Help Apologizing better

[Aphid]

I've been trying to reach out to those ive wronged and truly find self forgiveness. I'm really struggling to find the words to say. I apologize but it always falls flat and never comes out like i want it. Any tips :(?

 

[MrHappyFace]

Use a kind approach.

 

[yearned]

someone once told me the only real apology is changed behavior. you can apologize verbally but it wont get others to forgive you if you haven't changed your behavior. plus, you're speaking about self-forgiveness and apologies simultaneously, these are very different. i don't know how to find self forgiveness. good luck !

 

[SomeDude]

If I was in your position I would first write a letter. This way you can really think about the words and how you want it to sound and then you could either practice that letter with the pronouncitation or scrap that talking part altogether if your not good in such things. You could just give them the letter.

I think the main problem is how someone sounds when saying things. I can call a friend an asshole and depending on the tone of my voice he will take it as a joke or as an insult. In the past I tried to apologize to my mother for a few things but then I couldnt contain my anger and it always came out wrong...

Writing them a letter is definetly an option and is probably the better method to tell them what you want to say, however I also would say the more often you try to apologize in person the better you will get at it. Also its more connecting and personal.
But writing a letter is also a good start if youre not confident enough yet :)

Oh and by the way, I'm talking about a real handwritten letter, not a text message (°-c °