Discussion Anyone else don't want a funeral?

[western_heart]

No. I know how anxious I would be to attend something like a funeral and I would not want to subject anyone else to that. I don't like formal events in general.

 

[Achlys]

I do not want to be remembered. It is relieving that whatever memory of me lingers will fade with time.

 

[pleiades]

I do not want a funeral. I hate attention. I hate what my family would say about my mental illness during a funeral for a suicide. I'm sure a few may organize a memorial upon their own initiative, but it is not my wish. My partner's family never had funerals - only cremation and private spreading of the ashes. I prefer that. Or composting actually, since that is a newly available carbon-neutral alternative that seems consistent with my ashes-to-ashes, dust-to-dust, circle-of-life, doing-good-in-the-world beliefs. I doubt my chosen method of ctb would leave viable organs and I'm ok with that. The human race is a scourge upon the earth. I feel sorry for people who don't want to die, but those are my morals and I will not give them my organs unless I die in an unexpected manner that leaves them viable.

 

[Nlis2244]

I wouldn't want it. I want to be cremated and the ashes dispersed. In any case I don't have any friends, and I don't want to force anyone that just knows me to come to a funeral just for appereance.

 

[MicropBaldCurrycel]

id been such a do nothing loser in life there wouldnt be anything to talk about or remember about me.

Funerals are usually memorials and to celebrate a persons life and talk about their achievments and likes etc.

mine would be the quickest most pointless one lol.

 

[Musketeer]

I would like my body to be with nature, giving all the animals, plants, fungi, and other life a good feast.
As i have taken from the earth, so must i give back to the earth.
Why be worm food when all the creatures of the earth could feed on me.

 

[ollo]

My funeral would be so lonely, my body and my immediate family. I would prefer complete annihilation, turn into dust and forgotten forever....

 

[greyhound]

Yeah same. Well I partly bc it would be semi pathetic.. I'm not in my hometown so not many people would know me or have anything to say. My family is scattered around the world so it's not like I'd want to make them all attend. Honestly the idea of putting my relatives in a position of feeling they had to do a funeral sort of feaks me out.

Plus if I CTB it will be more awk I think. Like they really didn't want to be here with you. Now think of something nice to say about them.

My grandfather just had an ash scattering thing by a few of his kids. Seems like that's enough.

 

[MementoMori81]

Funeral? Nahhh, not for me. I don't want money wasted on such a thing and in my opinion they're not a last goodbye - in life is the time for being open and saying goodbye.
I've suggested - to those closest to me - one of those simple cremation things where no one attends and then my ashes get sent to the people of my choosing, so that they can spread them where they deem fit. People can then opt to celebrate my life in whichever way they see fit once I'm gone.

I think that'll do quite nicely.

 

[JinnDX]

I couldn't care less what ppl do with my body

 

[lymestolemylife]

I do not want one. No one helped me when i needed help they don't deserve it.

 

[lofticries]

If I could just be erased from everyone's mind along with any recording of my existence that'd be gucci af.

 

[butterfly🦋]

If I could just be erased from everyone's mind along with any recording of my existence that'd be gucci af.

I feel the exact same way

 

[Lost in a Dream]

Think a lot of the time, they need 'fresh meat' for organ transplant- so- they would need to be able to find you quickly... I guess any type of drug/substance poisoning could also ruin some of the major organs.

I guess I didn't think of that, but it makes sense. It still seems like it would be better to judge whether the organs can be reused on a case by case basis, depending on the method of suicide used, and whether or not the person was found early enough. Maybe that is what actually happens anyway, but the idea of refusing to use organs by default, merely because suicide was the cause of death, wouldn't make any sense if the organs were still good.

When I was younger, I wanted my funeral to be Mexican Day of the Dead themed. Fancy dress compulsory- everyone to dress like a skeleton- I've always liked skeletons... With some sort of Goth running the service. Don't like the traditional religious service. I even thought about putting it in my will/list of wishes.

Weirdly, I would say I was an introvert, so it wouldn't have been all that fitting- although I suppose I wouldn't be alive to feel embarrassed about it.

Now, I want nothing. Want my death- whatever the cause to be as less inconvenient as possible. Unlikely to have any close family by that point and lost touch with nearly everyone else, so don't want people to feel obliged to do anything.

Always loved water, so cremated and scattered in the sea I guess would be ideal- although flushing down the loo probably gets there in the end.

I like the idea of having everyone dress like a skeleton. That would be an interesting idea for a funeral, as well as being cremated and scattered in the ocean. I can totally relate to wanting nothing now, since feeling the way we do, it's hard to care about what happens after we're gone since we just want out in general.

Maybe planning out our own funerals would be more fun if we knew we could be there as a spirit, before going off to some other dimension (if that is what happens), but if we die and that's the end of it, then we wouldn't be able to appreciate it at all.

 

[nopride86]

Ugh I do not want a funeral, I cringe at the thought of it. Hella cringe. If embarrassment alone could kill I'd be dead twice.

