone for many many year. The only thing that made it bearable was traveling, but I cant do that anymore. Loneliness can be devastating.

At one stage I even considered going to Russia to see the bears, to make the loneliness more bearable.

 

[Marktheghost]

I don't cope.

I spend most of my time online. I don't tend to get bored very often. I think having things to do and not feeling bored possibly helps a bit.

 

[FuneralCry]

I personally like being alone even know it means a lot of time stuck with my own thoughts. It is the way my personality is and people are exhausting to me. I do understand how loneliness can send many people to despair, it can be awful feeling. I do have my cat I guess, animals can help.

 

[Ramirez]

I been alone most of my life. I socialize a bit on the internet playing online games and in kickboxing class. I feel lonely from time to time but on the other hand it's kinda freeing cuz I don't have to worry about acting in a way I'm expected to. Relationships of any kind stress me out.

 

[Tired Nacho]

People that live alone or are alone for long periods at a time, how do you get by? I can't stand being alone, my head gets loud the boredom creeps in and it's just unbareable for me. I can't stand myself or my own company so every second I'm alone i find so difficult.

There's nobody I can really call or invite over, I don't really have any hobbies I'm too anxious to leave my flat. I just pass the time by laying on the floor crying but I'm so exhausted from doing that day after day.

do you like/dislike being alone? Why?
what do you do when it feels like time is stuck, How do you get through the awful feeling of being lonely? If you struggle to be in your company how do you cope?

Thank you if you've taken the time to read this post

I can be surrounded by people talk to them be happy but a the end of the day I still feel alone, I can speak with them about causal stuff but I don't have a friend I can just call when I'm feeling down and chat with him about what's on my head.
Whenever I am alone I need to have music, if I don't I start feeling strange amidst the silence.
I think I don't like being alone but I haven't really been not "alone".

 

[Enabran255]

I don't know how I get by. It's basically existing but not actually living. I think it would be significantly more bearable if I had never had the experience of having friends or a girl I liked who had feelings for me so long ago. Those memories get crippling when contrasted with my current empty reality.

Every now and then I make a new attempt to find friends or romance and get rejected pretty fast. The relentless march of time has led to me now feeling completely abandoned and out of place.

 

[Pisceslilith]

The times where I do get to be by myself, most of the time its unbearable not because I "need" anyone, it's the fact that I'm stuck with my thoughts, stuck with the intense feeling of numbness and chronic boredom and just overall trapped in my body which makes being alone very horrible. Other than that I don't have a problem with being alone, once I figure out a way to be comfortable with my own company and satisfied with my own presence then I'll finally be at peace or so I hope. Being around others makes me feel even more lonely so I definitely know it's not people that I need to cure my loneliness.

 

[LoneMisery]

I hate being alone especially with nobody messaging or calling me first. It just maoes me realize that im not as well loved as everyone says i am. Until i go silent for days then they want to kno every damn thing thats wrong. Nosey i call it no caring. They want the latest episode of my lifes soap opera just to start up the " go talk to someone..get help" routine. I feel alone in a world with 8 billion people in it

 

[WaterHemlock]

I spend most of my time alone. I used to enjoy it when it was only a small portion of my life.
These are some things I do- watch shows, eat, cook, clean, garden when it's not 20 below outside, go for walks. I cry a lot. I pray, I meditate.
I used to read but that's more difficult now.
I've joined online groups that meet on zoom or other platforms. I've met people on Meetup. I've joined support groups, ones in person and online. There's lots of 'anonymous' groups, you might find one you think fits. That's where I get a lot of my human contact these days. This is how I try to hang on.
I'm sorry your sad and lonely too.

 

[NeverReallyHere]

Being alone is like learning languages: it's much easier if you've been doing it since you were a kid.