Maravillosa

Maravillosa

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57F here, never married, no kids. After Mom (84, completely bedbound, has dementia) dies, I suspect I will be pretty much alone. I intend to complete and publish at least one novel, but... Ah well!
 
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DefinitelyReady

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Feel 33 going on 53...
 
davidtorez

davidtorez

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Turned 43 the other week. The thought of my degenerative joints getting worse and worse has me in utter dread of the future . The only thing I can think of that I'd want if I reach 50 is a membership with exit international to make it possibly easier to ctb. Aging is a curse on humanity . There's literally nothing good about aging no matter how anyone tries sugar coating it
 
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Turned 43 the other week. The thought of my degenerative joints getting worse and worse has me in utter dread of the future . The only thing I can think of that I'd want if I reach 50 is a membership with exit international to make it possibly easier to ctb. Aging is a curse on humanity . There's literally nothing good about aging no matter how anyone tries sugar coating it

I've always regarded wisdom as the benefit of age. I might be wrong.
 
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I've always regarded wisdom as the benefit of age. I might be wrong.
That would apply probably to a select few. The trade off's for a bit of wisdom for everything else that goes downhill is hardly worth it to me. It's the classic optimism bias and polly Anna effect that we as humans are subject to when it comes to evaluating our lives
 
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pain6batch9

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That would apply probably to a select few. The trade off's for a bit of wisdom for everything else that goes downhill is hardly worth it to me. It's the classic optimism bias and polly Anna effect that we as humans are subject to when it comes to evaluating our lives

True. But without wisdom, no evaluation takes place at all.
 
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Ashu

novelist, sanskritist, Canadian living in India
Nov 13, 2021
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57F here, never married, no kids. After Mom (84, completely bedbound, has dementia) dies, I suspect I will be pretty much alone. I intend to complete and publish at least one novel, but... Ah well!
I too console myself with novel writing.
 
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dust-in-the-wind

dust-in-the-wind

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Turned 43 the other week. The thought of my degenerative joints getting worse and worse has me in utter dread of the future . The only thing I can think of that I'd want if I reach 50 is a membership with exit international to make it possibly easier to ctb. Aging is a curse on humanity . There's literally nothing good about aging no matter how anyone tries sugar coating it
I've seen quotes about growing old being a privilege. But you are right, it is a curse. But aside from that, collagen protein helps my BF who has degenerative joints. He is in much less pain and he is 61 now.
 
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I've seen quotes about growing old being a privilege. But you are right, it is a curse. But aside from that, collagen protein helps my BF who has degenerative joints. He is in much less pain and he is 61 now.
Yeah I've been taking all the supplements you can think of now. Collagen , tumeric, expensive growth hormone injections and peptides. It all worked as placebo at best or didn't work at all. We start losing Collagen after the age of 30, but I did most of the damage to myself in my youth being overactive. You look great for your age by the way . It can be deceiving, people tell me I look good for my age too but have no idea what's going on inside.
 
dust-in-the-wind

dust-in-the-wind

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Yeah I've been taking all the supplements you can think of now. Collagen , tumeric, expensive growth hormone injections and peptides. It all worked as placebo at best or didn't work at all. We start losing Collagen after the age of 30, but I did most of the damage to myself in my youth being overactive. You look great for your age by the way . It can be deceiving, people tell me I look good for my age too but have no idea what's going on inside.
My BF was also an over active athlete in his youth. He also takes msm and hyuralonic acid. You may not think it is helping but it could help you not get any worse.
 
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My BF was also an over active athlete in his youth. He also takes msm and hyuralonic acid. You may not think it is helping but it could help you not get any worse.
Maybe. I haven't tried hyaluronic acid though. Does he take that in pill form? I know there are injections for that too
 
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dust-in-the-wind

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Maybe. I haven't tried hyaluronic acid though. Does he take that in pill form? I know there are injections for that too
Yes pill form. You can get it on amazon.
 
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greebo6

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Sep 11, 2020
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Old age is scarier the closer you get to it. Its a bleak lonely prospect if you know you will have nothing and nobody .
I have nothing to look forward to except just more of the same but with all the added difficulties ,sorrows and sadness that inevitably go with getting older.
I'd much rather go before that. I've been around for long enough now. I hope against hope I can somehow find the courage and opportunity to actually cbt .
 
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Lookingtoflyfree

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Jan 11, 2024
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early 50s F and wish I had people to talk to - i am one foot in this board and the other foot in the Recovery board. I am very torn and feel like if I had social connections it would help me keep the momentum up for CTB. I just wish I had someone who understood me. I don't need lots of people. But right now being alone is devastating.
 
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early 50s F and wish I had people to talk to - i am one foot in this board and the other foot in the Recovery board. I am very torn and feel like if I had social connections it would help me keep the momentum up for CTB. I just wish I had someone who understood me. I don't need lots of people. But right now being alone is devastating.
Not to sound paternalistic and vapid like much of societies infection of therapy culture / 'wellness' / etc. I think some of the emotions and difficulties you are experiencing are because of your (our) age - quite simply I have felt like this my entire life due to not having been adequately socialised in my youth and have suffered similarly by loneliness and therefore a lack of emotional and social stability to embark upon a 'proper life' where I felt belonging, a solid sense of identity and ready to be able to take advantage of the few opportunities or the strength and insight to have generated them - I think most middle age people currently on this board would have experienced some type of neglect from the indifference shown towards us by our parents due to their own shortcoming of their upbringing this in itself might have been exacerbated by their transition to or from the middle class when we were being reared or through our pre-adult years. The problem is we're old enough to have made some in roads into employment and a normal life course but quite simply too young to have 'made it' through this increasingly infantilising and agist society. Though it is something that will never be sanctioned for a whole host of reasons I think legally provided euthanasia should be available from the age of 50 though we all know that most heavy lifting of earning, tax paying and child rearing, family management occurs leading up to this age and up to the late 50s so there is little hope we would ever be let off the hook nevermind the very policy makers are worlds away from this social and economic reality - no one ever tells you about how terrible things can get nevermind the lack of meaningful options and deficit of support available. I would say inequality of opportunity accelerates into mid-life just as culpability for everything is heaped upon you for no rational or justifiable reason other than 'you should have known better'.
 

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