Discussion Are you a good person?

[VoidDesirer22]

It is tough to commit to a binary yes or no for such a question.

Overall, I'd have to say yes, as I did not have kids and was never very malicious to anybody. But I have had some concerning intentions sometimes.

 

[JustSwingingTheD]

Yes and no. There is no such thing as a truly good person in my opinion.

In my experience, Im quite empathic when it comes to the average human male, and this somewhat shows in my behaviour too. So i would say that yes, i'm a good person from that point of view.

However, this doesn't mean that the motives behind those actions of mine which in all probability would "matter" the most in the eyes of the general public would be altruistic by nature. This applies to everyone. You can be a "good" person by the standards i described above, and still fail in "being good".

 

[Dizzylady80]

I think I am. I've done some godawful things in the past, but over the past few years I've wanted nothing but the best for everyone, I've tried to dedicate my life to improving people's lives in any way I can and I feel like I've been relatively successful at that. I work with kids, and was trying to become a kindergarten teacher. I definitely didn't used to be a good person by any stretch of the imagination but I'd say most people would consider me to be good

 

[PaperGodzilla]

I don't know really, I would say no because I feel obsessed with the idea i may be a bad person when I fall in a bottomless pit of sadness, but in the other hand, I do my best to provide emotional support to my friends who need it and they thank me for that. I also (still) live in this world to try to be kind to people

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

I can be very kind and generous. But I'm a pretty weak human being and have done some questionable things in order to survive.

 

[DynamicDepression]

I was, a long time ago. Now I'm nothing but selfish and vile. I hate it so.

 

[Weebster]

I'm good to those who are good to me. If a person is bad to me once, then I generally refuse to be good to them again. I'm neutral toward absolute strangers.

 

[motel rooms]

I'm a grey character, not completely good but not spectacularly malignant.

We're all gray, whether we're able to admit it to ourselves or not. People who think they're incredibly good are as severely mentally ill as the spectacularly malignant fucks. In fact, many unbelievably toxic creeps believe they're spectacularly good.

 

[Cryptonite]

I dare to say I am. It gives me a great joy when people around me feel understood and empathized with. I also used to be a guy who is always throwing around some jokes, and I enjoyed people feeling comforted in my company. However, since my physical illness started to get really bad, I've grown so bitter that I conversely try to isolate myself as much as possible to spare other people from my bitterness, complaining and general sadness and anger.

 

[wellherewego]

No and yes, the duality of man

 

[YourNeighbor]

I'm not a bad person, but that alone doesn't make me a good one.

 

[ArcherFiles44]

Yes, I've been told this all my life. That's the ringer. Get taken advantage of, abused, and traumatized. What's the point?

 

[bored]

I have never been able to form any bond or affection for people in my life, maybe cause I've always had social phobia and socializing has always been humiliating, I used to have friends online but I started to feel like a an NPC, I just can't be good to anyone

 

[DarkFriend.]

There is no good and bad--only what is conducive to a given political state.

In my particular world view I am incapable of being either.

 

[grimmtheripper]

I try to be a good person, but yanno, Murphy's law and all that. I thought I was operating from a place of compassion, understanding, and kindness... But I've been told my presence alone does more harm than good.

 

[Judy Garland]

Are you?

 

[Hurt]

Yes but being a good person is not so good because some people take advantage of that.

 

[Shu]

*pulls out gun* "give me the nembutal!"

 

[yakoun]

I don't believe in "good" or "evil", but as far as the concepts go I'd definitely say that I'm not a good person. I used to think I was because of a lifetime of bullying and social ostracism/isolation, but in spite of all of that I became a vengeful little shit and it consumed my heart until there was nothing left but cancerous black tar. Might be the old self hatred talking, but I see myself as scum, total scum.

 

[magicalsarcoma]

it depends on what is called a good person.
I try to help people quite often. I mean, it's customary for me to provide for the needs of my loved ones, i donate to charitable organizations and people with diseases, feed stray cats. I would always help a person on the street if he got bad. I have stood up for weaker people.
But I'm pretty marginalized. I earn dishonestly, drug-addicted and i often make people sad when i talk about my worldview, I'm not able to appreciate what i have, I'm frivolous, i can be rude and not even notice it
So i would rather answer no

 

[LookingforAnswers]

Idk. I think i had a lot of "good" intentions. But probably was more selfish than selfless in a lot of decisions in my life. Rarely would i go out of my way for someone. I think i was very friendly and understanding and loving from a conversational standpoint. But actions speak louder than words after all

 

[TheBroken]

Not at all -

 

[Intelligent_Panic99]

No. Not at all.

 

[LastLoveLetter]

I don't claim to be a good person - I don't feel I have the right to decide if I'm objectively "good" or "bad", and I believe there are many shades of grey. However, I try my best.

I come from a long line of psychopathic, dangerous relatives. Members of my immediate family have killed and tortured animals, and sometimes other people too. The damage they have caused others - and me - cannot be quantified.

When I escaped, I made a vow to do everything in my power to never be like them, and to endeavour to do what I felt was right. I've gone down the wrong path many times, but I always try to get back on track and remember who it is I want to be before I die. I don't want to be someone who hurts others. I'd rather be the helping hand I never had.

 

[Dizzylady80]

I dare to say I am. It gives me a great joy when people around me feel understood and empathized with. I also used to be a guy who is always throwing around some jokes, and I enjoyed people feeling comforted in my company. However, since my physical illness started to get really bad, I've grown so bitter that I conversely try to isolate myself as much as possible to spare other people from my bitterness, complaining and general sadness and anger.

God I feel that. I'm trying so hard not to give in to bitterness, but the worse I get physically the harder it is to focus on the good things in this world. There's so much good everywhere, and it pains me so much to slowly feel myself losing the ability to see it

 

[Cryptonite]

God I feel that. I'm trying so hard not to give in to bitterness, but the worse I get physically the harder it is to focus on the good things in this world. There's so much good everywhere, and it pains me so much to slowly feel myself losing the ability to see it

Exactly!! "There's so much good everywhere, and it pains me so much to slowly feel myself losing the ability to see it." I feel absolutely the same.

That's why I feel so much relieved with the idea of CTB. On one hand, we won't feel the pain related to missing out on the good stuff, on the other hand, other people won't feel our bitterness. Win win strategy.

Every single time I wake up, I remind myself how wonderful it was to not feel that I'm missing out on things and hope to fall asleep again ASAP. It's just so painful... my peers are out there having fun, hanging out, travelling, doing sports, and I'm stuck here in bed? Such suffering...

 

[lyles]

I don't really believe someone can be a good or bad person. We are all capable of immense kindness and cruelty. Each of us just are making the best choices we can each day.

 

[Hirokami]

Depends on what "good" or "bad" entails. I don't intentionally bring harm to others and I try to be generous. Though I'm also vexing, angry, burdensome, and even reckless at times. I guess morality-wise I'm not too bad, but I could be a lot better quality-wise.

 

[Judy Garland]

No

 

[nopride86]

I thought I was but idk anymore. Would a good person rather ctb than take care of their (narc) aging mother? Would a good person make that same mother feel alone and unwanted even if they don't ctb by going no contact?
Would a good person have a shit dull life of their own fault and then resent everyone around them for it?
I hate this person I've become. I used to be genuinely kind and pleasant, now I feel like a phoney just trying to survive another day with a smile plastered on my face. I used to smile at strangers and have empathy, now I feel nothing and do nothing.