Only 3 people would show up, two of which play big role in my wish to ctb. It would just be another narcissistic supply for them, reveling in the attention from anyone within earshot.
The 3rd person deserves better than to witness their display.

But I really want my bones donated to a university. I remember the first time I held a human scull with my bare hands (I studied osteology in college) it was so humbling and contemplative. I loved academia. That's assuming I don't resort to a headshot, of course.

 

[FatalSystemError591]

I'd rather not have a funeral or memorial, I want my body donated to science.

I don't want my abusers crying over my body acting like they gave a damn.

But I'm not going to CTB, I'm not going to do that to my gf. I don't want her to see another death of someone she loves.

 

[WorthlessTrash]

I do not want a memorial service of any kind. My life and ecistence is not worth celebrating in any compacty. I have do e nothing useful with my life and have suffered through dysphoria. My life just is not worth it.

 

[hellispink]

I don't want a funeral. I dont even attend them. They make me horrendously anxious and uncomfortable. I feel like the dead deserve privacy and respect and there is other ways to cherish our memories with them. If I had to prepare what to do with a close family member, I wouldn't give them a funeral either. I believe people should morn privately. That is just my look at it. No need to gather and have all that hypocrisy and even if their well thoughts are honest, it is just a tortured to be put on to anyone. I never had friends and my "family" and me have always had a horrible relationship. I think it would be way too fake for them to be crying and saying I was good person, like come on. Luckily for me, my family do not have choice but to cremate me because it is cheaper and they are not financially stable. I

 

[Hirokami]

I prefer my organs getting donated tbh. As someone who lives relatively straight edge, I'm sure there's a kidney or two that someone could use. Funerals cost way too much; I'd rather that few people who do give a shit about me use that money better themselves. Besides, I don't know that many people, so it'd be thousands of dollars for just four or five people (at best) to attend.

 

[PrincessInWhite]

I want whatever will make my loved ones happy. I am fine either way in terms of a funeral. I do hope there will be a space where people can gather and share photos and memories of me when I'm gone, probably Facebook or some shit. I know I won't be here so it won't matter, but it gives me comfort nonetheless.

 

[Trilucid]

I always wanted cremation. So much for that wish though.

 

[Messgram]

I never saw the point in saying goodbye to a body

 

[befree]

I want my ashes scattered or buried in the forest.

 

[Sobreviviente]

I would like to be cremated, see no point in funeral.

 

[KQuotientW]

No funeral. They don't care about me when I'm living. Those pizzas of chit don't deserve a little ceremony where they pretend they cared, even if they did show up. Wish I could donate my body to science since I have rarely understood, genetic, degenerative disability. No doubt, my body will be autopsied or carved up for a coroner's report. Maybe whatever is savable can go to science since it affects every part of my body. Some future doctors could learn about what I have and actually help others with the same thing (instead of shrugging their shoulders when a new patient comes in, asking for help). Funerals are for the living, anyway. If any insists on a funeral for me, they must play, Am I Ever Gonna See Your Face Again, by the Angels, on repeat. The uncensored version.

 

[Hangnail]

No, I wouldn't want a funeral. They didn't honor me in life and I wouldn't want to give them the opportunity to make themselves feel better by doing it in death, when it doesn't affect me.

Funerals are also expensive and I wouldn't want the cost wasted on me. I'm intentionally trying to save money already so my family can use my funds, even though I hate them.

 

[LastFlowers]

I've put in my will that I would appreciate not having a funeral service after I CTB. I hate being the center of attention and I would prefer to just pass away and into obscurity. Ideally, I would like to die and be forgotten about.

I'm not close to most of my relatives who would inevitably be invited and I'd rather not have people I don't know cry crocodile tears because of my passing. I'm also an atheist (actually agnostic, but for all intents and purposes, I'm an atheist) and really don't want some priest talking about how I'm "with God now" or how I "became an angel". If there is a God, I'm going to be pretty angry with Him.

Anyway, those are my feelings on the matter. How do all of you feel? Will you have a funeral?

I feel pretty much the same way you do.

 

[blue_muse]

I'm in similar circumstances to many in this thread. I'm not too bothered about a funeral. If there was one I suppose the joke would be on those who drove me to suicide - all the chaos and money involved .

 

[Graytaichi]

No i would like my body be cremated and then ashes scattered to the river. By thr time i ctb my body would be decomposed and no time for funeral. I dont like see people and like to be a freeman from this horrific world. Plus it puts less burden on people i loved.

 

[Euthanza]

Me too, I used to think doing some goods for others as form legacy some what like donating organs or a pledge for social betterment, not anymore, now I don't think it's necessary, I've seen enough, it's just awful to see how I'm gonna end with current legal system, so thanks but no, this is troubling more than enough for me, why would I be so kind to the society that's hard on my end? disappearance is the best, fuck 'em rituals and be gone forever.