Help Afraid to Live a Lonely Life

[phantomisgone]

I'm afraid that I'm going to live a lonely life.

2 weeks from now, I graduate from college. I will be on my own for a long time. I don't have a lot of close friends, I'm not as close with family and I tend to keep to myself. After giving it some thought, it's starting to get to me on how I will just be on my own for XX amounts of years. Paying my bills, going to work and trying to navigate the adult world.

Now I like being alone, but it's going to be a really... really... really long time that I will be in isolation. I'm projecting to at least 50 years. I don't know how I can manage that and that is what makes me terrified.

I have hobbies and I know of some people, but I it's the timespan that makes it scaryfor me.

Does anyone have any advice or tips for this? Anything helps.

 

[WastedPottential]

Trying to plan ahead and find local groups in your area can help, and getting out of your comfort zone and trying new things can lead to finding new people.

Know that it's harder said than done, but you can start slow. Look at places that may have social groups or activities based on your hobbies or goals that you wish to do.

Generally, when you grow up and try to go out there and make connections, some of it will be work-related, which is normal, the fear of the unknown is hard to do.

 

[usernamesarehard]

I think it's just because I'm pretty depressed right now, but this sounds kinda nice. I have a pretty huge family, so I'm never going to be truely alone. And right now the thought of dealing with people sounds miserable. Most of what I've gotten from people is heart break and rejection.

Anyway. To answer your question. Try talking to coworkers. I've met some cool people at work. I downloaded an app called meetup. That might be a good way to meet people.

If you're less worried about meeting people and more worried about the amount of time you'll be alone, you don't HAVE to stay home for long periods of time. There are definitely night events you could go to. *Assuming you live in/near a city. If you're looking for somewhere to go during the day maybe try a zoo if you live close to one. The yearly member passes are usually pretty cheap. I think the zoo near me charges like $100. Which if you're going everyday is a steal. This only works though if you're just looking to be around people.

If you like running there might be a running group near you. Tons of people love running in the morning.

 

[Hollowman]

Life's way too unpredictable to think you'll live 50 more years. So many things can kill a person.

 

[Forever Sleep]

The obvious answer is to try to ensure that you aren't entirely alone. Try to fix regular dates to see family and friends. Try to make new friends by joining clubs etc. It's not simple of course, by any means. It will take a lot of work too. Plus, it's horrible when other people are unreliable. That's just part of the course though- if you know it's something you need.

My friend used to tell me that the leisure/ social side of life required just as much work as working to build a career. As it happens, I prefer to be alone and I'm lucky in that I don't tend to get lonely. I do agree with her though. Everything in life requires effort.

My God mother used to get annoyed that it was always her doing all the organising but then, her friends were important to her. She knew that was necessary to put up with if she wanted to see them.

 

[darksouls]

you could borrow a dog in your free time
and take it for walks
that way you will get to know a lot of people