Discussion beauty is empty, and superficial, blackpill is stupid.

[overmorrow]

I see a lot of teenagers, going with this ideology of the blackpill, bullshit like that, it's funny how this generation of kids has somehow prioritized something as superficial as looks, over their comfort, and physical health

I don't think being sad about your physical appearance is a bad thing, not having confidence is fine, but making it your whole existence? so dissapointing

imagine how empty your life must be, if all you have is a pretty smile, it's so, so useless.

give me some thoughts, do looks matter that much, or their importance is exaggerated?

to find a partner you need everything, but not just looks, no, if you're stupid and speak/behave like a weirdo, nobody will like you regardless of how you look, i assume.

 

[woofwag]

I fucking hate "blackpill" content so much. Vast majority of it is teens/young adults bullying each other because they think being unattractive is a moral failing. They're so detached from reality, because irl looks don't matter that much. They can help you in certain ways ofc, but it's by no means necessary for a relationship or success. Literally when they deem someone's looks irredeemable, they basically tell them to kill themself via ropemaxxing. And ofc a lot of it ends up getting really racist too (I've seen quite a few "never mix" edits and eugh so nasty).

(random side note, but what does your profile tag mean?)

 

[ipmanwc0]

yeah I agree ideally looks shouldn't matter much or at all, but humans are wired to care about looks and society encourages it so I don't know that it'll ever change

 

[overmorrow]

I fucking hate "blackpill" content so much. Vast majority of it is teens/young adults bullying each other because they think being unattractive is a moral failing. They're so detached from reality, because irl looks don't matter that much. They can help you in certain ways ofc, but it's by no means necessary for a relationship or success. Literally when they deem someone's looks irredeemable, they basically tell them to kill themself via ropemaxxing. And ofc a lot of it ends up getting really racist too (I've seen quite a few "never mix" edits and eugh so nasty).

(random side note, but what does your profile tag mean?)

it's just another stupid trend, or ideology developed in the last years, it's heartbreaking to see kids, around 14-15 asking for advices and such, they're supposed, or at least should try to have fun, not get insecure because some online incels made fun of them.

yes, they help, but only to a certain extent.

killing yourself over your physical appearance is...well very weird xd, but i guess everyone has their curse, or damage, but it's so so superficial, we are more than a face

profile tag, you mean my bmi? that's just something out of habit, I spent a lot of time on mpa so it grew on me to post it, sort of

yeah I agree ideally looks shouldn't matter much or at all, but humans are wired to care about looks and society encourages it so I don't know that it'll ever change

probably not, it's whatever, there are bigger problems in life than a pimple or whatever

 

[Dejected 55]

Looks should not matter at all for friends, family, or co-workers. There's just no reason why it should.

But, for significant others... romantic relationships... it is going to matter. It doesn't have to mean perfection. Some people are very particular in ways that harm them and prevent them from connecting because they are too quick to throw away an opportunity over a perceived lack of beauty/handsomeness. I think that extreme is not healthy... but we like who we like... and physical attraction is a part of it, especially at first... and while we shouldn't demand or expect or even want "perfection" in appearance... I think it is fine to have preferences, reasonable preferences. I think it is also wise to allow yourself the possibility of getting to know someone and realizing that who they actually are, and not how they look, is far more important. Beautiful jerks are useless unless you just want to use people... ugly jerks are also useless... Good people, sincere people, consistent people, someone who shares common interests and personality quirks with you AND who also offers new things for you to learn and experience and who is interested in learning and experiencing with you... these are ultimately the things that bind people together. Looks can improve when you are happy... but also all looks will fade a bit to some degree as we age. If beauty is all you have to offer, you will disappoint people later... if beauty is all you seek, you will be disappointed too.

 

[violetforever]

give me some thoughts, do looks matter that much, or their importance is exaggerated?

i can't see why looks would matter outside of dating. i couldn't care less how somebody looks if we got along.

 

[dragonofenvy]

That's why I like talking to people over the internet. I know with absolute certainty that they're going to judge me for what I say, and nothing else. If I'm doing something wrong, I know that it's because of something I said, and it makes it much easier to fix. I don't have to play guessing games about what superficial characteristic might or might not be at fault. People do prejudge you for your appearance. How many times have you seen someone and judged them as creepy, threatening, or weird looking? Everyone does it, but most people aren't going to base someone's entire existence over a weird birth mark on your face, or assume that you're a terrible person because your hair isn't done perfectly. I think with the quantity of people who do think this way, I wonder if maybe body dysmorphia issues are on the rise, and that explains it.

 

[rainatthebusstop]

I mean what the hell do we expect from an ideology that flattens the entire human experience down to a "one size fits all" quadrant of physical looks and gender?

People who are blackpilled are usually disillusioned by the fact that they either will never fit into their communities beauty standard and will (in their minds) therefore get rejected or fit into their communities beauty standard and get rejected anyway (for to them unknowable reasons). Neither of these are true.
Most people out there don't care about your cantal tilt or their receded maxilla and they will in fact find you weird for bringing that up.
Most women aren't Beckys or Stacys or whatever the shallow caricatures the guys peddling this ideology are named. Women are not a hive mind as far as I can tell.